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fluffyswitch -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 9:54:12 AM)


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ORIGINAL: CyberDom08

Intelligent answers require intelligent people. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting someone's mother, please. Do you feel like a big man now???



you have yet to post something on this thread that hasn't been aggressive or rude so i'm not sure why you think other people won't reply the same in turn.



akisha -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:06:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch


quote:

ORIGINAL: CyberDom08

Intelligent answers require intelligent people. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting someone's mother, please. Do you feel like a big man now???





you have yet to post something on this thread that hasn't been aggressive or rude so i'm not sure why you think other people won't reply the same in turn.



Remember, school lets out early in some districts. Summer bordom may have already set in.



christine1 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:07:16 AM)

OP, why do you care what people write in their journals?  it is THEIR journal, if you don't like it then don't read it.   geesh, now people want us to start accomodating them in our personal journals? 



Maya2001 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:09:48 AM)

sub frenzy
orry need to see what my post count was 




fluffyswitch -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:11:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: akisha

quote:

ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch


quote:

ORIGINAL: CyberDom08

Intelligent answers require intelligent people. How old are you?? Ten?? Insulting someone's mother, please. Do you feel like a big man now???





you have yet to post something on this thread that hasn't been aggressive or rude so i'm not sure why you think other people won't reply the same in turn.



Remember, school lets out early in some districts. Summer bordom may have already set in.


well i can understand that completely lol. i'm at that point myself. semester ended a month ago and i don't start work till the 23rd....it's almost painful.



cpK69 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:11:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CyberDom08

My question is who are you trying to convince???


In the past, when I had something about who I was own by in my journal, it was more about the feelings I have being submissive, then the one I was with; but attributed to them because they were who I was with when I had those feelings.
 
Not to belittle the Doms part in it, only that more then one person is able to make me feel that way.



ShaktiSama -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:15:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CyberDom08
My question is who are you trying to convince???


I'm neither a sub nor a newbie, but I'll answer the question.  Who are we trying to convince?  Everyone.  It's public communication, it's directed at a wide audience.

A person's profile can mention his/her partner and their happiness together for any number of reasons.  This is a partial list, and people can post "glorifying" journal entries for any combination of these reasons and others:

1)  Most people are not able to discuss their BDSM relationships and the joy they have in their partners with their vanilla families and friends.  Sometimes CM and other on-line communities are the only outlet they have for expressing their excitement, happiness, and pleasure in finding someone who actually understands their emotional and sexual needs.  In this respect, they babble about their loved ones here for the same reason that people who have fallen in love babble about their new love anywhere--because they're finally happy and they want the whole world to know it!

2)  CM is a community site to some degree, but it's also a site for people seeking sexual partners.  Mentioning your partner in a positive light and making it clear that you are committed and happy in your relationship helps to keep unwanted suitors at bay.  Since I collared my own boy and put a clear mention of it in my profile, I get a lot less mail from submissives seeiking partners; the only people who approach me inappropriately these days are people who have not read my profile.

3)  Showing commitment in public is reassuring to your partner and helps to ease any fears, suspicions, and doubts that could ultimately erode or destroy the relationship.  Being openly committed and "taken" helps to reaffirm the trust in a monogamous relationship; at the very least, mentioning that you're happy and not-looking on CM makes you less likely to be able to use CM as a place to cheat.

4) Writing posts, journal entries or blogs about your D/S partner and your relationship is an art form.  It's one part love letter, one part sexual seduction, one part meditation, one part D/S exercise.  A lot of dominants order their submissives to keep a "Submissive Journal" outright, so that they can read it and gain greater insight and control.



akisha -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:32:24 AM)

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Remember, school lets out early in some districts. Summer bordom may have already set in.


well i can understand that completely lol. i'm at that point myself. semester ended a month ago and i don't start work till the 23rd....it's almost painful.



LOL fluffy, i meant highschool or middleschool.  Every time there is a school holiday or break the volume of retarded threads increases.

