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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 7:52:13 AM

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my best friend is kinky and was my domme for awhile. we ended up realizing that i needed/wanted more physical play than what i was getting with her so she 'gave' me to my current dom (it's sort of funny she gave him permission to take me, i thought it was cute but maybe you had to be there).

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 7:52:24 AM

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(not counting your lover/mate as your best friend, of course).
If not, why not? Do you ever intend to tell them?

Akasha

All of my best friends are also kinky as the BDSM community is where I go to make friends.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 8:05:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

(not counting your lover/mate as your best friend, of course).
If not, why not? Do you ever intend to tell them?

Akasha

Well, since you excluded my true best friend, which is my Master (and lover and mate and .....), then, i have to say that i don't have a best friend and haven't had one in a very, very long time. But, even when i did have a best friend, of the non-amorous type, i never discussed my sex life with any of them and they didn't discuss theirs with me. It never came up in conversation. We just never felt a need to "share" with each other what we were experiencing and doing with other people.

Some things, in my mind, deserve to be kept in that special place, inside ourselves (for mine and my Master's 'eyes only') and out of view from others to examine and probe and question and judge. Who needs that sort of thing in their life? It's nobody's beeswax what sort of sexual activity i engage in, except, of course, for the people i am engaging in it with.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 8:47:16 AM

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ALL of my friends & family know about my lifestyle choice.. Those whom i would consider my best friends are "kinky" themselves. Quite simply, if they weren't, we couldn't be that close.. It requires a great amount of openness and understanding for me to reach that point with a person.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 8:49:51 AM

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Yes my two best friends know and they are as vanilla as you can get! I have used them as safe calls in the past and they tend to have an ask no questions and you wont get freaked out policy with me I think

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 8:58:51 AM

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I have to keep my sexual proclivities a secret, living in a very large Roman Catholic family filled with women's libbers and Christian zealots.....

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 8:59:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

(not counting your lover/mate as your best friend, of course).
If not, why not? Do you ever intend to tell them?

My best friend knew I was kinky well before I was actively involved in the lifestyle. We didnt know what it was called back then since we were still too young to be involved in anything at all legally. But form the talk and the ideas we had, she knew.

Fox's best friend knows, too. Doesnt understand and was worried sick that he'd involve himself in it, but he knew. He also was fairly sure he wouldnt like me, since I was the first Dominant person Fox has every introduced him to. Much to his dismay, he and I really got along well, I was perfectly down to earth and likeable (as usual) ahd he was made to grudingly admit that he thinks we are a good match.
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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 9:01:45 AM

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No, my sexual life is none of my friend's business. I don't want to know about hers either.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 9:13:22 AM

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All of my friends know I'm a pain slut, they know I'm also a submissive towards certain types of women.
My best friend is also rather kinky, although she isn't into BDSM like I am. She does know that I love to be hurt though
My friends wouldn't be my friends if they didn't know me on my deepest levels. Nothing about me is a surprise to them to be honest.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 9:35:16 AM

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I understand where you're coming from pompeii. Ironically, some of my best friends in bdsm have been very Christian. One friend I directed to various resources on bdsm and Christianity, another (that I've played with) was raised as a Christian missionary in Mexico and Central America and her faith is probably still stronger than her kink. I've recently made an acquaintance who's a minister and while she's made it clear that kink ain't her thing, she has tons of questions about it.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 9:42:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

(not counting your lover/mate as your best friend, of course).
If not, why not? Do you ever intend to tell them?

Akasha

Yup, they know. I don't consider someone a "friend", and certainly not a "best friend", if I can't tell them much odder, more unusual, and more private things than the fact that I'm kinky.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 11:16:19 AM

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She sure does; and not because she's kinky too...I have known her since we were both 10 years old...there is not much about me that she does not know.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 1:03:36 PM

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My best friend knows some of my kinky likes, but not all of them. I've been longing to find someone (besides my SO) about my kinks, but I've never found a friend I think that I would tell everything to, or even almost everything to. I envy those people who have open minded friends.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 1:11:51 PM

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As one gets older you begin to place friends in categories. So to answer the question, best friends always know, but associates know very little, those so-called friends who like to be shocked, I shock them. And those who are closed minded friends, we go to the Olive Garden.

I am true to myself and although not completely understanding my D/s community in the state I live. I am happy with anyone knowing.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 1:15:40 PM

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I'm out to most of my vanilla friends. They don't seem to mind and about half of them actually read my kinky sex blog =P

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 1:21:48 PM

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my best female friend (vanilla) knows that i am submissive to Him but she doesn't know why and cannot understand it...i have never felt it necessary to explain the dynamics of the relationship to her or anyone else because it is vanilla enough most of the time. at times feel like i am defending Him against her thoughts about Him. He is never blaringly obvious about the dynamics between us...it is subtle but i guess obvious enough that you can tell who the 'boss' is! i am a strong, take charge woman but when with Him i do not behave the way she knows me...and she doesn't like it. as long as she supports me as a friend and allows me to do the same, its all good! :)

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 2:35:01 PM

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oooh yeah ^5 Leatherist! and yes the people close to me know me , most are kinky freaks just like me too .

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They would not be a "best friend" if they weren't kinky. They would be an "aquaintance."

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 2:37:31 PM

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Fast reply
My best friend was my former owner, so of course he knows I am into kink.
Most people that know me on any personal level know that I am in the lifestyle just like they know that I am Wiccan. It is just part of what makes me.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 2:50:24 PM

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All of my friends know, i have never done much to hide who and what i am. They can either accept me as i am, or not, the choice is theirs. If my interests are too much for them, i hold no anger or animosity, i can understand that to some it can be offputting. For the most part though, i have not run into friends that walk away because i'm "different" It is just part of my... charm.

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RE: Does your best friend know you are kinky? - 7/2/2008 3:13:30 PM

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A number of people know that I'm simply kinky. However, most of my good close friends know that I'm into BDSM.

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