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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/6/2008 6:34:29 PM

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As for play? Well, I'm in a phase where I am just really discovering my submissiveness. It's hard to say... but being highly aroused and teased helps :)

But as for true, deep, submission in my life? That's simple. Love. Every time I have loved someone romantically in my life (which I can count on one hand) I have felt a genuine desire to submit completely, long before I knew any more of BDSM than the popular image of the leather-clad dominatrix... which did not appeal to me even as a horny 13-year old. (Although bondage, spankings, etc. are great as symbols of that submission :) )

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/8/2008 9:27:37 PM

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It's the "Submit" button located just below her collarbone.

Haha... I hate that 'button' and all those other pressure point 'buttons'. Ok, maybe I like them a lil. lol ;-) Back to the original question though, nothing "makes" me submit other than my desire to submit... but I understand what you're trying to ask. What makes me instantly melt and feel weak in the knees? Hands around my neck - that's definitely my fav (or a belt, or towel, or whatever is handy).

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/9/2008 5:17:37 AM

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She would have to have my heart and soul. Anyone up to the challenge?

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/14/2008 7:54:47 AM

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This all happens on instinct for me. The less the other person is being intellectual and the more they express impulse directly, the better the effect. Intellectually it becomes comical. Physically it is real. The words should enhance the action. Be dominant and I submit. Play the role of dominant and I will watch and wait for the action to start. Prance around acting like you think a Dominant might act and I will sit down at google and look you up some local acting classes.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/14/2008 7:55:52 AM

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She would have to have my heart and soul. Anyone up to the challenge?

you have no soul...so the bett is off :P

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/14/2008 1:27:48 PM

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for me it is all in the tone of voice.

oh and not asking me but TELLING me to do something oh wow that really buckles my knees

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/14/2008 2:22:04 PM

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I asked my wife this and, as usually happens, she looked confused at the question. To this day, I don't think she sees what she is doing as "submitting" nor does she see herself as "mine". I think, in general, she just goes through her life being herself... my wife who is perfectly content to obey and please me.

So in reviewing it in my own head and trying to translate what she would say if she thought like this...

In General: Love, trust and respect. That is what drives her submission.

In Specific: My need for control. More than anything, she wishes to meet my needs, wants and desires. So if I express a specific need for control, for instance, "Come to me mine. I've had a bad day and I need to boss you around some." or in a more sexual context, "Bend over the table mine. It makes me so hot to be able to turn and pose and touch and caress your body at my whim." Those sorts of statements will drop her right into full-on submissive mode because I've made it clear that that's what I need right now.

That'd be different than me saying, "Make me a screwdriver." which would just be interpreted as a way to please me. She'd assume I needed a drink and so she'd go make me the drink with no particular focus on submission of any sort.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/14/2008 2:34:46 PM

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i'm not quiet sure.. But i know that He knows.. Which is the best way for it to be i suppose.. Perhaps its simple chemistry.. A mere flick of His eyes can have me slipping down from standing to kneeling in seconds, and then nothing and nobody else exists.. Sometimes, when i think about it, it can be something as small as a change in His tone.. But i'm never conscious of it at the time.. Though its never happened with anybody else but Him.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/14/2008 4:13:20 PM

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What is the one thing that makes you submit no matter what?

(you know what I mean. It's the thing that gets you everytime and once it's involved you can't back out even if you tried. your jelly in the knees and blind to all else. Fighting against it is hopeless and you know it.)

For me it's not a what, it's a who. Makes all of the difference in the world.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/16/2008 3:17:46 AM

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HE makes me submit.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/16/2008 8:29:38 AM

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Metalmiss seems to have about the same answer I was going to give.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/16/2008 8:58:26 AM

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Interesting question. I can't say that I have experienced having the safety to submit completely but thre-in lies the answer but since I used that as an explanation, I'll choose an adjunct to highlight: trust.
Davan

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/19/2008 1:27:54 AM

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when my manhood is in their hand! you will do as they say. i was pushing with my feet, my manhood was in her hand, she said "the harder you push, the harder i squeeze." i stopped after just a slight test, it proved to be true!

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/20/2008 7:33:11 AM

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Waterbottles of cold water! Oh wait, That was one scene.... I submit to my Master because he asks it of me, I would do anything he asked of me to the best of my abilities. I still fail a bit but I am getting better and better all the time.

as for the water bottles, we were doing a resistance play scene and well, that sure the heck makes you think twice about trying to remove the hinge pins from a cage!

