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Dikini -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/9/2008 9:36:47 PM)

This girl and master are finding there are a lot of 30-45ish swingers, that are a lot more open to playing then the bdsm groups who are really selective on what they are looking for.  As swingers just wanna fuck and and you entice them to explore new things, such as bdsm ;) But that is a whole different board game ... 



Stephann -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/9/2008 10:11:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KneelforAnne

Thank You, and I am wondering if You could tell me what it is like looking in other countries. I wonder if “they” are more laid back, or staid in their views. This is purely for curiosity and conversation, as I do not see myself moving *smiles*

Thank You for sharing Your comments and point of view!

~anne


Hi anne,

I think it really depends on the country.  I've lived in Japan and Chile; both countries were more rigid with the family serving a MUCH more important role in social cohesion than in the US.  The BDSM community in Chile was almost non-existant, and I was only 20 when I lived in Japan, so I can't account for how good or bad it was there.

Regards,

Stephan



Maya2001 -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/10/2008 1:42:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: KneelforAnne


Maya2001,

Thank You for Your comments!

In my 26 years here on earth, I have come to realize that book smarts and common sense are two different types of intelligence.

As a teacher I see that many times the “smart” students are the hardest to teach, as they think they are too intelligent to listen or follow instruction.

Thank You for sharing Your point of view.

~anne


Yes the smart students are hardest to teach ..heck one teacher  in grade 2 put my son into remedial reading classes  never realizing he did not need it.. as he was reading newspapers already ....  and wa  memorizing childrens  books and words already at 2 years old

it is not that they think they are too intelligent ...but that most are bored and become extremely distracted by other thought  it more an issue of being able to stay focused that is the problem..if you find something that truly interests them  them will listen and absorb info like a sponge..if not interested their mind takes off wandering  elsewhere



KneelforAnne -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/10/2008 4:15:56 PM)

Dikini,

Thank you for your response!

I’m not quite sure how I feel about enticing someone into the lifestyle…but thank you so much for your post and comments!

~anne



KneelforAnne -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/10/2008 4:21:04 PM)

Stephan,

Thank You for explaining!

I always wonder about cultures and what makes them certain ways. Thank You for Your feedback!

~anne



KneelforAnne -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/10/2008 4:23:43 PM)


Maya2001,

Hmm…. If only text books and standardized tests would incorporate more interesting things! They are getting better, but they still have such a long way to go!

Thank You for Your view on the subject!

~anne



NihilusZero -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/10/2008 8:09:37 PM)

Posting this without having read the preceding pages, so apologies if it's redundant...

It seems to me that the process of becoming a confident (any D/s,M/s role) builds upon an understanding of one's self. The more thorough, the more introspective, the stronger the foundation. The BDSM community is still a subset of the larger general populace...one that, by and large, does not place very much 'practical' value in really understanding yourself psychologically that well.

Older individuals just get enough time to realize these personal discoveries. It seems to me the same sort of question as asking why you'll find fewer 30 year old virgins than 20 year old.

And, though it suddenly occurs to me that this build up appears self-fluffing, it honestly wasn't meant to be...
That being said...I'm 32.



Wildfleurs -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/10/2008 8:27:56 PM)


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ORIGINAL: KneelforAnne

Wildfleurs,

Thank You so much for Your help.  i hate to be a bother, but would You let me know where to get that information?  And...could You tell me what that is?

*smiles*

Thank You

~anne


Sorry I forgot to check on CM threads. The TNG GRoup in Orlando is:

www.orlandotng.com

C~



noonnap -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/11/2008 11:45:18 AM)

actually i have a theory on this. i have thought about it alot. men around and between the ages of 25 to 36 are really focused on their careers. i sometimes dont think they even notice how much. so its hard to catch their attention and even harder to keep it. well thats my experience anyway.



KneelforAnne -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/11/2008 2:19:58 PM)


NihilusZero,

Thank You so much for Your posting!

