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fluffyswitch -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:59:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CyberDom08 quote: ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama quote: ORIGINAL: CyberDom08 My question is who are you trying to convince??? I'm neither a sub nor a newbie, but I'll answer the question. Who are we trying to convince? Everyone. It's public communication, it's directed at a wide audience. A person's profile can mention his/her partner and their happiness together for any number of reasons. This is a partial list, and people can post "glorifying" journal entries for any combination of these reasons and others: 1) Most people are not able to discuss their BDSM relationships and the joy they have in their partners with their vanilla families and friends. Sometimes CM and other on-line communities are the only outlet they have for expressing their excitement, happiness, and pleasure in finding someone who actually understands their emotional and sexual needs. In this respect, they babble about their loved ones here for the same reason that people who have fallen in love babble about their new love anywhere--because they're finally happy and they want the whole world to know it! 2) CM is a community site to some degree, but it's also a site for people seeking sexual partners. Mentioning your partner in a positive light and making it clear that you are committed and happy in your relationship helps to keep unwanted suitors at bay. Since I collared my own boy and put a clear mention of it in my profile, I get a lot less mail from submissives seeiking partners; the only people who approach me inappropriately these days are people who have not read my profile. 3) Showing commitment in public is reassuring to your partner and helps to ease any fears, suspicions, and doubts that could ultimately erode or destroy the relationship. Being openly committed and "taken" helps to reaffirm the trust in a monogamous relationship; at the very least, mentioning that you're happy and not-looking on CM makes you less likely to be able to use CM as a place to cheat. 4) Writing posts, journal entries or blogs about your D/S partner and your relationship is an art form. It's one part love letter, one part sexual seduction, one part meditation, one part D/S exercise. A lot of dominants order their submissives to keep a "Submissive Journal" outright, so that they can read it and gain greater insight and control. Thank you, Although I agree that you are correct, there are some aspects that I do not agree with. I would never question someone's right to maintain and keep a public journal but would question the motivation. I would say that the insecure have responded negatively to my query but the secure one's reply positively. Anyone agree?? (Why start now??) and i think you would be wrong about the insecurity issue. i personally don't care what people think about my journal whether it be here, livejournal, or anywhere else. what i take issue with, and what i think other people take issue with, is people implying that there is something wrong with what i do or do not post in my journal. that being said i don't write a lot of drippy posts. i'm not a drippy happy person. but your mileage will vary.

metalmiss -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:08:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CyberDom08 I would never question someone's right to maintain and keep a public journal but would question the motivation. I would say that the insecure have responded negatively to my query but the secure one's reply positively. Anyone agree?? (Why start now??) And this from a "person" quite obviously so far up his own arse that he needs to be shipped daylight.. "Anyone agree??" - Seeking validation are we? Isn't that a sign of insecurity? - Pot - Kettle - Black..

Lynnxz -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:15:14 PM)
quote: I would say that the insecure have responded negatively to my query but the secure one's reply positively. Anyone agree?? (Why start now??) I would say the insecure have issues seeing other dominants portrayed positively.

Leatherist -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:19:49 PM)
fr It really sucks to read something-and realize you cannot possibly measure up-doesn't it?

RavenMuse -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:39:04 PM)
Perchance the insecurity the OP seems to want to project onto other maybe stem from his own insecuritys about being 'cyber' and not able to measure upto those doing this for REAL? Just a thought[;)] When My girl has had a particularly good time, she is often rather up about it and, given We are both part of a real life comunity which has a common meeting place here on the net (Not CM), she enjoys sharing those by way of journal.... and the harm is? What 'motivation' is needed other than a happy girl? Some law I've never heard of that says only emo's can blog? I know that when I read blogs from friends of Mine where they have had a particularly good time it always gives Me a lift of spirits to read it and am glad they shared. The only insecurity I see around here is from the OP... and he wants only people with less than 500 posts to respond... LOL sunshine, the only thing you control here is yourself... unless you set up your own site then you are in no position to dictate to anyone wether they respond or not... get over yourself.

