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ORIGINAL: zbabe888

My first post here on collarme and I felt compelled to comment.  Humilitaion, Shame and Degredation are of COURSE  different things to each person on this earth.  I must acknowledge for myself that those concepts are a big part of why I was initially attracted to the scene and one of the main components of what I am trying to work out for myself as a sub.  With a strict upbringing there were MANY moments public and private where being called on the carpet for behavior, attitude, language, ideas, reactions, or emotions was a humiliating and shameful experience.  Trying to get it "right" and never quite getting there.  With my Dom he can scold, laugh, shake his head, anything that shows signs of disapointment.  I am personally humiliated by failure.  So any failure public or private brings me lower in my sense of shame.  The great culmination of the evening being when I have finally made him proud and in overcoming the shame and humilition I learn more about who I am.  So to verbally have to speak my failures alone humiliates me in ways many others can't imagine.  SO to turn this into a long term scene and using the other posts - being made an object, taped shut, forced to perform certain tasks (and set up to fail) asked to answer impossible questions, made to repeat verbally each failure as it passes and admit that you have no control, are a slut, are needy (feel free to insert personal quotes here).  Humilitaion like everything else is a ride and by combining different smaller ones it often can be as or more effective than a giant shame of public orgasm/urination.  I can only speak that if I am craving humiliation (which I detest but suffer through to prove myself to my Dom) then what I seek is to step through the hot ashes of all of my previous humiliations and come through the other side unscathed.

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"To learn the art of submission a slave must first give up the desires that drew him to submission in the first place." Mistress Jasmyn Jan 2005.

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What I have found that humiliates some sub females is anything that incites a public orgasm.

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

The most humiliating thing i have to endure is shopping when it's for His pogey bait.  i am a fluffy woman, and i enjoy when i am shopping for the normal menu items, my cart is full of the good stuff, veggies, lean meats, chicken, fish, none of the processed frozen stuff they all love so much, but after about 3 weeks of this, they are screaming for junk.

Thin people don't realise this, but fat shoppers carts are eyeballed.  Comments made, knowing glances between each other.   When i have to go shopping with the list for Doritoes, AND tortilla chips with lime, 2 tubs of cottage cheese, the six pack of musketeer bars, twizzlers, Lucky Charms, AND Carnation instant breakfast,  saltines and strawberry cream cheese spread, then top it off with Capri Sun or koolaid pouches, and of all things... DIET Coke....   i could just absolutely die.  i want to carry a sign that says this is NOT for me. 

i have asked to get out of this, if they would go trap their own pogey bait, and Hubby says "Oh fuck em, you know what you eat, and I'll eat whatever the hell I want."  He certainly isn't going for "humiliation play"  He's just getting food.  What makes it humiliation is MY issues  and sensitivity to things i cannot block out, and my willingness to let others subject me to thier opinions.  Maybe this should go in the "fears" thread instead!

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ORIGINAL: Florid

Hmmmmm....humiliation to me would being married to a vanilla and having sex and not being able to give my desire to be submissive.

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ORIGINAL: asphyxmissive

Recently I had the experience of recieving an enema for the first time. The physical discomfort combined with the humiliation of having someone else doing that to me, nearly reduced me to tears. When he was finally done I felt like I would never be able to look him in the eye again. 

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

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ORIGINAL: asphyxmissive

Recently I had the experience of recieving an enema for the first time. The physical discomfort combined with the humiliation of having someone else doing that to me, nearly reduced me to tears. When he was finally done I felt like I would never be able to look him in the eye again. 

When Daddy and I were starting into our relationship, we were already friends and lovers, but not really into bdsm, I complained of having a tummy ache because of something I ate.  He said it might be for "other reasons" and suggested an enema.  I laughed  nervously and told Him that He had lost His mind.  I had never had one and didn't need one.  He went to the store while I was watching a movie at His place, and brought one back and sat it on the counter.  I ignored it and even tried to hide it, thinking He was trying to psyche me out.  Later, we were getting "cuddly" and the next thing I knew, He had me pinned down and did the deed.  I was mortified and was screaming like a wild thing.  I was so embarrassed and humiliated, especially when I had to run to the bathroom.  I was even more mortified when He popped the lock on the bathroom door and said, "How's it going in here?" and laughed.  I screamed and He shut the door, but continued to laugh at my plight.  I was so upset afterwards, took a long shower, and finally came out.  I could barely look in His direction, much less His face, and curled up in His bed and shut the door, alone.  He came in, held me, and forced me to look at Him.  I didn't know what to do or say.  He whispered to me that it was only the first of many things that I hated now, but would come to enjoy, in spite of myself.  (He was right.)

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ORIGINAL: Riesa

Body Functions Eeek me out too, other people's as well as mine.