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RE: Flash Back???? - 8/3/2008 10:40:18 PM

subinlife

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It has happened to me as well, the Dom I was with came up behind me and grabbed my hair, something my exhusband did and I freaked. He let me have a few minutes to try to get control and then we sat and talked for a long time. He let me cry as long as I needed to. He held me and kept saying it was ok. He was wonderful about it, made me feel safe.

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RE: Flash Back???? - 8/4/2008 11:26:20 PM

Silkendream

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hi luscious! i found that what helps me in this situation is to journal about it, show it to Master, and then we discuss it. Then He gives me affirmations, and tasks etc to do around the feeling, and to help me get through it, process it, and let it go.

Depends how deep you want to go, but Arthur Janov has written very well about letting all this primal pain out "The Primal Scream" is excellent - and also Alice Miller. I've found them very helpful.

Good luck!

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RE: Flash Back???? - 8/5/2008 3:02:11 AM

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my ex Dominant had me hold my arms out ( i was laying on my back on the floor ) and he hit the underarm of my arms with a wooden spoon, i remember feeling anxious and i pulled my arms over my chest and said "no ,don't do that please " he responded by being firm ,so i obeyed and put them out. my next memory is of my abusive ex husband trying to beat me, i scrambelled into the corner with my hands over my face for protection crying hysterically "please don't " everytime i looked up i saw my ex husbands face, i don't remember anything after that until i came around in a ball on the floor still sobbing.

He told me he couldn't get near me as it caused me to become more pleading and hysterical so he sat back and eventually i rolled up in a ball ,he waited ,he said this went on for a further ten minutes. Luckily i haven't had it happen again, it did leave me feeling really awful for a few weeks after and brought on nightmares of my ex husband again. But after they subsided i actually felt better, so maybe it was just something that my mind and heart was ready, and needed to release.

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~shanaya~

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