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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 6:13:45 PM   
Skully7000


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Status: offline 		Voyeurs can enjoy watching.

Compersion is a Poly term for taking enjoyment knowing that your partner is experiencing joy from another (think the opposite of Jealousy)

then there are those that just like to share with their friends... their are those who enjoy having extra hands to work on their subs
there are those who use others as punishment/humiliation. "I will let Master FatStinkyBastard play with you as punishment" 

Then there are those who will take take take but won't share their Sub to save your life... then there are those who will be flat out insulted that someone even Asked if they were Poly or if they could possibly play with their partner(which is a Pet Peeve of mine when responding negativly to a person who asks Politely and with Respect)

then there are those who are just flat out Perfecatly acceptable Monogamous types who just don't want to play with anyone other then their partner.

personally I love to share my play partners with people I trust. I'm a voyeur and enjoy watching it. I also enjoy scenes involving more then just 2 people.(Play orgies?)

I also consider myself Incredibly Lucky and Quite Flattered when a friend of mine allows me to play with their submissive. I'm quite honored by it.

cheers
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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 6:57:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I first began playing with my Sir He didn't mind me playing with other men.  There came a time when I didn't want to play with others and He was ok with that... we've discussed me playing with men now, and He's not keen on the idea.  I have a theory.... He began to develop deeper feelings for me, and that's why He doesn't want to share.  I must add that I have no desire to play with any other men.  Now, give me an opportunity to play with a female and I'm all over that.  

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:00:44 PM   
smartalex


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ORIGINAL: seababy

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

It's not always about sex.


*gasp*
Sometimes its about the scrabble?



It's not always about the sex, but it IS always about the scrabble. That's in the rule book.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:13:22 PM   
theq


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Status: offline 		I'll answer with that it's not particularly my thing. That being said, I am seeing a girl who is a swinger. While I have some curiosity to find out about her interests, we have expectations about what will and won't happen on our visits to the club.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:14:34 PM   
Leatherist


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ORIGINAL: smartalex

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ORIGINAL: seababy

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

It's not always about sex.


*gasp*
Sometimes its about the scrabble?



It's not always about the sex, but it IS always about the scrabble. That's in the rule book.



"quijibo"

Ten points please.



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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:16:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michelle1227

Do Doms share their sub with other Doms or watch as two subs interact with each other.
Do Doms enjoy watching their subs take pleasure from others?

M

Some do. I had a partner who enjoyed it greatly. He especially enjoyed watching his girl being Dominated by another female (usually me). Others like the idea of giving permission for the sub to go find pleasure elsewhere.

Personally, my boys are not allowed to play with anyone else. They also do not interact. My rules, and they gladly follow them. Angel has a bit more leeway than Fox does when it comes to playing elsewhere, though, since he would be allowed to pursue something else with permission. Fox is mine and mine alone and that wont change.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:30:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michelle1227

Do Doms share their sub with other Doms or watch as two subs interact with each other.
Do Doms enjoy watching their subs take pleasure from others?

M


Some do, some don't. Mine doesn't exactly share me, although he might at some point in the future, but he does let me have my fun. I think he enjoys it in a non-sexual way, the way one enjoys knowing that a friend or loved one is happy.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:31:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

"quijibo"

Ten points please.




Just have to say: That made me giggle.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:38:56 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Sharing as I think of it, not many.  I think of sharing as two or more dominants who will all take responsibility, care, and control of the subbie/slave.  It does occur (first thought being of a Dom/Dom couple).  As for letting others play with subbie, that I would consider just that  playing with them, using them.  Yes there are some who enjoy that, but not all.

Like most things, there will be those on both sides of the fence and then with varying ways of practice what they like.  What is it that YOU want?  Then that is the type of person YOU should be looking for.

Wishes,
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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 7:50:02 PM   
Donaldnola


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Status: offline 		Though it has been said ad nauseam, I will add my two cents in. There isn't, as far as I am aware, a rule book that everyone must follow. This question can only be answered thusly, it depends on the relationship between THAT Dom, and THAT sub. Someone else made the point that if what you are truly asking is would you HAVE to be shared, no, but make sure that is understood upfront. Or, if what you are asking is would a Dom mind that you are married? Find a Dom who is looking for part time, not 24/7.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/28/2008 8:12:13 PM   
Highlands


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Status: offline 		I actually enjoy sharing a sub--BUT I'm very selective about who I will share a sub with and under what conditions.

