Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive



Message

yasminad -> Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 8:04:58 PM)

Ok. I didn't want to threadjack the other "names" thread...but I have a question.

Please keep in mind that I'm new to this...I've only been training with my Masters for about three months, and I have the option of calling them "Master" or "Sir."

I'm curious about those of you that refer to your Doms as "Daddy."

why?  I've seen and heard it a few times, and I'm just curious, I suppose. :)

Thanks for feeding my curiosity. :)



beltainefaerie -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 8:13:07 PM)

I actually don't call my dom "Daddy", but people who do are in a relationship with a different dynamic.  Usually, the dominant has more of a fatherly or protective role.  They may or may not be into age play.
I am a switch and sometimes my dominant aspect is more protective and "Mommy" dom-like, though those I play with don't use that as a title.



yasminad -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 8:17:11 PM)

Thank you, this is helpful, and along the lines of what I was thinking.

:)



FlamingRedhead -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 9:11:52 PM)

I'm one of *those* people, but all I can do is explain the particular dynamic I'm in since there are different types of age play.  The form that best describes it for us is adolescentilism.  Basically, I'm a 21-year-old trapped in an adult's body.  For me, it's not so much age play as reality.  I still shop for clothes in the juniors' department and listen to current music.  I like tattoos, dyed hair, and my navel piercing.  I have problems with authority and can be a little irresponsible.
 
I like older men because they have the stability I crave.  I don't refer to my dominant as Daddy because I'm seeking an incestuous role play, although he's literally old enough to be my biological father.  In fact, he's actually older than my parents by a few years, but I digress.  He doesn't refer to me as his daughter; he calls me his little girl.  A little girl is a different kind of submissive in that she isn't necessarily service oriented.  She can be a trifle selfish and doesn't always keep Daddy's needs foremost in her mind.  Occasionally, she needs to be reminded of this, chastised, or even punished.
 
Daddy pointed out that our dynamic is closer to Master/slave than Dominant/submissive because, if you think about it, a parent has total responsibility and total control over a child.  A child has total dependence and total trust in a parent to provide everything needed for her well being.  We haven't reached that stage, yet, but that's what we're working towards.



Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 11:16:49 PM)

Not trying to hijack *this* thread, but a thought just popped up -- why is it that it's fairly well-accepted in the BDSM community to call a male dominant "Daddy" but you never hear of a submissive calling a female dominant "Mommy?"

And why is Mommy so much creepier to me than Daddy?



SoulPiercer -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 11:41:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

Not trying to hijack *this* thread, but a thought just popped up -- why is it that it's fairly well-accepted in the BDSM community to call a male dominant "Daddy" but you never hear of a submissive calling a female dominant "Mommy?"

And why is Mommy so much creepier to me than Daddy?



I hear submissives call female dominants "Mommy" all the time.

I've also heard female dominants referred to as "Master" and "Daddy".




GreedyTop -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/18/2008 11:44:24 PM)

I had a femsub for a while that called me mommy.. *shrug*



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 5:30:36 AM)

why i call my dominant "Daddy"?

simply because He's a loving, caring, nurturing person ...a type of person who's more fatherly than my real father (those who are military brats might understand this). i missed out having a father when growing up esp having a father being there for me. it's not a "role" merely to be played - He's Daddy 24/7/365.



yasminad -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 6:09:36 AM)

Thanks everyone, for your responses.  This helps me a lot.  Its helpful to see everyone's individual responses. :)

As far as the Mommy question, I actually haven't heard that used, but again...I'm really new. lol  Hopefully, we can find an answer! :)



chamberqueen -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 6:37:04 AM)

I call my Master Daddy, and it has nothing to do with age play.  He considers Himself my protector from wolves, gives me guidance and advice, is proud of every achievement whether lifestyle or vanilla, and nurtures me.  I love it when He calls me babygurl.  He has very little sadism in Him, and so describes Himself as a Daddy Dom.  It came very naturally for me to call Him Daddy. 