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/20/2008 8:59:30 AM

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That would depend greatly on with whom I was submitting to, and the context if it is just for play,for my own Master, also the bond between myself and the top/Dom. Different people have different effects on me.

This is true for me. There are several things that take my breath away, leave my mouth dry and my knees shaking - but only when he does them.
A dominant friend of mine called me 'good girl' one time, and i laughed at him. I told him - your threats of punishment don't scare me, your good girl doesn't make my knees weak. He said, 'since you are not mine, that makes sense'

So, on that long, long list of things he does that absolutely get me-
His kisses.
Grabbing my hair
Pinning me down, in any way, shape or fashoin
A slap to the face
The sound of the locks closing on my chains
sitting at his feet
kissing his feet, boots - hell, even seeing him in his boots. Damn I love those boots.
And, on the 'even seeing him' list - watching him undress. Oh, God, YES!
Hearing him tell me he is pleased with me, or call me good girl - or seeing that look in his eyes that says he is.

Some he won't do or very seldom does, that also turn my key:
The 'Down command mentioned near the begining of this thread.
The command 'shut up', because i do not tolerate those words, at all, from anyone else. I consider them highly disrespectful and will go OFF on someone if i hear them.
Playing with my weight in humilaiton play. To give him credit, he gave this a try, because he knew I wanted to try it. And, as far as I'm concerned, it's fucking HOT. But he did not care for it.
Standing in the corner, which centers and calms me, and puts me 'there'

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/21/2008 2:41:07 AM

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What she said.......the Man who has my respect, trust, admiration....the voice and touch i crave.

After that point, anyway He wishes to touch me makes my knees weak and drops me back into the headspace..........
The Voice, a look, a hair pull, neck biting...the list could go on an on.....

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

What is the one thing that makes you submit no matter what?

(you know what I mean. It's the thing that gets you everytime and once it's involved you can't back out even if you tried. your jelly in the knees and blind to all else. Fighting against it is hopeless and you know it.)

For me it's not a what, it's a who. Makes all of the difference in the world.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/21/2008 5:25:01 AM

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We went out last night, which reminded me of another that is HIGH on my list -
Standing beside Him in heels that make me taller than He is.
It's the fact that He put me in the heels, and being there beside him reminds me of that.
It's the fact that He has enough confidence in Himself to want me in heels that make me taller than Him.
It's the fact that standing beside Him, with me taller, not only is He still clearly in control, but that fact is patently obvious, and, i'm thinking, might very well be obvious even to an outside observer.
Whatever it is, when I stand beside Him, suddenly taller than He - it does it for me. And it is fucking HOT.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/21/2008 6:58:08 AM

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For me it's as simple as being in the presence of a true Dominant, outside of that it's a look, a touch, a whisper ~ Soft Smiles ~

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/21/2008 8:20:33 AM

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What is the one thing that makes you submit no matter what?

(you know what I mean. It's the thing that gets you everytime and once it's involved you can't back out even if you tried. your jelly in the knees and blind to all else. Fighting against it is hopeless and you know it.)

It's already been said here, but chemistry, connection, and a bond that grows and evolves over time. When I trust and come to deeply care about someone, my desire to please becomes almost unstoppable. There wasn't anything I wouldn't try to do or rationalize doing for my former Master. This is something I have become acutely aware of, and careful of, as it can put me in situations that aren't very healthy for me. Because of that, I don't think there is a "no matter what" for me anymore. But then I'm taking the OP literally and maybe it wasn't written literally.

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RE: What makes you submit completely? - 10/21/2008 8:35:24 AM

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wow! i am a submissive guy and yes i have a lot of fetishes . I think a man is never ever a submissives and he hasnt proved his submission to his owner( Mistress, Princess) unless and until he drinks her nectar( pee) . that will purify his body and willbaptise him . she will fill his throat with her nectar and it will go down his throat and into his stomach and from the stomach into the intestines and in the intestines it will gets absorbed into his blood and that blood will then go to his eyes, brain, heart and all parts of his body and it will enslave him in the real sence . Nothing can be so charming than a lovely and sexy Mistress sits on her bitches face and make him lick her asshole hard , again, again and again and again an make him shine her hole like a mirror and especially uses his tounge as her toilet paper especially when she is done shitting and make each adn every bone and muscles of his body aching in her submission by riding on his back and on his shoulders for hours and hours .i mean this is the real submission

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