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brightspot -> Possitive Relationships; (11/22/2005 2:18:57 AM)
Ya know, I sure hear a lot of bitching and moaning about how difficult this lifestyle can be and complaining about this and that, on-line...off-line, real-life??? Geeze! I would love to hear some possitive things, I have a very good relationship with my Domina. .... Who else does in their Dynamic? Any bragging or good talk to throw out? It would be nice to have a thread that expressed good chit happening for some in their relationships and the difference your partaking in WIITWD has made and enhanced your life. I don't know, maybe I am just in a wildly great sub-space in anticipation of being with MsN[8D].... but I would hope there is some possitive stuff happening for some of ya?[;)] *Brightspot

FangsNfeet -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/22/2005 3:05:44 AM)
BDSM builds better relationships. All parties in the relationship are more honest, trusting, and respectfull when you have discipline as a structure. Everyone learns there limits, conquers there fears, and builds a more trusting relationship with here partner/partners than what can be expected in most other couples.

brightspot -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/22/2005 3:18:06 AM)
quote: BDSM builds better relationships. All parties in the relationship are more honest, trusting, and respectfull when you have discipline as a structure. Everyone learns there limits, conquers there fears, and builds a more trusting relationship with here partner/partners than what can be expected in most other couples. Thank you, for adding, Fang.

KatyLied -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/22/2005 3:42:25 AM)
quote: BDSM builds better relationships. I'd like to think this is true. But a relationship is only as strong as the weakest participant in it. Regardless of lifestyle choice.

smilezz -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/22/2005 3:46:11 AM)
Mr Thorns - what more can i say? He is the best part of me......aside from being drop dead handsome....i worship the very ground this Man walks on....He is my very next breath...i adore Him, madly in love with Him....could not ask for a better Man to serve. I have looked for a Man like this all my life. It took me years and years of fumbling through what i really wanted...needed. I almost came to a point in my life that BD/SM would most likely never be anything more than a scene here and there......i almost settled. I now know what i had been missing........... Master. Okkkkk, so i did have more to say...and i COULD still go on. grinz ~smilezz~

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/22/2005 6:12:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet All parties in the relationship are more honest, trusting, and respectfull when you have discipline as a structure. No they aren't. Don't you read all the posts about dishonesty, disrespect and other issues? The same issues that comes up in vanilla relationships also come up in bdsm relationship. quote: Everyone learns there limits, conquers there fears, and builds a more trusting relationship with here partner/partners than what can be expected in most other couples. Not true. Again, if you are oriented to Ds/bdsm, then yes, this relationship will obviously be much better for you. But if you are NOT oriented to bdsm/Ds, then NO, this relationship won't be better for you at all. And bdsm relationships have as much crap/insecurities/miscommunication/cheating/etc etc etc as any other type of relationship. A strong relationship is a strong relationship, no matter what the orientation is. That being said- my relationships are all going very solidly right now. Last weekend my local partner treated me to Mexican for lunch, Coldstone creamery for dessert, Harry Potter, chinese for dinner and amazing orgasms and sex for bed. Weekend after this I am going to see my boyfriend for a bondage convention in Austin. In mid-January I am going to see my Boston partner for a weekend science fiction convention/poly/kink party. We're all very connected and supportive of eachother and very stable.

brightspot -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 12:20:09 AM)
quote: Mr Thorns - what more can i say? He is the best part of me......aside from being drop dead handsome....i worship the very ground this Man walks on....He is my very next breath...i adore Him, madly in love with Him....could not ask for a better Man to serve. I have looked for a Man like this all my life. It took me years and years of fumbling through what i really wanted...needed. I almost came to a point in my life that BD/SM would most likely never be anything more than a scene here and there......i almost settled. I now know what i had been missing........... Master. Okkkkk, so i did have more to say...and i COULD still go on. grinz ~smilezz~ Hello smilezz, I kind of figured that you and Mr.Thorns had a really good relationship. it is nice to hear you confirm and share that. Yay! something possitive![:)]May it only get better![;)] *Brightspot

brightspot -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 12:26:06 AM)
quote: That being said- my relationships are all going very solidly right now. Last weekend my local partner treated me to Mexican for lunch, Coldstone creamery for dessert, Harry Potter, chinese for dinner and amazing orgasms and sex for bed. Weekend after this I am going to see my boyfriend for a bondage convention in Austin. In mid-January I am going to see my Boston partner for a weekend science fiction convention/poly/kink party. We're all very connected and supportive of eachother and very stable. LuckyA, You are another here that seems to be experiencing a lot of possitivity in your relationships. And handling your participation in the lifestyle with grace and openess. I know I appreciate your participation here and have learned much from you, including your possitive outlook[;)]. *Brightspot

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 1:22:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet BDSM builds better relationships. All parties in the relationship are more honest, That's simply not true. What about the people who're sneaking around and cheating on a wife or a husband to engage in bdsm. That's not being more honest at all. BDSM does not mean any one is more honest than non bdsmers nor more honorable.

