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Lordandmaster -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (6/27/2008 9:07:37 PM)

OK, I guess I'll have to admit to being sexist because I'm interested only in women who have pussies.



aleshaDreams -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/10/2008 2:40:44 PM)

Response to the OP

Being an aboriginal and acceptant of my heritage, I am relunctant to consider a D/s dynamic with others of similar background on the premise of knowing the actual outcome which would deviate away from it eventually as opposed to being drawn further in.  Many in the culture are still nomatic, living off the land for subsistence, woman have their place and much pride is taken in that, but for the most part the rare few will actually engage in BDSM, Gorean or any other form of lifestyle variations.  How we live is evolving however many still reside and it is quite acceptable to live as the natural order dictates.  But of course we add the influence of the church and in relation to how people play in the lifestyle it is not and would not be viewed as a 'good thing' , it is very foreign yet so close to home with many having had lived in residential schools where things such as discipline, isolation and the lot are not viewed as positives.



norseman12 -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/10/2008 3:06:05 PM)

When chosing a mate, I dont think its possible to be rascist.........if a certain race doesnt turn you on.........they dont turn you on.

If your chosing your employees by race and not by their credentials...........then your being rascist.



aleshaDreams -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/10/2008 3:48:35 PM)

norseman, well it is and it isn't .......... it is cause I throw all into a category and  base my judgements on such and to my own heritage to add to the scenerio, and it isn't due to what I interpret in the political scene as what is currently happening.  



QuietPeppermint -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/10/2008 4:43:04 PM)

Wow this is a good thread. I'd like to add my story/2cents.

I state explicitly in my profile that I am looking for a relationship with someone of my hertiage. I  ALSO state that I like anyone regardless of race, so if you just want to be friends, I'm interested in everyone. I HAVE gotten some unpleasant messages, and more often than not dom men that are not Asian contact me for purposes other than "friends." I simply do not reply or re-explain that I am seeking friends.

What people will either realize or refuse to realize is that I am not sexually/romantically/dynamically interested in any non-Asian male dom. From that sentence, you should see my meaning... rules are simply set. I would not have a relationship with a sub man.  I would not have a relationship with a dom woman. I would not have a relationship with a non-Asian. Maybe this is racist, but in that case, I am also sexist and apparently role-ist.

Dear OP: Maybe you are looking too hard at all the white/black tension. If I were you, I would try to see it as a preference... not as a problem. If someone contacts you based STRICTLY on your race, then I would understand why you'd be offended. But if you are offended because some people prefer different races, then I'm terribly sorry for offending you.



clearlightblack -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/10/2008 6:37:32 PM)

As I was catching up on the thread.....someone mentioned that Black men (Doms) perfer white women (subs) because they are more maluable or listen more or don't have as much attitude....etc etc etc

I was watching comedy central and I think at least a few comments picked up on the same thing.  Where was I going with this? I have no clue.......

Oh! maybe it was lots of people have their sterotypes..........maybe black men and latino men think white girls are better because they think they'll take more crap from them than women of their own races........then there are those that see it as sleeping with the forbidden fruit...........colored women want white men because they have better credit......I could do on and on and on.....

But you know what i think is funny...I was at the mall getting something to drink and this latino guy looked at me, I smiled (mostly because of the 19 yr old girl he had on his arm) but i smiled nontheless....anyway she caught it and hit and yelled at him.....he rolled his eyes and i smiled........looked @ him and give him a "She's a winner" look and walked away......she was still hitting him for looking at me...............

I guess my rambling point is not all men/Doms are looking for some kind of trophy....in this scenario....the girl was white and definetly upset that he was even sharing a simple hello smile...I learned something very valuable: To Each His or Her Own



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/11/2008 10:36:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: norseman12

When chosing a mate, I dont think its possible to be rascist.........if a certain race doesnt turn you on


try hearing it from a black dominant's pov.  i'm a racist against my own because i prefer/choose to date others rather than within.

yet, they don't call a black dominant "racist" who prefers/chooses to have a submissive/slave outside the race rather than within.

it's bascially a double standard  



norseman12 -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/11/2008 2:37:13 PM)

quote:

Clearwhiteblack wrote:
As I was catching up on the thread.....someone mentioned that Black men (Doms) perfer white women (subs) because they are more maluable or listen more or don't have as much attitude....etc etc etc


I can assure everyone here..........my German mother and aunt who are pasty white with piercing blue eyes are not malleable, nor do they "listen more".........Basically their attitudes are, men are stupid and need to stay the fuck out of the kitchen. My aunt shoots raccoons out of her cherry tree she cans every year with a deadly vengeance. If black men feel that white women are easy targets, they need to come and talk to me first.



norseman12 -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/11/2008 2:39:51 PM)

To me?

