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pennygurl -> RE: Can they really call themselves Doms? (7/23/2008 10:28:24 AM)
perhaps our opening poster is simply using her brattiness as a filter of sorts. perhaps the characteristic she values most in a gentleman is his verbal and mental agility. perhaps she is deluged with random emails from HNG's who can not string a complete sentence together if their lives depended upon it, and she is simply mirroring the communication style she receives from these many admirers. because don't we all use a filtering mechanism of sorts, to wander thru the profiles here at CM? and if our opening poster brings her SAM qualities into a relationship, perhaps it is best for her to alert potential suitors right from the beginning as to the tone of the future relationship. and to tell you the truth, there are certain types of gentlemen who actually enjoy verbal and physical feedback from their partner, just as there are others who would prefer their submissive to simply "take it" without "fussing". and perhaps she simply needs to re-write her profile so she attracts the type of gentleman she prefers, rather than having to go to all the effort of telling people "no ! ". wasn't there some famous quote about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results?

Pair4play -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/23/2008 10:37:23 AM)
I can understand wanting to test the validity of someone's claims. Nothing is more of a turn-off for me, though, than rudeness. Of course, in your scenario, my response would simply to have been to admonish your poor behavior and leave. You don't kick a dog then hold out a treat to see if it will come to you. I'd suggest finding other ways to gauge a prospective dom's compatibility with you.

DomDolf -> RE: Can they really call themselves Doms? (7/23/2008 10:50:31 AM)
pennygurl, Maybe she needs to not write anyone she feels a need to "verbally abuse." There is NO excuse for disrespect. If you feel you must disrespect than you should refrain from communicating with a person. Does the OP's post sound like it came from a responsible, mature and respectful person? I am not saying she is not any or all of those things, but the post smells of a lack of any of them. And of course, until I know a person personally I cannot say what they are or are not with any assuredness. But I am still left with first impressions. Though I am sure you know this I am also sure some do not. The quote is by Albert Einstein- Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Dolf

SurrenderForMe -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/23/2008 10:56:32 PM)
You are right, verbal abuse would drive them away. Have you considered that your technique is opposed to your purpose? Or are you not looking? Just curious, would you want someone you contacted to disrespect you at the start?

Dnomyar -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 3:30:07 AM)
I tryed to manupliate subtee but she keeps slaping my hands. Now if I find out who gave her that dammed ruler.

celticlord2112 -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 4:21:08 AM)
quote: I get alot of male doms emailing me and I push their limts verbally just to see if they are for real. I verbally abuse them and they still come back for more and still want to be with me. I think a real dom/master would of left a long time ago. Your thoughts please. I'm thinking..... [sm=dontfeedtrolls.gif]

ResidentSadist -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 4:31:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddyyouwantme I get alot of male doms emailing me and I push their limts verbally just to see if they are for real. I verbally abuse them and they still come back for more and still want to be with me. I think a real dom/master would of left a long time ago. Your thoughts please. I agree... bye bye brat.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Can they really call themselves Doms? (7/24/2008 10:41:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pennygurl perhaps our opening poster is simply using her brattiness as a filter of sorts. perhaps the characteristic she values most in a gentleman is his verbal and mental agility. perhaps she is deluged with random emails from HNG's who can not string a complete sentence together if their lives depended upon it, and she is simply mirroring the communication style she receives from these many admirers. She couldn't have said it better herself. Trust me.[8\|] (methinks you give a bit too much credit to teh trolls...)

xxblushesxx -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 10:43:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 quote: I get alot of male doms emailing me and I push their limts verbally just to see if they are for real. I verbally abuse them and they still come back for more and still want to be with me. I think a real dom/master would of left a long time ago. Your thoughts please. I'm thinking..... [sm=dontfeedtrolls.gif] I was gonna post that last night. lol I guess I got distracted.

purelea2003 -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 11:11:12 AM)
To intentionally bait a sadist is foolishness.