Littlepita -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 4:12:50 AM)
Oh goodie a thread that I can brag about my Sir on. [:D] We met online 7 months ago. I was just looking for an editor to help me with a story and he sent me a PM offering to help. I think it was less then a week and I was in love with him. That love has just grown by leaps and bounds and now we are making plans to live together in three months. All my life I had this picture in my mind of the perfect man for me. It's like he walked out of my dreams and into reality. I thank God for this blessing that I didn't deserve and plan to cherish him forever. He is my Daddy/Dom and hopefully in time will become my Master. [:)]

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 9:58:16 AM)
Joseph and I met 4 years ago, Our first date res a ren fair. He brought me flower boquet and chocolates:D I could gush about him forever lol but I won't. I just know we're both blessed

sub4hire -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 11:28:15 AM)
This coming March 8th Doug and I will have been together 7 years. We've been engaged 6 of those years. A wedding date is imminent once we can pull it off. It's complicated and I won't go into it here. It took me a very long 5 year’s to find him and I did as I was giving up my search. I had my list of absolutes and nobody seemed to be good enough to commit to. Then there he was. We have evolved a great deal together since our first meeting. His life was a shambles when I met him…it no longer is. My life, well it is my life. I have always had to be the dominant personality within my family and I still do. Though now I can fall back on him when I need to. Which essentially amounts to daily. Our lives are far from perfect. We have our ups and downs. More ups than downs and that is what is important to us. We see our future as growing old together. So far we are on the right track. I make no promises to what the future holds. As far as I know from meeting other’s in life and talking to others. I know of very few who have been together as long as we have. So, I hesitate to call us a success but that is what so many others call us. Life is good when you have someone to fall back on when needed. My life is pretty good indeed.

veronicaofML -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 12:04:42 PM)
"I" AM happy being a-hired-hand........ just coz the rest of the herd can't cope with it......... i like being domestics service..it's MY thing.

RiotGirl -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 2:05:10 PM)
LOL Ver.. i dont think this thread was ment for you to comment on :p Hmmmm.. you can read my profile and read about how i feel about Master LOL Its pretty positive = ) One of the things i've noticed is that in vanilla relationship and even with more dominant personalities ones that like to please and as i always said "do things" for.. i find submissive people in vanilla relatinships tend to get unappreciated and thought less of. LOL the more you gave the more they thought they could use you. So i have found that finally my "niceness" is appreciated. Finally the fact that i like to do things JUST to make some one happy, is appreciated. Heck there are alot of GOOD things, but that would be another two pages worth. Self discovery.. sometimes i think BDSM and the lifestyle is close to a spiritual journey, with in ourselves.. enlightenment. Its a BIG road, and you learn so much about yourself walking it..

veronicaofML -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 2:32:03 PM)
LOL Ver.. i dont think this thread was ment for you to comment on :p ======== then i'll go in my corner and suck my thumb then....i'm tellin mom you were mean and wouldn't let me play................................. roflmao

KatyLied -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 3:21:22 PM)
quote: It took me a very long 5 year’s to find him and I did as I was giving up my search. I've heard many people say this, that it's when you resign yourself that it just isn't out there, that is when the door opens.

candystripper -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 3:24:20 PM)
i know good Men exist here; i have made such wonderful friendships. candystripper

brightspot -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 9:35:03 PM)
Littlepita, I wish you all the best! *Brightspot

brightspot -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 9:38:48 PM)
FP, I have known you ever since I joined and have had the impression your relationship was a good, stable one. It does happen, I think sometimes when I read some posts, some of us should get up and dance! *Brightspot

brightspot -> RE: Possitive Relationships; (11/23/2005 9:45:00 PM)
quote: This coming March 8th Doug and I will have been together 7 years. We've been engaged 6 of those years. A wedding date is imminent once we can pull it off. It's complicated and I won't go into it here. It took me a very long 5 year’s to find him and I did as I was giving up my search. I had my list of absolutes and nobody seemed to be good enough to commit to. Then there he was. We have evolved a great deal together since our first meeting. His life was a shambles when I met him…it no longer is. My life, well it is my life. I have always had to be the dominant personality within my family and I still do. Though now I can fall back on him when I need to. Which essentially amounts to daily. Our lives are far from perfect. We have our ups and downs. More ups than downs and that is what is important to us. We see our future as growing old together. So far we are on the right track. I make no promises to what the future holds. As far as I know from meeting other’s in life and talking to others. I know of very few who have been together as long as we have. So, I hesitate to call us a success but that is what so many others call us. Life is good when you have someone to fall back on when needed. My life is pretty good indeed. Thank you sub4hire, this is the kind of things I think some people just starting out need to hear, I'm glad you put some good perspective of the lifestyle and your relationship. I wish you the best taking that step of commitment in marriage[;)] *Brightspot

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