It does seem that age equates with confidence and knowledge in oneself. Though, that being stated there are any number of examples of recklessness and overconfidence of youth.

And I agree, introspection and self evaluation are severely underrated in our society.

Thank You for sharing Your thoughts!

~anne



KneelforAnne -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/11/2008 2:21:00 PM)

Wildfleurs,

Thanks so much!

~anne



KneelforAnne -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/11/2008 2:23:06 PM)


noon nap,

Thank you so much for the view from your perspective! It always helps to know what others are going though!

I am glad to know that someone else is having the same issues I am!

~anne



CoffinDancer -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/15/2008 7:29:00 PM)

It's not easy finding your one in a vanilla relationship, this lifestyle it's even harder. You are not the only one. Good luck in your search. 



HalloweenWhite -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/16/2008 11:34:05 AM)

Well, I'm in My 30's so there are some about. Just do a search based on what Y/you're looking for and go from there.



Ialdabaoth -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/16/2008 11:44:00 AM)

Of course, what I want to know is: "where are all the hot, skinny 18 year olds that want a 30-year-old"?



tinnypet -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/16/2008 9:54:48 PM)

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HalloweenWhite -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/17/2008 3:16:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

Of course, what I want to know is: "where are all the hot, skinny 18 year olds that want a 30-year-old"?


Lol, I know exactly how You feel, although for Me it's more like "where are all the 6 feet tall, broad shouldered, long dark haired, masochistic, pony-girl slaves with a fetish for short asses in wheelchairs." By hey-ho. Happy hunting the Both of Us!.



BlackPhx -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/17/2008 4:04:02 AM)

ok, I am going to hazzard a guess. I suspect that the 30-40 for male dominants is the ideal target for female subs young and old. Younger then this there is a question of ability/maturity, older then this goes against the "youth culture" of this country. The 30-35 bracket is the prime career building years. Up to 26-28 a lot of young people are either in college or just exploring thier career options above this many put thier time and attention more into thier careers. I have also seen a similar curve in submissives (male and female) where you have the young doing a lot of exploring and middle aged looking for a change in thier lives. Plus Collarme is an advertisement venue, a lot in this age category may already be taken or not looking. Go to the "Woodshed" in Orlando or "Master's Quest" in Clearwater and you will see a lot of couples in the 30-40 range.

To sum up the lack could be any of the following reasons.

To busy making a buck.
Taken by a lucky sub.
Not looking for what ever reason.

Ofcourse this is not the real cause just an observation and likely reasoned idea's based upon life experiences.



scifi1133 -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/17/2008 4:14:07 AM)

I agree with the general statement here that the 30's is a carrer building time for most people. I am 35 and classify myself as a workaholic. There are lots of people out here in my age group that are looking, though I do admit they do seem tougher to find.
But speaking as a dom in the age range that your seeking, and being single, all I can say is that it can't be only me lol. So if I'm here, then there must be others lol.
Good luck in your search.



john32 -> RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? (9/17/2008 9:26:45 AM)

Speaking as a 32 year old, I wish i knew.  I think part of it is that you are looking for a rather specific creature. the majority of the country isnt into kink. or at least they arent into admiting they are into kink.  add to that you are looking for a real relationship (according to your profile), not just a fun weekend. It seems like alot of people dipping their toes into this end of the pool arent willing to get serious. Its easier to admit this is more than just a fling after you have fallen in love.

I would liken it to my friend. He is a christian scientist. he was explaining how within that comunity a single 25-40 year old guy is a rare commodity. Within the church groups anyone that age who is single is quickly snatched up.  Unfortunately for him the same applies to the women. so when he enterd the community he was immediately saddled up with  fine selection of less than ideal mates. He struggled years to find one that was to his liking.



on another topic thank you for the idea for my picture. Im not willing to post a full face picture on here for privacy reasons, i liked the crop with just your eyes and will be doing that today.



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