softness
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Joined: 8/1/2006
From: Leeds, UK
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1) I know your owned, but can we still meet up?
If you mean socially. Sure. I am out and about in my local scene all the time, you can see me at munches and clubs in 4 local cities, and very occassionally you can see me further from home. I hold my scene friends as very dear to me, and am always happy to add to that group of friends.
If you mean .. can we meet up for *nudge nudge* coffee? ... then .. well that depends
Dom = nope (unless DV suddenly started taking crack and His personality changed utterly)
Domme = yes .. if you aren't some Prancing Princess Mistress Moron (I prefer Domme's butchy, and mostly evil)
Sub male = sure .. but my time is expensive, and my shoes all need a good licking
sub female = always .. my door is always open
2) Why dont you lose some weight?
I'm fat? ... fuck me ..I thought this was rippling muscle?
3) Does Daddy turn you on baby girl?
I have no interest in a Daddy/babygirl relationship. I can barely dredge up any interest in it as a role play. I will occassionally use "Daddy" as an affectionate endearment ... but only in the most select and rare of contexts. I do not want a Daddy Dom. I love men who display the behaviour typical of a Daddy Dom (loving indulgent, caring, nurturing) but only as the icing on the evil demanding, obdurate, demanding, bastard cake of my desire.
I may always prefer to have relationships with men 15-30 years older than me, but purely because experience is intensely sexy. I do not have a sexualised relationship with my own father, he never touched me as a child, never beat me, never ignored me and never oppressed me. I am not seeking a Daddy to make up for the father I never had. I am looking for an Owner who can live up to the standard my father set for the men in my life. One that is almost unattainably high, but well worth maintaining.
4) How can you call yourself a slave when you are so young?
its easy ... S ... L ..... A.....V.....E .... get over it
5) How can you say you are owned when you are in a LDR (online) relationship?
Because when I think of Him, it has always been as a slave thinking of her Master, property thinking of its Owner. It has never really been any other way, He got His kung-fu into me right from the get go ... I never stood a chance. It just makes sense. Sometimes that doesn't happen for people who have lived in eachother's pockets for years. I am not going to fight against something that makes so much sense.
6) How can you say you have no hard limits?
How I define limits. Soft Limits = things you would prefer to not happen, if they happened there could be unforseen fallout after, please make the decision to break these limits carefully, and take care of me if there is fall out.A soft limit is not really a limit at all, it is a polite request. Hard Limits = do these things and you will damage me in such a way that if I know you plan to do them, I will leave and not come back until I feel more secure, and If you do them, I will leave and then never come back.
I have a wide and comprehensive set of soft limits with DV. There are plenty of things I would prefer .. and humbly request He does not submit me to. He and I both know however, that anyone of them I would willingly submit to in order to be obedient.
I don't have any hard limits with DV. There is nothing HE WOULD DO that would force me to end the relationship. There are plenty of things that someone else might do, and with them I would have a hard limit. When I casually play ... there are hard limits all over the place (sex, breath play, humiliation, canes, knives, general mindfuckery) some put in place by me, some by DV. DV doing those things I can deal with, and am excited by ... others .. no thank you very much.
7) Why do you say that you are a slave and not a bottom?
As a play partner for a Sadist ... I suck ...(both literally and figuratively- I have found it is much harder for them to hurt you when you are giving head ... something distracts them) ... I am not a pain slut, I am a whore for approval. I will trade on whatever I can to secure it ... including taking a beating. Sure there is play that blows me away, but what tends to happen is that the type of person who likes and will do that type of play, is into far heavier pain play than I am. Luckily I have managed to find exceptions, but generally speaking - if I find someone willing to choke me into unconsciousness ... they are probably going to expect more than say ... 15 minutes of medium impact flogging .. before I start to chew my way out of the restraints. I am a pathetic cry baby wimp. It is my submission and my need to be approved of that continually draws me to SM play ... not the SM play itself.
8) What is your hottest wildest fantasy?
It would look disgustingly romantic domesticated and vanilla ... unless you really paid close attention ... then you would want to wash your eyes with bleach. My fantasy world is filled with visions of harmonious domestic servitude to a Man I respect, love, am challenge and excited by. Its something like ... bringing DV His coffee, waking Him ... running a shower and washing ... Sir joining me in the shower... washing Him all kissing romantic, planning our days work, arrnaging something for the evening as I soap Him up and rub His shoulders lovingly... then coming round shivering on the cold tiles under an icy stream of water having been choked into unconsciousness with the shower hose .
9) How can you be a doormatt, and a bit of a Dominant at the same time?
I don't really know how it works ... it just does. Until recently I viewed all previous relationships in BDSM as a failure on my part to be pleasing. Now .. largely I see .. it was a failure on my part to feel submissive to someone I was more powerful than, and a failure to force myself to pretend I was powerless. The more I play as a Top, the more I am discovering a bit of a Domme in there. It doesn't change what I am to DV ... but it certainly explains what I am to other people in my life.
10) Are you making the right choice?
Probably not. This may be the only time I get to make the choice, I would rather regret making the wrong one, that always regret never knowing for sure. Besides ... its sunnier in San Jose
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