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why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:44:47 AM

shellyseamonkey

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thats perfect for a sub..?

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:58:23 AM

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Your profile makes you seem desperate and looking for someone to leech from.

In my opinion.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 1:29:06 PM

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Your profile screams of escapism and desperation.

I'd venture a guess that most stable "daddies" wouldn't be interested in someone who appears to just want a very detailed lopsided dynamic, rather than a healthy, stable, mutually fulfilling adult relationship.

But stranger things have happened.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 1:40:37 PM

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Quotes from your profile:

I don't think you all realize
Why can't you all understand
For all of you people saying you have 15 years experience, I obviously don't think you do
Make your profile stand out on the email you send me

You sound pretty demanding at 19 years old. I imagine you will get more demanding with age.

Also, I get the impression from your profile that you envision a relationship that is basically a Domestic Discipline one without sex. So from a Dom's point of view, taking you on will be the time equivalent of a full relationship without any sex. And it will be loads of fun explaining to prospective women that there is a teenage girl living with him, but there's no sex in it... honest... she just does houseowrk and gets spanked.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 1:46:05 PM

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Ummm, you list that you live for female supremacy but you are a submissive, plus all the demands, maybe it would be easier to list what you would do and not every thing you wouldn't do or put others down for doing it, even if that is "just you". i understand the need to make it clear what you are looking for, but there is a nicer, less bratty way to do it.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 6:30:04 PM

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it's not; then again, it depends sub and what they have to offer.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 6:38:56 PM

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You said it yourself - one that's perfect. It's easy to find a Daddy. It's impossible to find one that is either perfect or perfect for you. As a submissive you should aim for someone real that can help to complete you - not for perfection. I'll be happy to share my Daddy with you. : )

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 6:40:13 PM

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Maybe because your interests and attitude do not make you perfect for most doms so may take a while to find one your compatible with

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 6:55:18 PM

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Cause your pic makes you look like Siamese twins?

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 7:03:30 PM

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There's any number of things, many of which have been pointed out. If being a submissive is about serving someone, pleasing them, why is there so much emphasis on you, you, you in your profile? Daddy Doms aren't always older or much older than the girl. Personally, my Daddy is 7 years younger than me and absolutely incredible. I wouldn't change Him for the world. Focus on getting to know someone as a person first, then see where the relationship goes.

And relax on the desperation - it doesn't help. These things happen when you least expect them, or when the time is right. Forcing the issue usually causes drama and problems.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 9:08:35 PM

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seriously?
wow.. well my whole thing is, i get so many messages a day.. its crazy i cant even read all of them
and most of them i do read is like Weird daddies...ones that want me to wear diapers.. which i am not saying its weird for them but for me it is a limit
Im not demanding i maybe sound domme in my forum but like i say to all of the doms... im only domme until i pick you as my daddy..then im all forever submissive as long as he wants me
im not desperate.. its just a turn on of mine to be desperate looking for a daddy that will love me..but spank me hard when i need disipline

Sorry if i sound bratty.. im really not :) im sweet... just gets aggervating..obviously some of you women on here dont get 1040040540504 emails a day asking for weird things.. i know im exagerating now... sorry!

thanks for all of your answers have a nice day!!

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 9:10:30 PM

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Let me get this straight. You want to be financially taken care of, and in return you will do some chores and I might get to spank you occasionally. You are admittedly demanding, bratty, and in general not terribly mature. Your profile reeks of desperation, and you don't seem to offer much to whomever might take you on. Oh, and you must be impressed with what you see, even though the goods your showing are, IMHO, are less than impressive...