Women are women.........some our catching to my eye........some are not. Some races may catch my eye more than others, but I have seen beauty in each and every race.

The hard part for a man is choosing just one![;)]



roland23 -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/12/2008 10:29:05 AM)

This is about preferences. People have them. They are based on a variety of factors. Race, age, size, etc. Although I prefer Asian women, I would never exclude others. I would however have a difficult time being attracted to someone who has not finished high school(lots of the women in the town where I live). Does this make me an elitist snob? 



DarkSteven -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/12/2008 3:27:22 PM)

As far as I am concerned, a black woman has one disadvantage and one advantage over a white one.  The disadvantage is that she doesn't color up as much when spanked, and the advantage is that if I were to marry her, it would be far easier to adopt a child.





sambamanslilgirl -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/12/2008 3:31:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

As far as I am concerned, a black woman has one disadvantage and one advantage over a white one.  The disadvantage is that she doesn't color up as much when spanked, and the advantage is that if I were to marry her, it would be far easier to adopt a child.




is that the latest pc way to say "all Black women come with attachments (minors)"?

or

are you actually saying marrying a Black woman speeds up the adoption process?


my gut feeling is you're talking about the first and not the latter.



DarkSteven -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/12/2008 3:35:06 PM)

smlg, there are a lot of adoptable black and mixed race children, and the latest I heard was that there was pressure to not let Caucasian families adopt them.  I meant the second of your two choices.




slavekal -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 11:21:34 AM)

Not ALL black women come with a kids, but a lot of them sure do.



sblady -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 12:07:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

Not ALL black women come with a kids, but a lot of them sure do.


hmmm....really?  I sure hope someone is going to provide statistics.

To the OP:  I have no problem when  African Americans prefer someone outside of our race as it's certainly their preference.  To each his/her own.



tenderplant -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 12:50:52 PM)

slavekal...here is my 10 cents worth....what part does enthincity/race  play when it comes to women having children? In my opinion done. Not everyone black women have alot children. I don't where you came up with that information.

tenderplant



tenderplant -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 12:56:48 PM)

DarkSteven...I am not at disadvantage when it comes to leaving marks or color up as you put. I have been "colored up" after a play session. Sometimes the disadvantage of not "coloring up can be a positive thing.
 
I guess I will get out my box of crayons and color  myself up....lol
 
tenderplant



clearlightblack -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 6:15:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

......... advantage is that if I were to marry her, it would be far easier to adopt a child.



Dark Steven, if it makes any difference....i totally understood what you were saying..........and its a good point



anguisette22 -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 8:08:59 PM)

It's all down to intentions, IMO.

While I'm here, I'm going to open myself up to possible flame (I considered starting a thread on this but chickened out) by asking something... See, I've always had this odd kink to be dominated by a black man, like in a parody of slavery but racially reversed. I'm afraid this might offend, so I've never asked. Thoughts?



undergroundsea -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/13/2008 9:51:35 PM)

I have seen such racial preferences to exist in every which way--in dominants and submissivs of each sex.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
I'm offended by someone who wants to serve me ONLY because of my race. I'm also offended by someone who wants to serve me ONLY because I'm female, a scientist or wear glasses. I'm more than just a single (or even a collectiom) of objective things they want to interact with.

That being said, I know that race play and the taboo behind it is just totally hot for some people.


I expect that the racial preferences under question relate more to what a person finds sexually attractive. Choosing a partner based on race for sake of race play only would apply if one was seeking a relationship that focused on only BDSM, and specifically to enact race play, which I expect is uncommon.

At least, so I thought before making this post ;-)

There are people whose BDSM role preferences are tied to sex; a switch woman may enjoy submission only to women, and dominance only towards men. I am now wondering if for some people race may play a similar role. That is, it might be possible for one to be generally sexually attracted across races but have a race preference or prerequisite when it comes to BDSM roles.

My two cents.

Cheers,

Sea



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