julietsierra -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 11:16:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: purelea2003 To intentionally bait a sadist is foolishness. It IS?! OMG!! NOW you tell me!!! foolish foolish me!! juliet edited to add that I should have read the entire thread...it was just that baiting sadists thing that caught my eye. I don't know if it's baiting per se, but I do so like talking about things that I KNOW he's going to use against me...and what's worse(best) is that I actually elaborate on them... And all the while, all I can think of is that old Bill Cosby schtick where his father tells him to go get something to beat him with...and how it never failed, his brother would go "rip up a tree" and bring it back to his father. But anyway, with regard to the original post - now that I've actually read it... while I don't insult and all that, I HAVE set up situations where I've been able to see the potential dominant's "staying power" on a decision he's made in order to cull the wheat from the chaff. If I could convince that person to change his mind - and even more fun - change it back again..then I wanted no part of him. When I met my Master, I did indeed "bait the sadist." I told him what I do and how I do it and what I look for and what are turn offs. The end result of that was that on the day he limited my efforts to masturbate, that was the last time he's ever given permission when not in his presence...and we're very near now to the 6 year mark. Every single time I ask - he laughs and says no. Once when I complained, he reminded me of my conversation regarding my ability to change minds.... But I've never thought this was foolishness. I got exactly what I wanted. A man who is decisive and has the staying power as well as the intelligence to recognize what I am doing and not cave. ok... NOW I'm done. juliet

subtee -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 11:57:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar I tryed to manupliate subtee but she keeps slaping my hands. Now if I find out who gave her that dammed ruler. Darling, Ray, I'd never slap your hands. I'm just batting my eyelashes.[;)]

Leatherist -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 12:05:41 PM)
Considering that her profile already states pretty clearly that she is getting no lack of real life attention-I would just think the girl is responding in kind to the sort of puffed up asshats that flood this place. I guess the main issue is why they keep coming back for more when she slaps them? Because they aren't doms. They are fools, and have probably earned the treatment she gives them. And they come back because of three reasons. Arrogance. Stupidity. Low self esteem. No man with any pride lets someone shit on him repeatedly-and comes back for more of the same. Or any combination of the above.

WyldHrt -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 9:08:13 PM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_2002573/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2002573 Jus sayin

Surrenderwithin -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 9:21:15 PM)
We often hear about how a Dom doesn't have the right to expect submission until we give it to them.... Do we have the right to expect Dominance that they have not given? What is the difference?

Leatherist -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 9:23:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Surrenderwithin We often hear about how a Dom doesn't have the right to expect submission until we give it to them.... Do we have the right to expect Dominance that they have not given? What is the difference? Not really. Someone needs to be worth the effort. Which is why I always laugh at "the gift of drama and hoop jumping" Umm....thank you very much, I'll pass-Hey, do I get fries with that?

WyldHrt -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 9:46:57 PM)
quote: Not really. Someone needs to be worth the effort. Which is why I always laugh at "the gift of drama and hoop jumping" Agreed. I don't see the point of the OP's "strategy". If I'm interested enough to reply to an initial mail (which I pretty much only do if there is an indication that my profile was actually read, or if it is from someone on the forums), then I'm interested enough to want to get to know the person. Subjecting them to some verbally abusive obstacle course would be counter-productive, as it would only "weed out" those genuine enough to have no interest in a mouthy, drama loving SAM. JMHO, of course.

Leatherist -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 9:52:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WyldHrt quote: Not really. Someone needs to be worth the effort. Which is why I always laugh at "the gift of drama and hoop jumping" Agreed. I don't see the point of the OP's "strategy". If I'm interested enough to reply to an initial mail (which I pretty much only do if there is an indication that my profile was actually read, or if it is from someone on the forums), then I'm interested enough to want to get to know the person. Subjecting them to some verbally abusive obstacle course would be counter-productive, as it would only "weed out" those genuine enough to have no interest in a mouthy, drama loving SAM. JMHO, of course. At the same time, it can often be used as a method to draw someone out. As in, having had bad experiences with people in the past with anger management issues. Which might be a valid point to explore-when you have extreme control fantasies. It's probably a very BAD idea to put your life in the hands of someone who may freak out and do something insane by having some hidden trigger tripped. Better to weed that out while you can still keep it at a distance.

WyldHrt -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 10:09:54 PM)
Perhaps, but I still see it as "throwing out the baby with the bathwater". As the Op does, I would wonder about a Dom that I could shit on repeatedly who kept coming back for more. Eh, just me, I guess.

Leatherist -> RE: Can they really call themselves a Dom? (7/24/2008 10:17:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WyldHrt Perhaps, but I still see it as "throwing out the baby with the bathwater". As the Op does, I would wonder about a Dom that I could shit on repeatedly who kept coming back for more. Eh, just me, I guess. But I can imagine the fun it would be to piss of a "twue master" to see what he was made of. Especially when you suspected he just might be a kid playing games. [;)]

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