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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 2:01:31 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

If I am committed to a dominant man when in my 70's, I imagine I'll be just as doting and submissive and dedicated as I am today.  My bones might creak a bit more and maybe I won't be able to partake in some of the physical stuff I do now, but I can't imagine my love and submission being less intense.  Physicality is only one aspect of D/s for me.




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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 12:31:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks everyone. It seems there is more to BDSM than what porn movies show. 

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 12:46:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: zakkan

Thanks everyone. It seems there is more to BDSM than what porn movies show. 


Oh i hope so!! If not i am in the wrong place since the physicality of it really is not what attracted me in the first place.


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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 4:45:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm 55.5 and just recently my doc took me off blood pressure meds, evidently I'm in good health.  I'm limber, can still bend at the waist, keeping knees straight and touch my palms on the floor.  Something that some folks half my age cannot do.  Master can still tie me so my feet are above my head and barring some bizarre accident or disease I can't see that changing in the next 4.5 years when I turn 60.

The really important aspects of a M/s or D/s relationship- service, devotion, integrity, humor, are timeless and therefore ageless.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 4:52:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		By the time I'm 70 I'll have hopefully figured out enough to be able to own a slave!. lol.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 5:11:05 AM   
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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 5:45:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: zakkan

Thanks everyone. It seems there is more to BDSM than what porn movies show. 



I  can't believe I just read that. BDSM porn is comical at best... there is SO MUCH to BDSM that one can never even explore within one lifetime, no matter how many partners you had or events you want to.

I'm fairly young now, but I think as I get older, if I can't phycially do things, I will learn to do new things to compensate.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 7:50:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Many people still think BDSM is exactly what its like in porn. We know better now, but there was definitely a time, however short, in the past where you thought the same. And it was when I started to find out more that I thought of the future.  

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 8:12:34 AM   
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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 8:37:19 AM   
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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 9:09:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm always curious as to why a young person who is just 21 (these thread are always started by someone young) would be so concerned as to what my D/s life is like.  Would you decide to give up D/s if you knew you'd have to stop by the time you were 70?  Are you concerned that we are not experiencing all that D/s can be at our advanced age?  Why do you think a relationship at 21 is going to be more intense than one at 70?  Does your experience tell you so....or is it that at 21 you can't imagine that your sex life will be better at 70 than at 21....that D/s will be more fun at 70 than at 21....that the intensity might be greater at 70 than at 21...???

By the way, i do appreciate your concern as to the possibility that i might have to give up my relationship before i am 70.  Please don't worry about me.  You need to be more concerned about your own relationships and whether you can sustain a relationship for the 49 years it will take until you are 70. 

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 9:12:46 AM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I've actually done a lot of thinking about the same thing lately.  My Master has let me know that our journey will continue as long as I do as he asks, and since I can't imagine stopping I sometimes wonder if we will still be together in 20 years and how things will change.  I decided that the best thing to do is take it one day at a time, give and get as much enjoyment as possible, and let time take care of itself.
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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 9:26:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I will be the D in our D/s relationship whether it is when I am 35 or I am 105. That will never change. The dynamic between our personalities is pretty fixed, he has no desire for control and i have no desire to be controlled.
Whether or not our playtime is as fierce and aggressive now as it will be then might change, ut so will our interests and amusements in playtime. How we play will change when we have children, too, and as we mature together and lear new things we like and tire of old things we did.
Age has little to do with it though. I know 50+ dominants who are rougher with their subs now than the 20 somethings they meet.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 9:34:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Gleegal67

I'm actually contemplating a BDSM Retirement Home...think about it...TNGers would be there to take care of the Seniors!

I can picture Dominants in their wheelchairs...being sponge bathed by the hot young submissives.  I see a whole new vision of caning in the hallways!  Think about exercise time...boundless amounts of activities that can get the heart rates up!

I have no worries about the older I get and my continued bdsm journey...there is always a group of TNGers in all the major cities!

Plotting and planning for acres of desert land...great investment...and great fun to say the least!


Ohhh Damn..Sign me up!!!! Ill sign my 401k over for a spot! I can see me now, With my walker going down the hallway, my flogger handle gripped in a toothless grin, a IV bottle of viagra hooked mainline, chasing my lovely! LOL

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 9:41:16 AM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Comparing a porn perception to BDSM is like saying all cops are so much different than on the police academy movie s , or using Hollywood stunt driving scenes for drivers ed .
In my youth i never thought i was going to make it past 30 , thankfully  my perceptions and educations grew  like i did over time .
Just like others posted , with age comes care , your joints are not what they used to be, your not as bendy not matter how much rope  is used ,healing may take  some more time . Just enjoying the ride ..


