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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 8:36:10 PM

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darkangel.... Actually... I kinda of think it is kinda normal for all to be involved to some degree in the finding such an experience. However, there is no right way to do it and couples need to do what works for them.... in the end... the approach needs to have results.... and if the approach is not getting results.... then I suppose one needs revisit the approach.....

curious... have you or he ever experienced a three sum??

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 8:39:26 PM

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ok i have a strict master i have found 4 suitable females all were introducuced to my master in a 3 way chat and all went well i was instructed to cam for them and my master, then my master would ask them to cam and when they refused i was told to block them they were just time wasters iv been trying to find a female to join us for over a year now and untill i do my servitute has been revoked its been 5 months since i served my master in person and i dont feel worthy of the title slave,but shouldnt it be a shared effort to find someone between master and slave?

oh brother... I should of kept reading before I made my first post to this thread......... I suspect this thread is going to get interesting.... something like a train wreck.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 8:43:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: darkangelslave

no i joined the chatroom for advice and support on a lot of things im a first time slave and i was assured this was a freindly site where i would be able to ask the opinions and advice of other people living this lifestyle!!!!!!!!!!!

There there, breathe through the nose
You are getting opinions and advice. The answers may not be exactly what you wanted to hear but don't confuse that with unfriendliness

Now isn't that the truth...... so many ask questions with an expectations of the answer they want to hear...... and when they get what the don't want to hear... even when it is really good advice or even a very valid opinion like Merc gave... people are suddenly unfriendly because of it.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 8:57:31 PM

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I see it more as a total failure of "mastery" by his part than any disobediance by hers.

I see it as abit of both.... but is kinda of like a chicken and the egg thing.... which came first?

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 9:00:47 PM

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A master does whatever he/she wants in your relationship maybe .....but your own values and definitions may not be a pillar in other people's relationships.

You are correct. In my relationship a Master is more than just a honorarium. I forget that in other cases, it's just connotes a reference to a person serving the slave's interests.

Your point is well taken, when someone references a master, it can mean that they've mastered providing service.

Well if meeting the needs (yanno, the necessary thing to keep a person sane, mentally and physically healthy) is "serving the slaves interest" then I guess most "masters" out there with any sense of decency are just servants gift wrapped in "dom-paper". I'd rather have one of those pressies than one who values his title over my wellbeing.

I would prefer to have individuals in a relationship that serve the well-being of the relationship..... what specifically need to do for the relationship to be healthy and functional... well that is rather unique for everyone.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 9:11:01 PM

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To me .. it all boils down to who this is actually for, if it is for the slave, then it would be better for her to find one she is compatible with, if it is for her master's pleasure then he should be more involved. I am not saying his punishment is wrong( to each their own), but not serving for 5 months is a lil on the extreme side , as I see it, it is a cop out on his part to keep her away and with blame that this is all her fault . but still have her available in case he runs into a dry spell .

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/3/2008 9:14:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

She can call herself a pink goat and her partner a purple dinosaur for that matter.

But ... the labels that we or they call themselves is irrelevant...............

What the OP has shared and continued to share reflects some poor judgement and even disrespects her partner. It is behaviors that brings into queston the character of the person.... to hell with labels of the relationship.. they are irrelevant.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/5/2008 12:09:21 PM

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This whole thing sounds really sketchy. I mean, really sketchy.

Punishing you for not finding a third right away? That's ridiculous. You can't control whether those other girls want to have a threesome with you guys or not. Yeah, him not getting involved in looking for a third is pretty lame and counterproductive (whatever his motivations are). And yeah, talking to vanilla girls would obviously be useless for you guys and you should've been looking on ALT or Collarme. But still, it can take people ages and ages to find a third. As long as you're trying, he should accept that.

Basically, this guy sounds like a dick who's using you (and not in a fun sexy way either). Sorry, but I'd get away from him.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/7/2008 6:30:38 AM

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yes i found a suitable site,and things between me and my Master are alot better thank you.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/7/2008 6:32:23 AM

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not was with him i still serve him loyaly and always will.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/7/2008 4:06:42 PM

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... this task has befallen on me a task that he knows i am realy struggling with,is it common practice for the slave to be resposible for choosing a suitable female for her master?

It is quite amusing to watch her wriggling around and trying to get the job done. My suggestion is to not go too much into the selecting process as it becomes overly complicated. Just find someone you both get along with and get to know them socially. Relax.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/7/2008 4:10:27 PM

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Don't you know, if you want to become a true dom in this day & age, they always have to have a 3some in the mix & generally, it is easier on him if he lets you choose. That way, it becomes your responsibility if it doesn't work out the way he hoped it would, or if something goes wrong.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/7/2008 4:17:24 PM

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if you want to become a true dom in this day & age

Heh, I think that is spelt ' twue dom ' is it not ?

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/7/2008 11:08:13 PM

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id like to thank everyone that gave me advice,and for the e-mails with names of sight's,once i felt more confident in myself i joined quite a few other sight and iv had a great time time getting to know a lot of new freinds over the past couple of days,sometimes in life its good for people to be bluntly honest with there oponions,i know it has helped me a great deal,in more ways than one so im eternaly gratefull you all gave me so many ideas and also a few other things to think about.x

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/8/2008 8:46:09 AM

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Vield,

That was very well put.

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/16/2008 5:10:21 AM

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I have had a sub find a third for a vanilla playdate, but I have found the third if it was going to be in the life

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RE: if a master desires a 3some is it normaly a slaves ... - 8/16/2008 8:39:19 AM

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Simple answer is "If you own a dog, why would you bark!" Any slave I own either personally or as part of the house will be trained in a vcariety of duties according to his or her natural talents and will be trained on 'Seek & Find" as well as both "Light & Heavy Recon". Slave finds several posibilities and meets thren initially then we all meet to see if the chemistry is good if it isn't it's a no fly zone...

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