BitaTruble -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:42:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CyberDom08 I have browsed through many profiles of subs and I see a re occuring theme. Why do subs feel the need to tell the entire collar community about the great things that go on between themselves and their Doms?? Have you ever tried to supress your pain? Eventually you cry. Try to keep saddness at bay and see how well you do. Joy is the same way. It will find its way to the surface and bubble out in some manner. For many of us, that manner takes the form of writing and because it, at times, is so overwhelming, you just want the whole word to know of it. Note, please, that I said 'want', not need. You won't see me write many things of a negative nature in regards to the relationship I share with Himself - first, because there are not that many negatives and second, throwing dirty laundry on the front lawn isn't my style. There are more than enough threads and such on the forums which turn into train wrecks to satisfy those with a blood lust. I don't need to add to the fray in my public journal.

peppermint -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:45:50 PM)
quote: I would never question someone's right to maintain and keep a public journal but would question the motivation. I would say that the insecure have responded negatively to my query but the secure one's reply positively. Anyone agree?? (Why start now So now i not only have to worry about what i post to my journal....but i also have to think about my motivation to post it before i should do so. Hmmmmm..... Now..am i posting this to just see my pixels on the internet, or am i posting because i have nothing else to do today, or am i posting because i have something important to say, or am i posting because i need to get to my next forum ranking, or am i posting because my Dom is the best in the world, or am i posting because my turtle died????? I would have to disagree. Many who posted negatively are very secure in their relationships. What they question is why you are so insecure as to being offended by reading journals that praise a partner. Why is it so difficult for you to click off a journal that offends your sensitivities and move on to the next? Those you probably think agreed with you merely did not question your own motivation to bitch about others' personal journals. Perhaps you wish to scrutinize others' motivations while your own motivation does not come under questioning.

RCdc -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 12:53:16 PM)
I know, we are over 500 posts, but it is an interesting subject. I don't keep a blog here, I do not seperate my life persay, but I can see why people might wish to exclaim their desires for their dominants in a blog because they may have no other outlet to express their emotions. The cynic in me also is wary of perfection in blogs - I know many people use blogs as a tool - insisting their s-types keep one as a kind of journal. Like I say, I am a little cynical at some of these - if you cannot talk face to face... I will totally admit I can be enamoured and a little infatuated with Darcy. So although I do not keep a blog here, obviously my posts resonate a certain amount of bliss and to be quite honest - if I didn't - sometimes it is almost as though I may burst. Happiness can do that - just like dissappointment or pain or anger - there can be a need to express it. But there are 'downdays' too and we certainly are not without difficulties - I don't necessarily have a need to post questions when I have a problem however, because I have the ability and feel comfortable talking to Darcy and things get sorted between us. Much of it is common sense really. Maybe thats is a reason for others also? I don't know if it is always about convincing anyone for everyone, sometimes it is just a way to release emotion and sometimes it is carthartic. the.dark.

stella41b -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:27:44 PM)
There are Doms on this site, there are femslaves There are submissives, and switches and then There are those who claim to be Gorean But I've never been one of them I'm a sub called a Stella And have been ever since I was born And the reason why I come to this website Is to have a laugh with subs and Doms You don't have to write a good journal You don't have to post less than five hundred You don't have to search here much To find entertainment on these threads Because Every post is sacred Every post is great But post over five hundred A Dom gets quite irate Every post is sacred Every post is great But post over five hundred A Dom gets quite irate Let the regulars start threads And post in their thousands A Dom shall make them pay For not following his command Every post is wanted Every post is good But go above five hundred A Dom must prove his manhood He wants no glorification of Doms In journals found anywhere But those who post above five hundred This Dom claims he doesn't care Every post is sacred Every post is great But post above five hundred And this Dom gets quite irate Every post is sacred Every post is good He wants to know of journals It would please his manhood Every post is useful Every post is fine He insults everybody's Mine, and mine, and mine Let everyone make more postings Over five hundred without a doubt Maybe with more postings This Dom will finally chill out Every post is sacred Every post is good He needs jorunal entries To please his manhood Every post is sacred Every post is great But post above five hundred This Dom gets quite irate inspired by Monty Python..

