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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/25/2006 8:38:59 AM   
mkswing


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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/25/2006 9:07:00 AM   
CrappyDom


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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/25/2006 9:09:06 PM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		The most humiliating thing i have to endure is shopping when it's for His pogey bait.  i am a fluffy woman, and i enjoy when i am shopping for the normal menu items, my cart is full of the good stuff, veggies, lean meats, chicken, fish, none of the processed frozen stuff they all love so much, but after about 3 weeks of this, they are screaming for junk.

Thin people don't realise this, but fat shoppers carts are eyeballed.  Comments made, knowing glances between each other.   When i have to go shopping with the list for Doritoes, AND tortilla chips with lime, 2 tubs of cottage cheese, the six pack of musketeer bars, twizzlers, Lucky Charms, AND Carnation instant breakfast,  saltines and strawberry cream cheese spread, then top it off with Capri Sun or koolaid pouches, and of all things... DIET Coke....   i could just absolutely die.  i want to carry a sign that says this is NOT for me. 

i have asked to get out of this, if they would go trap their own pogey bait, and Hubby says "Oh fuck em, you know what you eat, and I'll eat whatever the hell I want."  He certainly isn't going for "humiliation play"  He's just getting food.  What makes it humiliation is MY issues  and sensitivity to things i cannot block out, and my willingness to let others subject me to thier opinions.  Maybe this should go in the "fears" thread instead!

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/26/2006 7:07:37 PM   
subsue6


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Status: offline 		For me, the most humiliating situations I have been involved in have been where I was on display, and eventually used sexually but over an extended period of time (hours.)

I had one domme, Karen, who brought down me to levels I never thought I would reach. I wore a small blindfold for much of the scene. It was a women party with about 7 women in their late 30s and early 40s, including my domme at the time, Karen. (She had warned me advance she was going to put me on display and use me but didn't say how far she was planning to go.) I prepared for the evening by having a little red wine, which zonked me out a bit.
When all her friends had arrived and were relaxing with drinks, I was brought out of the bedroom, music was put on, and I did a strip tease for the women. After that, Karen had me pose in obscene poses (spread shots, etc), sometimes taking suggestions from her friends as to how I should pose.
Eventually I was tied spread eagled to a sort of massage table but lower to the ground.
Karen wrote on my tits with a magic marker: "sue is my oral slut".
She then proceeded to totally expose my shaved genitals, spreading my pussy lips so all could see. (By this time, I was blindfolded, thankfully.)  When everyone got a real good look at me, it was time to reward me with a fingering. She fingered me to a series of fantastic orgasms while her friends watched, laughed and commented.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/27/2006 4:57:34 AM   
SirLordTrainer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mkswing

spanking is effective in both men and women.


Oh really.. perhaps where your from maybe.. but in My experiences about 8 out of 10 female submissives enjoy a good OTK session and view it far from humiliating.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/27/2006 9:21:55 AM   
chubbysissysub


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Status: offline 		I truly crave humiliation so this is a great topic. I am not a female so this is only from talking with women and witnessing sessions.

Taking some of the subs vaginal fluid and placing it under her nose.  This gives her the impression that everyone can smell her even though they can’t. Her scent is just so strong in her mind.  I have seen this turn a sub bright red and stay red, application after application.

The signs and markers (mentioned above) is always a great idea.  It still seems to effect me.

For guys it is shaving body hair that can be humiliating.  I wonder if the opposite is true for female subs.  I have no idea just adding it to the list

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/27/2006 5:53:34 PM   
Noah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Being a female and raised in the 50's was humiliating enough!


MMhmm. Still ...

The kinds of subs I like might say that you could trump even a fifties upbringing in case it became known that they were submittting to someone who after 20 years of experience and extensive reading in this area still needs to solicit strangers for scene ideas.

My advice to the OP would be to fuck the lists of generic ideas. Get to know the subject, her habits, preferences, vulnerabilities, etc. As you do this you gain wide open access to all sorts of humiliation options which never appear on any list, might in fact not be the least bit humiliating to anyone but her.

Which very fact she might find humiliating itself on another level entirely.

Edited to add: In other words, please see CrappyDom's post which up until now I hadn't.

< Message edited by Noah -- 10/27/2006 5:58:14 PM >

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/29/2006 1:57:47 AM   
Sorcerer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Being a female and raised in the 50's was humiliating enough!



