CitizenCane
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote:
ORIGINAL: CitizenCane Well, as you say, that would be a lame excuse for you. Not everyone plays this game by the same rules, and for some, working the power dynamic from the get go is the way to establish a solid relationship- the kind they want. That's the problem, this isn't a game, this is a relationship. If you want to play games IN a relationship, that's fine, but doing it during the courting/initial phase is not the way to go. quote:
The internet has made a lot of mating interactions rather more cerebral than they used to be, and I don't think this has necessarily improved things. Especially in D/s, the power dynamic is pretty key to a relationship- seeing how it works early on isn't completely irrational. It might not be nice, but not everyone is looking for nice. That's AFTER it's been established. quote:
Your last sentence 'smacks' of projection. I didn't see anything in the OP about making anything her 'fault'. I don't see anything in the OP about him letting her know he's going to test or try and build her submission either. It's fairly wild speculation on your part, which I then responded to. Personally, I think he's just lost interest and doesn't want things to go on. There are so many ways to establish a D/s dynamic withOUT eroding trust/being rude/being non-committal/being inconsistent. Resorting to such tactics IMO shows a lack of understanding of relationship dynamics. Not sure why one set of speculations is more wild than another here, although I do think it's statistically the safe bet to assume that people are either jerks or idiots, or both. The OP, however, has some reason to believe otherwise about this particular individual, and crediting her perception is not any more wild than dismissing it. Being as how the Tao that can be described is not the real Tao, it seems to me that the dom in question might well be simply doing rather than talking. The fact of the OP indicates he's had some effect, and it's pretty much impossible to say, on the basis of the info available, whether it's one he wants or anticipated, or not. All I'm saying is it's a little early to call the election. Wait for a few more precincts to report.
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