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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 1:55:15 AM

MaamJay

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I think the only thing that would end the D/s would be senile dementia or Alzheimer's. Physical degeneration can be got around, Master's already aware that as i am 15 years older than Him, there's a chance He'll be pushing me around in a wheelchair before i'm doing that for Him! Actually, He's promised to get us twin gophers and hot em up a bit

We intend to grow older together and to be proactive about it in terms of moving to retirement places or homes before strictly necessary (to avoid the angst My Mother is currently putting herself through by hanging on too long at home). Now, all I need to do is find Myself a good healthy subby ... and the 3 of us can grow happily old together!

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 3:01:11 AM

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The really important aspects of a M/s or D/s relationship- service, devotion, integrity, humor, are timeless and therefore ageless.

eyesopened said it all here....great quote!

i'd just like to add that the idea of taking my teeth OUT before sucking cock is definately appealing.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 8:26:03 AM

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Well Master is 8 years younger than i and although we're a new relationship i'm in my mid-thirties so not completely unaware that older people have sex too (it's something they tell you on your 30th birthday, most people can't handle it until then <grin>). i can't imagine anything other than not wanting to be together making our relationship stop having a M/s dynamic, but then who knows what may happen in the future? In the time we've been together our relationship has changed from a mildly kinky in the bedroom relationship to a broader M/s relationship and in the near future is likely to become 24/7 when we begin to live together (yay!) so i guess i'll just have to wait and see what the future brings and hope we get more of the good bits than the bad bits.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 8:35:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

If I am committed to a dominant man when in my 70's, I imagine I'll be just as doting and submissive and dedicated as I am today. My bones might creak a bit more and maybe I won't be able to partake in some of the physical stuff I do now, but I can't imagine my love and submission being less intense. Physicality is only one aspect of D/s for me.

Nice! Sir often asks me, "hows your back today?" I have mod to severe spinal arthritis and he is empathetic to it.
So the physical aspect varies.
The control of my dom and my submission to him will never depend on our body. Now if I get Alzheimers or he does, control/submission definately changes. God forbid this disease takes either of us.

I think being young like you are OP, you may not realize that the mind is the most important part of "all this."
Hormones vary with age.

Where might you think to be in 60 years?

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 8:35:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Im in the class with BountyHunter. Im more knowledgeable now than when I was younger. 60's rock.

Yep, that's what Master says. He'll be 62 in a couple weeks and He's betta than eva

. He is 26 years older than I am and we have talked both seriously and jokingly about how things may evolve over the next ten years or so. He says when all He can do is sit in a rocking chair, He'll hold out the paddle and I'll have to run backwards really fast into it

. Hey, whatever works.............luci

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 4:15:13 PM

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I can't say where I'll be or who I'll be with or what the dynamic will be that far down the line. But here's a situation I ran across that I found very interesting..... Several years ago I took care of a 70+ year old alzheimer's patient. She still lived in her own home and had caregivers (myself and another woman from the same agency) who stayed with her 24/7. Her husband had recently died and some of the time she knew that and sometimes she didn't. However, when she knew exactly who and where she was and what was going on, she insisted on sitting on the floor next to her husband's chair. When I once suggested that she actually sit in a chair or on the sofa while we were watching tv, she looked at me with a slightly horrified look, shook her head and said oh no, the furniture is for guests and did I need her to get me anything? Well, this was during the time when I had just found the lifestyle and while I didn't know for sure anything about the relationship she had with her husband and I never asked her about it, many of her behaviors spoke volumes to me. So, does the D/s fall by the wayside? The BDSM play might not be the same, or may not even exist anymore, but the D/s basis doesn't have to go away.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 4:52:49 PM

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in another 30 years... I expect what we do will change... but it will not change who will have the authority.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 5:57:38 PM

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It's been my experience that a loving, trusting relationship improves with age and experience. Especially a D/s relationship because of the level of trust and communication that it adds.

After almost 20 years in a D/s relationship I found that as we got older, we were still as intense, we became more creative. Since I find creativity is part of the fun of the lifestyle there wasn't a problem.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/14/2008 8:18:44 PM

TanukiChan

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Seeing all the elder, more expirienced collarme members still more than happy with the lifestyle, years later, in this thread makes me happy and hopeful.

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