I lolled for real.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/29/2006 10:43:32 AM   
asiandoll27


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Status: offline 		humilation in public all depends on the submissive. A mistress once got mad because i was five minutes late when we where to go for an afternoon of shopping. To teach me to remeber to be on time - she put a handful of sand into my pantyhose. That was a shopping experience i never forget - because the sand work its way into every thing and makes walking painful, even migrating down into your heels. Having to smile all day through it was the hardest portion.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/29/2006 11:25:28 AM   
UnvailedPurpose


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Status: offline 		Lucky Albatross:
Wandering down the corridors of another’s mind. The erotically innovative, euphorically creative proverbial mind fuck…an art form stretching well beyond the understanding of those limiting themselves to throwing a single tail. The doorway to another dimension.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/1/2006 10:17:48 PM   
MasterWilliam55


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Status: offline 		Try surprising your sub with a collar ander  leash in a Mall...and walking her. Personally though, i like diamonds response the best.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/1/2006 11:14:13 PM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		LOL  I love my collar and leash.  But...too bad most malls won't stand for that kind of thing going on.  There are kids at the mall as well.  Just have to use your head and make the right choice I think.  I would never respect someone parading me around on a leash like a circus animal through a mall that has young children around.  Not to mention people would complain to security...hehe.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/1/2006 11:33:11 PM   
LadyOunce


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Status: offline 		I have never had anyone complain in all the times I wore a collar and leash to the mall or anywhere else. I used to keep it tucked into my back pocket but it was obvious what it was as it led from the collar to my back pocket. No one more than barely glanced at it but for clerks who tended to snicker.
 
It was more a goth/dress thing than submission as I wasn't collared to anyone at the time but I never got a reaction. Now the cat ears headband I wore? That got tons of comments.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/1/2006 11:36:04 PM   
LadyOunce


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Status: offline 		As most have said, this tends to be a very personal thing from one sub to the next. Now myself as a woman, the most humiliating things I've heard of are those that involve stripping a sub of freedoms.
 
Being inspected after visits to the bathroom - where there is no door, of course. Inspections during her monthly. Things like this which I would find truly bothersome whereas wearing a leash in public, or public spankings and all wouldn't bother me.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/2/2006 12:09:36 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I ave only had one girl who was ever into humiliation. I am into a more subtle form of public humiliation where my pet and I know whats going on and there is the chance I might decide to make a point of letting others see or I might not.
My personal favorite with her was making her wear a diaper under her jeans. It wasnt overly noticable since she wore baggier jeans most of the time. She and I knew, and I would speculate often to her, in private whispers, bout how many of the good looking guys and girls could tel she was in it. She would turn bright red EVERY time we did this. When she misbehaved while we were out this way, she was made to ask permission to go to the bathroom, and I would check her diaper to make sure it was dry when she returned (no matter who was around).
Worked nicely

DV


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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/2/2006 6:36:44 AM   
toy2006


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Status: offline 		Humiliation is a very personal issue. Some things would embarass one person while not affecting another, so it's hard to tell you what to do with your sub. I, personally, find a LOT of stuff humiliating. Being called names, being told HOW to perform is humiliating. Being collared and leashed and led around like a dog, or being led around in nipple clamps, blindfolded is humiliating for ME, even in private. Being sodomized is humiliating, which is precisely why I LOVE it. Being pissed on SEEMS to be humiliating, but I haven't experienced it YET. Being taken from behind is humiliating, with my face buried in the sheets. Being used while others watch would be humiliating to me, although i haven't experienced that yet, either. (DANG IT).A gang bang is fairly demoralizing. Being made to show some stranger your naked crotch in a restaurant under the table is humiliating, but very exciting. Being offered to another man is humiliating. But that's just me.  Have you ever asked your sub what humiliates her? Or, if you know her well, maybe you can figure that out for yourself. 

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/2/2006 10:51:11 AM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		I can understand it can be a Goth thing, and have seen kids that are 21 or so doing it at fairs and things.  Since they were Goth I noticed it, but chalked it up to what it was.   But at my age...I am definitely not a Goth.  And where I live, the suburb is very family oriented.  I respect the fact that families are out shopping together as well.  So parading around in public venues in fetish wear is just a hard limit for me I guess. In private or at play parties...it's a whole other story. 

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/2/2006 11:02:43 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		what a lovely story ....[quote]ORIGINAL: TheWord

When I was young, in my 20's, I was married to a wonderful woman.  She loved to dance, and she loved being restrained.  I was entranced by the female torso with a wasp waist. We would combine these elements so that when we arrived at what ever vanilla dance club we were going to spend the evening in, she would be in strict body bondage, with all access to her private parts denied.  He dress would be of very light  color, and she would be wearing the usual orgasm  intensifiers.  Both orgasmic and elimination relief would be denied to her under pain of strict training.  She had neither acess nor permission.  As the evening wore on, the combination of  preparation with mild irritants, cayenne pepper, for example, and the increassed pressure of bodily fluids would increase the psychologic pressure, until she was no longer able to conform to instructions.  Her fear and anticipation would grow delightfully.  She would not only be reduced to a figety, nervous squirming child by the anticipation of humiliation caused by an obvous and growing darkness on her dress, but by the onset of an uncontrollable orgasm, (not the least of her worries was the attempt to supress the most amazing noises which she made during orgasm).  Her humiliation would be accellerated by the indignity of beng forced to beg to be taken out of the place to some place more private where she could be less observed.