Folks want to borrow a sub for all kinds of reasons. I was rather saddened by the attitudes of some men that seek to borrow a sub when  I first tried this years ago.  I've learned from experience that it pays to be selective-particularly on the basis of character and attitude.

Now, that said, I have profound respect for subs that are willing to be shared-and those Doms that select those that get access to their subs on the basis of character and values.


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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/29/2008 7:51:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		my master has never shared me while i am in his company but i have cammed for him and a freind of his and my master has also loaned me to a party where he orderd me on cam what i had to do he also likes to the videos of me from the party whilst i serve him

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/29/2008 6:27:53 PM   
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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 7/30/2008 1:28:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy's willing to share me with women, with or without him being there, actually he's mentioned several times for me to find a lover (female). But as far as another male, it would not be for free. If the situation ever arose, believe me they would pay for his girl.... Daddy's not against me being a pro sub. Does that sound twisted or what. Just the facts folks..
 
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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 9/23/2008 8:20:34 PM   
Hollywood1944


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Status: offline 		It depends on what the Top decideswith YOU!! When you get into the BdS&m lifestyle; if you have a Mentor after he or she trains you he will share you so that you can see how others Play.  As a Nubbie it is good to be shared this is part of your training.  Once you have picked the one that will collar you; it is still up to both of you to decide .  In So. California I had as many as 9 subs; my wife I didn't share. but the others, I did.  Some men brought me their wives or girlfriends to play with.  Some came on their own occord.  There aare many different styls and some Dom are betterin one style than others.  YOu should get a Mentor since you are new to see which direction that you want to go in..  Hollywood 

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 9/24/2008 4:16:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sharing subs is playing with fire while drenched in gasoline! How do you know your skills won't be outclassed? Besides what happens to the trust? If you spend ages helping someone with their self worth issues, thend lend them out like hedge trimmers? My Wife and I are both Doms, she has four huge male slaves, all substantially bigger and younger than me, in vanilla terms I would not have a hope in Hell against them for her attentions, as her mentor I enjoy watching her enjoy them, and although she is submissive towards me, I would cut my hand off rather than let another Dom touch her. I don't allow anyone but her to lay a finger on any of my sub ladies, and I must be honest, I love watching her work!

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 9/25/2008 12:00:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		At present, no. But I don't rule it out completely.

I believe I haven't had enough experience, over a prolonged period of time, to get to that point.

In the past I've enjoyed doing some experiments in exhibitionism with my sub partner, but I was always the one in control, and the other guys were .. just guys, and mostly just there to jerk off and be props, essentially.

We did have a dominant contact us once who wanted to interact. We considered it. He was a good writer, and he sent lots of fun pictures of his dungeon, him dressed up, with equipage, etc.
After considering it, though, neither of us were ready to go there.

I did enjoy using it as a fantasy punishment, though; telling her that maybe I will allow him to do this and that to her, making up ridiculous stories that he and I were in secret communication and planning something for her, etc.
The stories were partly for fun, but they could get intense at moments, too.

I might consider such a thing one day, but I'd want to have a very solid rapport with the other dominant, and I just don't know if that's ever really likely to happen.

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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 9/25/2008 12:34:08 PM   
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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 9/25/2008 12:41:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some will.  But Psst..... I'll let you in on a little secret.  Don't tell anyone else.  A great number of dominants are actually quite insecure & as such, they don't want to share their toys, err... ahmm..... their submissives.    So, choose carefully, so depending on which one you want, so you can be reasonably sure you will be sure to get shared, or not.

While I am at it, I should tell you that there are very few male dominants that mind sharing their submissive with a woman, domme, submissive, switch, or even a swinging women, especially, if they can share in the festivities.

Now, remember.  Shhhh.......

(This was in reply to the op, not anyone else on the thread. )


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RE: Do Doms share their subs? - 9/25/2008 3:58:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		And then there are the ones who aren't insecure but would no more share their submissive than they would their brand new Porsche. They simply consider their relationship and their submissive as being of too much value to risk any harm.

I'm not shareable. I wouldn't come through it without damage. So why would he demand I do something that would lessen my trust and damage both me and our relationship? Being smart, and knowing how much work and time has gone into this - he won't.

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