NuevaVida -> RE: Remote Punishment (9/10/2008 6:48:15 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross So what? It's not my relationship, and my relationship isn't theirs. They are welcome to respectfully share their concerns, but ultimately they are either my friend and respect my choice and situation, or they don't. And if they don't, then that's fine, we move apart and seek our bliss elsewhere. I don't waste my time proving to others how happy and functional my relationships are. I don't care if someone wants to physically destroy themselves, you're right, it's not my relationship, but fatigue is a huge issue and affects other people. I deal with human factors for a living and have studied fatigue extensively. I'm also a pilot...you wouldn't believe the accident reports where pilot fatigue was the probable cause. And do I really need to cite the studies of auto drivers falling asleep? So yeah...if either of them are getting behind the wheel, filling my prescriptions at the pharmacy, flying an airplane I'm on, or making my food at a restaurant, it is my business. Don't let you irresponsibility affect my life. The OP said she doesn't drive and only operated a pencil/pen, so I didn't see any danger to society there. He also said the slave was only allowing herself 4 hours of sleep a night, and he simply removed an hour each night to prove his point that she needed MORE sleep. As one who was subjected to sleep deprivation quite often (and who is now dealing with insomnia issues as a result), in various circumstances, I personally can survive on 3 hours a night for about a week before my memory is affected and I function more slowly. I do recall once when my ex husband kept me up for 36 hours straight, give or take, and it majorly screwed me up. I drove to work at 7pm instead of 7am, and on my way home, I woke up behind the wheel while veering across three highway lanes. Thankfully no one was hurt. For me, personally, 3 hours of sleep would not bring me to that state. 3 days with no sleep at all will. Sadly, people suffer from sleep deprivation (3-4 hours a night) regularly. Resident doctors on 24 hour shifts, paramedics on 24 hour shifts, new mothers, college students, people who have to work two jobs to make ends meet, etc. We feel for those people, rather than condem them for being dangers to society. The OP was making an extreme effort (he said prior efforts had failed) to get his slave to sleep more, since she couldn't bother to take care of her own sleep needs. I'm not sure why we're all on his case for that, but I continue to agree with LA on this one - people who can't support me in my relationships (or at least express concern respectfully and compassionately) don't find themselves in my inner circle very long. Especially if they condemn him for helping me. I don't need to spend my energy defending my relationships. I'll open my eyes to concerns, but not to some schmuck with sour grapes telling me to remove my collar and go to him instead (as the OP also spoke of). If I had removed my collar for anyone like that in the past, it would have been to feed it to him. [;)]
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