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BitaTruble -> RE: The Misleading Dominant (6/7/2008 1:33:04 AM)
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ORIGINAL: dragon2760
Don’t you just love double standards. It’s amazing the tone taken toward a female submissive complaining about male dominants versus a male submissive complaining about female dominants.
We have a guy who starts off asking for shortcuts (but manages to get in a dig to those who attend munches at the same time) and proceeds through the thread until we get to this ...
"You're right, I am considerably negative and I do now have a chip on my shoulder. I'm bitter and frustrated. I wasn't always like this but after having too many negative experiences via sites like these, I have changed."
vs Merry who asked a few questions (which were unanswered), was told she didn't sound submissive for it and had this reaction to it:
"I admit to finding it amusing. I mean, really how does a submissive sound? Timid? Gullible? My intention was not to sound demanding or rude but potential Dominants must understand submissives are relegated to slaying dragons here, i.e. disputing the many misleading and duplicitous missives we receive each day."
and then there is Latex with a:
"Typical incomprehensible negative BDSM bashing style post" and a solid history of the very same under his belt.
Three distinctly different attitudes.
All three of the OP's got responses based directly on the tone set. Latexbaby set a tone which was accusatory and went so far as to call into question the mental capabilities of those who did not choose him as a mate. Axe started off with a disclaimer that his words were not intended to offend. Rarely a good sign .. then went on to offend munchers. Again, negative, a bit spiteful and before advice was even offered, it was rejected. Merry, on the other hand was light, amusing and intelligent without a shred of self-pity to be found.
So, three different posts with three different styles garnered three different responses from a whole bunch of different people.
Where, exactly, is the double standard?
By the way, I don't know Latex nor Axe .. but I've known Merry for several years offline. I add that because I totally admit that I may be biased but thought it would be disingenuous not to say something about it. So, take it for what it's worth. I think I was objective but you may think differently and you are entitled to whatever opinions you hold.
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