As a Domme I have often been called Mommy.  It is because I am more of a trainer and teacher, especially helping those who are new to something like crossdressing or getting in touch with their feminine side.  When I lived in Italy my office mates nicknamed me "madre di tutti" - mother of all.  It is just my way to take people under my wing.  It is not like my subs believe they are having sexual thoughts towards their own mothers; it is that they feel that they have someone that they can completely trust to have their best interests in mind.



subsadie -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 8:12:36 AM)

I rarely call my Owner "Daddy."  More often than not, it comes out when I am especially playful, or flirting in public.  I'll whisper, "Thank you, Daddy." or "Please, Daddy?" in his ear in my most Southern Belle little girl voice to let him know that I enjoy our dynamic, even in public when we appear much more "vanilla."  It has nothing to do with age play with us either. 



TheTXRanch -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 8:28:38 AM)

In public i call my Master "Sir", in private "Strict Master", and when i am really horny, i communicate by calling him "Daddy". Although i have served "Daddy Doms" and had a lot of fun with age play, my current Master is not into that and a far cry from a Daddy Dom, but there is something sensual/hot about saying "Daddy".



pixidustpet -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 8:38:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

why i call my dominant "Daddy"?

simply because He's a loving, caring, nurturing person ...a type of person who's more fatherly than my real father (those who are military brats might understand this). i missed out having a father when growing up esp having a father being there for me. it's not a "role" merely to be played - He's Daddy 24/7/365.


*nods*  especially on the military brat thing.  Daddy loves me, and i am certain of it....loves me enough to let me move away from him and take a secondary-dominant role in my life as i started my life with TheEngineer.  he isnt gone, just the relationship shifted.

TheEngineer and i have a similar relationship (DaddyDom) because he understands me...and likes being the adult in charge while he spoils me and cares for me.

i'm daughter, child, future-spouse, housekeeper, cook, laundress....and we are content with it that way.

kitten



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 8:42:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie
why is it that it's fairly well-accepted in the BDSM community to call a male dominant "Daddy" but you never hear of a submissive calling a female dominant "Mommy?"

Both my boys refer to me as Mommy regularly. Angel and I are age players, and it is part of our dynamic to do so as well as a very happy and comfortable pet name. Fox just calls me Mommy because it fits, sometimes. I am fiercely protective, very supportive and emotionally available. I mother them to death on occasion, and so the name is appropriate.
AS to why it might be creepy,for some reason, people can assocaite caling a male figure in their life Daddy for no other reason than they are older and protective. For a female, it immediately (and unfairly) brings the incest image to mind.

DV




Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 1:32:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

AS to why it might be creepy,for some reason, people can assocaite caling a male figure in their life Daddy for no other reason than they are older and protective. For a female, it immediately (and unfairly) brings the incest image to mind.



I figured it was some kind of double standard like that.  Amazing what society can do to our perceptions of things... it really is unfair.  [&:]



jayded34 -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 1:38:01 PM)

I'm one of *those* people, but all I can do is explain the particular dynamic I'm in since there are different types of age play.  The form that best describes it for us is adolescentilism.  Basically, I'm a 21-year-old trapped in an adult's body.  For me, it's not so much age play as reality.  I still shop for clothes in the juniors' department and listen to current music.  I like tattoos, dyed hair, and my navel piercing.  I have problems with authority and can be a little irresponsible.


this sums up me perfectly~ thank you so much for saying things i never know how to say~ P.S. i agree with the rest of your post too just this stood out perfectly~



FlamingRedhead -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 1:44:45 PM)

You're welcome!



yasminad -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 3:27:12 PM)

Wow, I'm really liking all of the responses here.  Thank you all so much for sharing. 




StrongSpirit -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 5:40:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

Not trying to hijack *this* thread, but a thought just popped up -- why is it that it's fairly well-accepted in the BDSM community to call a male dominant "Daddy" but you never hear of a submissive calling a female dominant "Mommy?"

And why is Mommy so much creepier to me than Daddy?



You think Mommy is creepier than Daddy?

How would you feel about a man that wanted to be called "God"?

Now stop and think about the women insisting on being called Goddess.




Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Another quesiton about names or how you address your Dom... (8/19/2008 5:41:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
You think Mommy is creepier than Daddy?

How would you feel about a man that wanted to be called "God"?

Now stop and think about the women insisting on being called Goddess.




You do realize I think that Goddess is just as ridiculous as God, right?



Page: [1] 2   next >   >>

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.03125