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ORIGINAL: zakkan

Thanks everyone. It seems there is more to BDSM than what porn movies show. 

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 10:06:31 AM   
zakkan


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ORIGINAL: peppermint

I'm always curious as to why a young person who is just 21 (these thread are always started by someone young) would be so concerned as to what my D/s life is like.  Would you decide to give up D/s if you knew you'd have to stop by the time you were 70?  Are you concerned that we are not experiencing all that D/s can be at our advanced age?  Why do you think a relationship at 21 is going to be more intense than one at 70?  Does your experience tell you so....or is it that at 21 you can't imagine that your sex life will be better at 70 than at 21....that D/s will be more fun at 70 than at 21....that the intensity might be greater at 70 than at 21...???

By the way, i do appreciate your concern as to the possibility that i might have to give up my relationship before i am 70.  Please don't worry about me.  You need to be more concerned about your own relationships and whether you can sustain a relationship for the 49 years it will take until you are 70. 


Perhaps I should have phrased my question better. I was merely wondering if D/s relationships could go all the way to the coffin, or whether there is a certain age where everyone just "loses interest". 70 is just a hypothetical age. And I can't imagine getting whipped as hard when I am 70 compared to when I am 21. I was only commenting that the physical aspect will decrease.

Its just something I have been thinking about.I am not worried about anybody.

And I must admit that until 2 or 3 years ago, I thought that BDSM was all about porn. But then, I'm still 21.


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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 11:23:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		So far the older woman I have been with just keep getting better with age.  When they are 21 sex is fun ... when they are 35 they start exploring and figuring out there own boddies... when they are 40..... they become the orgasmic woman that desires and actively seek out a good fucking... when they are 50 ... they are comfortable with themselves and there sexuality as well as far less inhibited.

As far as having sex in the elderly years... I would say that its no different than a vanilla relationship but that is not the case at all. I know that with this lifestyle I have learned a great deal more about sexuality and my likes are way more broader. I also dont allways look for the orgasm but instead look at all the other aspect of sex as well ... so.... I think that I will probably be enjoying it right to the end as long as I have a partner...lol.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 12:51:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		i had the rare pleasure of meeting a couple in their early 90's who were, obviously to me, into the Lifestyle. They were retired fruit farmers and i was seeing Him for wound care after a left above the  knee amputation. She wobbled around on her wooden leg from a right above the knee amputation a year earlier. They were lovely people and you wouldn't know they were Lifestylers except that one day He asked her for some juice and she lowered her eyes and curtly said "Yes, Sir". i kind of giggled, while down on my knees wrapping his wound. He smiled and pointed to a dusty leather strap hanging from a nail by the back door. We didn't discuss it ... there was no need to.
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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 4:36:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Riggor

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ORIGINAL: Gleegal67

I'm actually contemplating a BDSM Retirement Home...think about it...TNGers would be there to take care of the Seniors!

I can picture Dominants in their wheelchairs...being sponge bathed by the hot young submissives.  I see a whole new vision of caning in the hallways!  Think about exercise time...boundless amounts of activities that can get the heart rates up!

I have no worries about the older I get and my continued bdsm journey...there is always a group of TNGers in all the major cities!

Plotting and planning for acres of desert land...great investment...and great fun to say the least!


Ohhh Damn..Sign me up!!!! Ill sign my 401k over for a spot! I can see me now, With my walker going down the hallway, my flogger handle gripped in a toothless grin, a IV bottle of viagra hooked mainline, chasing my lovely! LOL


Haha! I love you, Sir! *kiss*  Though if thats what you want when your 70, I do believe I can make that happen. Save your money. lol 


For myself I'm only 21 years old, so 70 is very far off. I can see some of the play side of my relationship changing, but not my feelings or how I am as a submissive. Thats ME....and you can't just use age as a will it change.  What if someone got in a very bad car wreck and one partner lost a leg..an arm...ect...Would that change the relationship?  I should hope not.  I hope at 70 I'm still getting spanked and all the good things I love. Now...if I can hop up on the table I'm not sure..but there are always step ladders. *wink*

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RE: Many years on... - 9/10/2008 10:16:39 PM   
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I'm limber, can still bend at the waist, keeping knees straight and touch my palms on the floor.  Something that some folks half my age cannot do.  Master can still tie me so my feet are above my head and barring some bizarre accident or disease I can't see that changing in the next 4.5 years when I turn 60.


I could do that until age 61 but if i try it now i might dislocate my artificial hip. But things like that don't change the dynamics of the relationship, just the positions. I am 62 and He is 66 and it just gets better for us.

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