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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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damn he is dumb as a bag of rocks.

Thanks for insulting the bag of rocks.

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ORIGINAL: hissweetbella

I'm posting here because I'm starting to feel like I am the crazy one, and I want to know if I really am off base with my thinking.  This is a long post, so be warned.

My Dom is upset with me because I have chosen to cut off all contact with one of his best "friends" who he introduced me to a couple of years ago and who I was friendly with for a while.  This woman (who my Dom has absolutely NO romantic interest in whatsoever, I am POSITIVE) had been lying to my Dom and the man she was dating at the time for over two years when I met her.  I'm talking a whopper of a lie, too, as in she was telling them she had won a multi-million dollar lawsuit but had excuse after excuse as to why she couldn't access the money that was supposedly in her bank accounts.  These two men supported her financially for over two years, and in a VERY comfortable lifestyle, too, yet never once bothered to verify anything she was telling them, and actually defended her any time anyone dared to say anything about it all being a lie.

To make a long story short, I stayed out of it until my Dom had maxed out his credit cards and was actually having trouble continuing to provide for this woman.  (She didn't live with him.)  Finally, I asked him to please go into the bank branch she claimed the bank lawyer worked at and ask for the bank attorney she claimed to be working with.  I had already found out there was no such person employed by that bank anywhere in the state.  He did, and confronted her.  She admitted it was all a lie, but claimed she felt forced into it because he and her boyfriend kept telling her she should sue for what she claimed had happened to her.  Anyway, she moved in with the boyfriend after promising never to lie to him again and convincing him she felt she had no choice and hadn't wanted to deceive him in the first place and has been living with him for the past year and a half.

Come to find out after a little checking, this woman is a convicted felon for fraud and identity theft and is wanted right this minute because she ran away from the state where she is still supposed to be on parole.  She has been using her sister's name and ID to fly and all kinds of other things.

Now, I believe she is at it all again.  She claims to have a job, data entry working from home, making $22 an hour and with full medical/dental/vision/life insurance benefits, paid holidays... the works... AND, get this, according to her, the employer happens to be a former convict himself and is supposed to be helping her work with the parole board to get out of her parole violation altogether. 

Anyway, my Dom believes her and loaned her a couple of thousand dollars to get out of a tight spot with the understanding that she would pay him back with her next paycheck.  That was two months ago.  She claimed first to have sent the check.  Next was she had done a wire transfer to his account and his bank must have screwed it up.  After that was FedEx lost the check she had sent THREE TIMES.  Now, she had to close her bank account (which was in her sister's name) because her sister was being audited by the IRS and can't get her money from the bank because they won't put that amount on a cashier's check or transfer it to another account for her.

Is it just me or does this stink to high heaven of a SCAM?????  I tell you, I have heard these two men defend her and tell all of us who say she is lying that we are just mean until I am starting to question if I really am!  For a while I was being the friendly ear for this woman that my Dom wanted me to be, but I just can't listen to it anymore.  If I wanted to watch science fiction, I would turn on the TV!

What do you think?  Is her story plausible and am I being too jaded and unbelieving?  I just don't understand what this woman has that makes these men (and others) believe everything she comes up with and not check out anything at all even kowing her history of lying. 

Thank you for reading and responding.  I just needed to get out the frustration of watching someone I care about be fooled like this.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

For those who would say just let it go and ignore it, I have to say that if *I* were your dom (which I never would be, but just go with it) and you allowed me to make this sort of mistake over and over, and you were losing respect for me because of it, and my credit score was getting ready to go down the toilet because of it, I would be very upset that you could tell something was wrong, and you didn't attempt to help me see what was going on.

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ORIGINAL: hissweetbella

I don't live with him and take care of me and mine myself, so his finances really aren't my business.  It was for that reason that I held my tongue so long the first time I realized she was lying.  I just know I won't let things with us progress to anything like living together or depending on him financially while he still feels compelled to "help" people like this.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I can't stop laughing over the fact that your Dom believes she is "negotiating" with her parole officer and/or the parole board.  Negotiating?!?!  Bwah hah hah hah hah.  That's like "negotiating" with the mob.

Cali

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For those who would say just let it go and ignore it, I have to say that if *I* were your dom (which I never would be, but just go with it) and you allowed me to make this sort of mistake over and over, and you were losing respect for me because of it, and my credit score was getting ready to go down the toilet because of it, I would be very upset that you could tell something was wrong, and you didn't attempt to help me see what was going on.

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ORIGINAL: hissweetbella

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ORIGINAL: hissweetbella

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ORIGINAL: mstrj69

Do you have caller ID?  That should tell you where she is calling from just by the area code and prefix.  Authorities can trace down cell phones if they have the number. 

That's a great idea.  I don't know his actual address as he lives in a different state, but I do know the city and the phone number.

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I think C.M. should come up with a "Dear Abby" section.

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

So tell me more about his Dom. Do you address him as Father? Does he have a tendency for red clothing and black leather boots? Does he have a weight problem? White beard? Does he only work once a year? Keep reindeer? Travel around in a sleigh around the world? Can he squeeze himself down chimneys?

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Now, I believe she is at it all again.  She claims to have a job, data entry working from home, making $22 an hour and with full medical/dental/vision/life insurance benefits, paid holidays... the works... AND, get this, according to her, the employer happens to be a former convict himself and is supposed to be helping her work with the parole board to get out of her parole violation altogether. 

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Anyway, my Dom believes her and loaned her a couple of thousand dollars to get out of a tight spot with the understanding that she would pay him back with her next paycheck.  That was two months ago.  She claimed first to have sent the check.  Next was she had done a wire transfer to his account and his bank must have screwed it up.  After that was FedEx lost the check she had sent THREE TIMES.  Now, she had to close her bank account (which was in her sister's name) because her sister was being audited by the IRS and can't get her money from the bank because they won't put that amount on a cashier's check or transfer it to another account for her.