subtee -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:30:04 PM)
Hahahahahahahaha! Ah, Stella

fluffyswitch -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:32:20 PM)
omg....i really needed that right now...rofl

xxblushesxx -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:42:11 PM)
Quick Hijack: (sorry) FRS: don't you think that punishing your sub/slave for having feelings and expressing those feelings is kind of counter-intuitive? Or punishing her so much that she would have cried so much she can't even go in to work? This never would have been an issue here, because HM would have talked over going with me (which I would have happily encouraged, btw), but, he probably wouldn't have brought home pictures because he would know that would possibly upset me. (ok, probably upset me) It just seems to me that this is a break-down in communication, and fixing it by basically guaranteeing less truthful communication in the future won't work out well for ya. (and jealousy is an emotion...it affects some more than others. Perhaps you could be a bit more empathetic.)

xxblushesxx -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:46:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz So what happens when YOU get to 500 posts? Something like this? [sm=anger.gif] Duh. (dum dum da daaaa!!!) CYBERDOM09!!! Coming Soon to a Post Near You!!!

kittinSol -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:47:24 PM)
Stella, is your poem to be sung along the melody of 'Every Sperm Is Sacred' (Monty Python)? Admiringly.

chickpea -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:51:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CyberDom08 I have browsed through many profiles of subs and I see a re occuring theme. Why do subs feel the need to tell the entire collar community about the great things that go on between themselves and their Doms?? It is like the family newsletter where the part about Uncle Joe getting a DWI and Aunt Sarah banging the pizza delivery boy are conveniently left out. I have seen too many times, people expressing how perfect their relationship is, how deeply they love, how they found the perfect soul mate and three months later, they are saying the same thing about someone else. My question is who are you trying to convince??? Please if you have over 500 post's do not reply, I would like some fresh insight. Maybe they're trying to convince themselves or their doms, by speaking in front of a community that they don't know personally. I'm not saying this is true all the time.... maybe I'm wrong... but I've noticed that those that are more concerned with showing off like wedding or posts tend to concentrate less effort in the relationship, and maybe that's why the relationship might suffer more? Or maybe it actually is true, and they are just overbubbling with joy and want to share the good news to people who've shared other ideas etc online? You know, girl thing? Or, their dom made them do it...? I'd rather read about happy stuff, than doms murdering subs. But yeah, if it's not true that can be annoying, and then it's like weird, and then you ignore them... lol.

CyberDom08 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 1:54:13 PM)
You make assumtions from a simple question asked as to why a person publishes Are all the replies masked Collarme is full of people of every type Some very low key while other love the hype People post a thousand times and oft have little to say criticizing others ideas Is how they pass the day Some are honest Others incitefull Some are gruff and angy Others often delightfull When this one asked to give some others a chance to post on his simple question the paddles did their dance Kittn and Cali and don't forget Stella The guy who insulted my mother Such an childish fella My question posed Abuse returned Unless your kissing up to the subs your ass is getting burned Everyone is a psycholgist Everyone a shrink All have opinions and breath Both of which stink So members all, we are share A not so common group Like so many letters floating in your soup No anger have I, what is the use this is a cyber format Say something contraversial and be treated like a doormat Read and learn Learn and read I am hearing few answers but many excuses indeed In this 15 minutes that I spend writing this poem Is time better spent It's friday, let's go home

chickpea -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 2:00:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CyberDom08 You make assumtions from a simple question asked as to why a person publishes blah blah blah blah blah blah In this 15 minutes that I spend writing this poem Is time better spent It's friday, let's go home UMMM so what's you're point? please answer in english, not poetry...

RedMagic1 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 2:05:27 PM)
That's really good for fifteen minutes. Totally not kidding. If you can figure out how not to sound like a 14-year-old when you ask questions, you will be able to attract quality people -- both male and female, both friends and sexual partners.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 2:05:51 PM)
Nah, the poetry was not as bad as some I've read. (I've read some REALLY bad poetry) He just needs to work on rythym and sound... The part that bothered me is that he said he got 'excuses' and not answers. I respectfully disagree. The other part that bothered me is that my name wasn't in it...cries ETA: nm about adding my name to it. After I posted this I started thinking about words that rhyme with blushes. nm...

SinfulSaint -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 2:09:54 PM)
I don't post here...but I have had to write elsewhere in my times in the lifestyle I am single now, but in the past was told to write about a particular scene for humiliation reasons. Knowing someone else was going to read it. I am sure there are many many reasons tho. Like they have all " vanilla " friends/family...and just have to talk to someone about what they are doing..and they feel safe doing so here....who knows...but whatever floats someone's boat...so be it.....as long as it doesnt hurt others ( like kids, animals, balh blah blah)

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