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Wheldrake -> RE: A Question for African American s-types (7/16/2008 12:30:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: norseman12
I see black submissive females wanting to be dominated by white Dom's all the time.
I do not have a PHD, but I suspect that there are some deep seated human emotions at work here.
In neolithic times it was common for one tribe to raid another, killing off the men and stealing the women. A woman's desire to be dominated and "carried off" by a male that she see's as "exotic" could actually be a survival defense mechanism that allows women to cope with such experiences in the past. And while it for the most part is not a life experience today.........the emotion still remains.
The most obvious problem with this explanation is that it's not just women - plenty of male submissives also fantasise about being dominated by a person of another race. I think there are a lot of simpler factors that make this exciting for some people.
My ancestors were almost all from the British Isles, and my Mistress is from southeast Asia. Neither of us was specifically looking for someone from an "exotic" background, but we've discovered that our racial and cultural differences have their advantages. Mistress' country was a European colony just a couple of generations ago, so when I submit to her there's a fun element of role reversal and perhaps from her point of view a mild sense of historical revenge. Normally we don't think too much about our differences, but in the context of a scene they can create between us a sense of distance that seems to whet her sadism and certainly makes things a bit more scary from my perspective. Best of all, we're both relaxed enough to enjoy all this without worrying that doing so makes us into evil racists.
It also helps that her culture isn't quite as squeamish about human suffering, in general, as western ones tend to be. I introduced her to BDSM early in our relationship, and while there were a couple of bumps along the way, the basic idea of inflicting pain on a consenting partner never seemed to bother her at all.
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