I don't know how someone hasn't scooped you up yet dear. You are obviously quite a catch.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 9:24:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shellyseamonkey

seriously?
wow.. well my whole thing is, i get so many messages a day.. its crazy i cant even read all of them
and most of them i do read is like Weird daddies...ones that want me to wear diapers.. which i am not saying its weird for them but for me it is a limit
Im not demanding i maybe sound domme in my forum but like i say to all of the doms... im only domme until i pick you as my daddy..then im all forever submissive as long as he wants me
im not desperate.. its just a turn on of mine to be desperate looking for a daddy that will love me..but spank me hard when i need disipline

Sorry if i sound bratty.. im really not :) im sweet... just gets aggervating..obviously some of you women on here dont get 1040040540504 emails a day asking for weird things.. i know im exagerating now... sorry!

thanks for all of your answers have a nice day!!

Use it all as a learning experience. For example.
Change your profile over to only positive things. State in a positive way what you have to offer a Daddy. Do not allow all the players and pretend daddy's to change you from who you are or allow you to become negative in your search. That negativity reflects a certain bitterness and brattiness that most well balanced Daddy's won't be interested in. Make yourself a person worthy of what you seek and He will come.
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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 9:26:16 PM

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You make your profile unappealing to get rid of the trolls and you wonder why the real ones arent interested? Heres a hint... the real ones are the ones reading your profile, not the trolls. There is a lot of competition for the good ones out there, Daddy types that is, so you have to actually make yourself appealing. If not, they wil simply skip over you and find one that is

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 9:51:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shellyseamonkey

seriously?
wow.. well my whole thing is, i get so many messages a day.. its crazy i cant even read all of them
and most of them i do read is like Weird daddies...ones that want me to wear diapers.. which i am not saying its weird for them but for me it is a limit
Im not demanding i maybe sound domme in my forum but like i say to all of the doms... im only domme until i pick you as my daddy..then im all forever submissive as long as he wants me
im not desperate.. its just a turn on of mine to be desperate looking for a daddy that will love me..but spank me hard when i need disipline

Sorry if i sound bratty.. im really not :) im sweet... just gets aggervating..obviously some of you women on here dont get 1040040540504 emails a day asking for weird things.. i know im exagerating now... sorry!

thanks for all of your answers have a nice day!!

Desperation as portrayed in your profile is generally not attractive, and is going to make it much more difficult for you to find someone you're compatible with.

Good luck all the same.

Oh, I see it's gone since I can't reply to the ever so lovely PM I received from you.

Yeah, have a nice day.

< Message edited by JillSpade -- 7/1/2008 9:52:52 PM >

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 10:32:30 PM

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quote:

seriously?
wow.. well my whole thing is, i get so many messages a day.. its crazy i cant even read all of them
and most of them i do read is like Weird daddies...ones that want me to wear diapers.. which i am not saying its weird for them but for me it is a limit... /snip

Umm, you DO know how to tell which people have checked your profile and which haven't, right? Pretty easy. As LRF said, the real daddies will actually read your profile, the fakes usually won't (they might ogle your pics, but don't read). Making your profile unattractive simply drives the good guys away.

As to the content of said profile, I cannot comment as it has been removed. That said, the picture is fairly clear from the above posts.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:05:40 PM

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"profile not found"

I've seen a lot of women on here that want to give up all responsibility and be a kid to some sugar daddy again.

I't's cute in a ten year old-not very in anyone over 21.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:05:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: shellyseamonkey

thats perfect for a sub..?

* Not every Dom uses the term 'Daddy' to mean the same thing.

* Not every Dom is into age play, period.

* No one is 'perfect' for anyone.

* Everyone who is single thinks their search is much harder than anyone else's.

* All searches are hard and fruitless -- until the D/s partner is found and a collar goes on.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:13:36 PM

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"profile not found"

I've seen a lot of women on here that want to give up all responsibility and be a kid to some sugar daddy again.

I't's cute in a ten year old-not very in anyone over 21.

I think the OP was 19.

meh.

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RE: why is it so hard to find a daddy.. - 7/1/2008 11:20:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

"profile not found"

I've seen a lot of women on here that want to give up all responsibility and be a kid to some sugar daddy again.

I't's cute in a ten year old-not very in anyone over 21.

I think the OP was 19.

meh.

Oh well..ya gotta grow up sometime.

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