Poor latchkey kids get bored and sit on the computer.



metalmiss -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:33:47 AM)

cyber(wouldbe)dom08,

Having spent the past few moments with my Master reading this thread and laughing at your expense as i'm sure you will be pleased to note, i have to say that though i am (by your admittedly odd) standards 'fresh' enough to respond seriously to your enquiry.. i am prevented in doing so by the complete lack of common sense and intelligence shown by yourself throughout this thread.
What you actually seem to be suffering from is a 'virtual' masochistic streak.
It amuses me most that you would seem so shocked and appaulled at the responses you have recieved referring to your "over 500 posts" comment. Rich coming from a member who joined this site only 10 days ago and only has as many posts - all on this thread no less, and who's profile leaves this girl to wonder how anybody that inarticulate possibly got through life in one piece.

To get onto the supposed 'topic' of your thread, i am a girl who although admittedly not on CM so much, but certainly on another public site, regularly posts her thoughts and feelings regarding her relationship with her Master. And why shouldn't i share my happiness with my community?
What your post really says to me, rightly or wrongly is you are a frustrated, probably apparently happily married man.
It strikes me that within this, seeking a "cyber" relationship as you are, flicking endlessly through profiles in the hope of finding somebody gullible enough to be drawn into your web, you find yourself reading journals, becoming jealous of the content amongst us and decide to vent here looking for others of your kind that might perhaps offer sympathy. When in fact there is none.

i guess my point is.. get over yourself.. and..
If you can't take a joke you shouldn't have joined..



FRSguy -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:35:04 AM)

Why is it that you feel that all relationships have a bad element to them?  Why is it that you feel that both people in a relationship are on the same page with each other?  It is entirely posible for someone to be perfectly happy in a realtionship and blog about all the great things and then for the other party of the relationship to be miserable.... so .... things can be going on great and then Bam... its over!.   I know in my relationship its good for the most part however it does have its ocasional bumps.  I am a Dom not a sub and I dont blog because its a waste of time. I think, however, that is really great when a sub opens up and blogs publicly about everything good or bad but what use is it to blog about all the little anoying things... kind of a cup half empty or half full kind of thing.
In my relationship we ran into a glitch recently,  I went to hooters and had one hell of a time... she found the photos to it...LOL... but hey what the hell can you do at a hooters that really bad... there be kids in that place and the girls are way interactive... so... it was married cracker night and we all had some silly stupid fun... Sub got jelouse... She was ignored compleatly for a week and given the option of accepting punishment this weekend for her jelousy (she let her mind run into overdrive) or be dismissed and replaced. She has decided to accept punishment for letting her mind run wild and not opening a logical dialog of the evening events. So I get to watch my sub cry and snivel all fucking weekend which will be boring as all get out. Its an insignificant event that will pass and from my perspective not important or I should say about as important as when she puts one two many sugars in my Sunday morning coffee (she dosnt get punished for that by the way) ... so now the subs out there know that in all likely my girl will have a very sore throut as well as other parts come monday morning and may even have to take the day off from work because she is going to be crying so much because she caused so much drama about nothing.  Does that make you feel better?  



servantheart -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 10:55:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: christine1

OP, why do you care what people write in their journals?  it is THEIR journal, if you don't like it then don't read it.  


I couldn't agree more.  Does this make me "stale" or you "fresh"? [:D]



peppermint -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:01:30 AM)

Less than two weeks a member here and you are suddenly the expert.  (sighs) 

Okay...i'll give you some reasons.  A journal is where a sub can write her feelings....a kind of diary.  If she wants to express how wonderful she finds her Dom, then she should as it is her personal journal.  She might be searching for a third to join their relationship.  In that case she wants another submissive to think her Dom might be perfect.  She might be in a relationships that is rather rocky but she is hanging on hoping things will work out.  She'll praise her Dom hoping that it will help her want to stay in said relationship.

What it comes down to is that it's not your job to tell people what they can and can not post in their own personal journal.  It's none of your business.  Why does it bother you so much??  Why does it matter a rat's ass to you what anyone posts in their own journal or their profile?  Is it harming you in some way?  Is it detrimental to you?  Does it make you very angry that a submissive may leave a Dom and find another within a few short months...especially if that Dom is not you?  And may i ask...how do you know that happens here on Collarme with your extremely short membership? 

Suck it up.  People can post what they wish in their journal as long as it isn't against TOS.  If i want to post recipes in my journal, i may do so.  If i want to write about my trip to the zoo, i can do that.  If what i post bothers you then move on and go to another profile.  Don't try to dictate what people can write.  That is censorship...and it makes the Dom who complains about it appear whiny.  No one wants or respects a whiny Dominant. 





