We had many delightful evenings this way.  She was so beautiful, that she received many requests to dance.  Of course, being the gentleman that I was, I always allowed  her to dance with others.  You can imagine their surprise when they discovered that she was tightly laced, and that her choker had no visible means of opening it. 

The "Story of O" had just made a sensation in Time magazine, but still the idea of Masters and Slaves had not permeated to the average young couple. 

When she was returned to the table by the unsuspecting vanilla, he always had a strange look on his face, as if  he were trying to realize what he had just experienced.  She would  be exquisite, eyes sparkling with mischief, cheeks red with shame, and would bubble over the.thought train which might be going on in his head.  She was so lovely it was incredible.

Years later there was a lame version of the book made into a movie.  My partner and I went to see it at the local campus art flic joint.  We were quite bored, but the vanilla youth were locked in to the screen.  One kid whispered loudly into his young lady's ear, "That is what I am going to do with you from now on!"   Wrong couple!  She started giggling so loudly and uncontrolably, they got removed from the theater.  I guess in that case the embarrassment sat on the other foot!

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/2/2006 11:42:46 AM   
xxblushesxx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mavis

The most humiliating thing i have to endure is shopping when it's for His pogey bait.  i am a fluffy woman, and i enjoy when i am shopping for the normal menu items, my cart is full of the good stuff, veggies, lean meats, chicken, fish, none of the processed frozen stuff they all love so much, but after about 3 weeks of this, they are screaming for junk.

Thin people don't realise this, but fat shoppers carts are eyeballed.  Comments made, knowing glances between each other.   When i have to go shopping with the list for Doritoes, AND tortilla chips with lime, 2 tubs of cottage cheese, the six pack of musketeer bars, twizzlers, Lucky Charms, AND Carnation instant breakfast,  saltines and strawberry cream cheese spread, then top it off with Capri Sun or koolaid pouches, and of all things... DIET Coke....   i could just absolutely die.  i want to carry a sign that says this is NOT for me. 

i have asked to get out of this, if they would go trap their own pogey bait, and Hubby says "Oh fuck em, you know what you eat, and I'll eat whatever the hell I want."  He certainly isn't going for "humiliation play"  He's just getting food.  What makes it humiliation is MY issues  and sensitivity to things i cannot block out, and my willingness to let others subject me to thier opinions.  Maybe this should go in the "fears" thread instead!


I may be a slave but, Mavis I FORBID you to torture yourself like this any more.
Most of the people you imagine checking out your cart to see what a bigger person eats isn't even thinking about you.  I only look in other people's carts to see if they found something yummy I missed.
Anyone who IS so small and petty is SO not worth your time, anyway.
Most people would quit worrying about what other people thought of them if they knew how seldom they did.
But, imnsho, for some good humiliation,
Make her call herself your favorite dirty words.
Make her beg (nicely) for something she reallly doesn't want. If she doesn't do well, punish her until she does...and then 'reward' her with the thing she begged (so nicely) for.
Then make her thank you...nicely.
Treat her as a pet...dog dishes...cages...leashes...and no priveledges except what you allow.
Eye contact restriction.
Use your imagination...OR...
Have her write a list of the top five things which would humiliate her most, put them in a hat and make her pick one...
Have fun!

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/2/2006 11:42:51 AM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		Diamond...you hit the nail on the head for me.  I don't really find most things I have done so far humiliating.  Shameful yes in some ways, but not humiliating.  I mean there have been times I have blushed. Like when I was led naked and blindfolded on my leash and collar in front of another lifestyle couple.  But I was also proud because I followed him without hesitation, and he was so proud and pleased with me.  So knowing I pleased him overcame my shame. 

But...thinking about this more.....if I ever did something to displease him and he really wanted to humiliate and punish me am sure there is something that would work.  But what everyone is saying what works for one person might not work for another is true.  It just takes knowing the other person extremely well to know what works and what does not.  Many of the humiliation suggestions people have come up with, I find fun.  I love spankings, and I can't wait to try the remote control tens dildo in a public setting.  Wonder how I will deal with muliple orgasms over coffee...lol.  I wonder if anyone will even notice, but then I don't plan on doing the Meg Ryan thing from When Harry Met Sally. 

< Message edited by texancutie -- 11/2/2006 11:44:03 AM >

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