SweetNika -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:02:59 AM)

Fast reply without reading responses.

My journal both my private one and the one here on CM are mine. I post and delete what I want, it reflects what I am thinking, feeling, or going through at that moment. If you or anyone else doesn't want to read it I am not holding a gun to your head and forcing you to.
 
Blessed be,
Nika



OsideGirl -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:11:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
Mentioning your partner in a positive light and making it clear that you are committed and happy in your relationship helps to keep unwanted suitors at bay. 
Actually, I've found it to be the opposite. By mentioning Master, the number of emails I got increased. By a lot. I've found by emptying my profile and putting in "Just here for the forums" has actually reduced the emails to one or two a day.

quote:

 Showing commitment in public is reassuring to your partner and helps to ease any fears, suspicions, and doubts that could ultimately erode or destroy the relationship.  Being openly committed and "taken" helps to reaffirm the trust in a monogamous relationship; at the very least, mentioning that you're happy and not-looking on CM makes you less likely to be able to use CM as a place to cheat.
I think your relationship should be secure enough where advertising that you're taken isn't necessary. That also means that your profile doesn't indicate that you're looking. I don't mention Master at all in my profile, but he has absolutely no worries about me cheating. He trusts me.




AMaster -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:11:50 AM)

A journal is a place express you thoughts and feelings.  No one should critise, or judge.  No one has the right to.



CyberDom08 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:47:25 AM)

And the Newbie with a mere 75 post's has summed it up very well, without animosity, anger or insult. Thank you cpK69, all I was looking for was some honest feedback.



CyberDom08 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:48:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

What the heck i am gonna answer.  I write about my and Masters love in my journal because it makes me happy to do so.  I am not trying to convince myself or others it is just something i like to do.

As for the 3 month thing i have been with my Master over 2 years so you must be reading the wrong journals.

Matt's littleone


Thanks for you honest input, good luck to you and Master Mathew



Lynnxz -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:52:15 AM)

So what happens when YOU get to 500 posts? Something like this? [sm=anger.gif]



CyberDom08 -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:57:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

quote:

ORIGINAL: CyberDom08
My question is who are you trying to convince???


I'm neither a sub nor a newbie, but I'll answer the question.  Who are we trying to convince?  Everyone.  It's public communication, it's directed at a wide audience.

A person's profile can mention his/her partner and their happiness together for any number of reasons.  This is a partial list, and people can post "glorifying" journal entries for any combination of these reasons and others:

1)  Most people are not able to discuss their BDSM relationships and the joy they have in their partners with their vanilla families and friends.  Sometimes CM and other on-line communities are the only outlet they have for expressing their excitement, happiness, and pleasure in finding someone who actually understands their emotional and sexual needs.  In this respect, they babble about their loved ones here for the same reason that people who have fallen in love babble about their new love anywhere--because they're finally happy and they want the whole world to know it!

2)  CM is a community site to some degree, but it's also a site for people seeking sexual partners.  Mentioning your partner in a positive light and making it clear that you are committed and happy in your relationship helps to keep unwanted suitors at bay.  Since I collared my own boy and put a clear mention of it in my profile, I get a lot less mail from submissives seeiking partners; the only people who approach me inappropriately these days are people who have not read my profile.

3)  Showing commitment in public is reassuring to your partner and helps to ease any fears, suspicions, and doubts that could ultimately erode or destroy the relationship.  Being openly committed and "taken" helps to reaffirm the trust in a monogamous relationship; at the very least, mentioning that you're happy and not-looking on CM makes you less likely to be able to use CM as a place to cheat.

4) Writing posts, journal entries or blogs about your D/S partner and your relationship is an art form.  It's one part love letter, one part sexual seduction, one part meditation, one part D/S exercise.  A lot of dominants order their submissives to keep a "Submissive Journal" outright, so that they can read it and gain greater insight and control.


Thank you, Although I agree that you are correct, there are some aspects that I do not agree with. I would never question someone's right to maintain and keep a public journal but would question the motivation. I would say that the insecure have responded negatively to my query but the secure one's reply positively. Anyone agree?? (Why start now??)



Leatherist -> RE: Glorifying Doms in Journals (6/6/2008 11:59:03 AM)

To show newbie wannabe poachers how lame they are-so they won't pester them.



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