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Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 5:41:30 AM

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Masters,
I am 6 ft 1 in. Even in vanilla dating, that makes it hard in choosing someone to date. Very often, men are just a bit shorter than I am. I have found a wide variety of opinions. From absolutely loving it, to intimidation.

In a Master/slave, Dom/sub scenerio, would that be different? I would think it would be an issue because the sub/slave is taller than her Master. Would that place insecurities in that relationship, from the Master's point of view? Not to even mention the "chubby factor" here...lol.

Another problem is that I absolutely love to dance. Though, I'll freely admit, I don't know ballroom dancing or the like. As some here seem very talented at. Just dancing in general. That has always posed a problem, you wouldn't believe how ackward it is to be a woman and dance with a guy who is a little shorter than yourself. Then, to have someone ask you, and your first question is..."How tall are you??"

Anyways, was just wondering how many here would find that as a problem, and why.

Thanks in advance,
Myra

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 6:44:48 AM

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a 6ft or 6ft 1in woman has never been a problem for me but then again I'm 6ft 2in.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 7:16:27 AM

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Nah, everybody's short when they're on their knees or otherwise strapped down.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 8:54:04 AM

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I'm only 5'8 but I've been taller than every partner except for my current one. I don't think it's an issue unless your partner is insecure about their hight. Then it might cause problems.

I speak, sadly, from experience. ~sigh~

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 9:18:52 AM

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It's an issue sometimes, and it cuts both ways. There is a very pretty slave girl out here who, like you, is a six footer. She has confided to me that she has a hard time feeling submissive toward a man when she sizes him up and thinks "yeah, I could kick his ass". Some women have no trouble at all looking at the pot-bellied, slump shouldered, pasty-faced, man-breasted lump on the sofa and thinking "my lord and master". Other women simply could not feel submissive toward a man like that if their life depended on it. Similarly, some men do feel more dominant toward a woman that they tower over, and for others, it doesn't matter. So if you want a statistical answer to your question, yes, more men would feel dominant toward you if you were 5'1" and weighed 99 pounds. That said, there are enough men for whom it doesn't matter that it's not going to be a big hinderance to you finding a man.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 9:28:16 AM

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If you find a Master with enough mental fortitude it shouldn't be an issue if He were a midget. It's all about power you instill into them.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 7:58:35 PM

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I'm 5'9½" (as the shortest child in the family, I cling to that ½ and inch), and I prefer men who are my height, or taller. I like a man to have physical dominance over me, knowing he is stronger, taller, and able to hold me down

. Being the lovely Rubenesque sort that I am, I admit I feel a bit silly with men who are shorter and smaller than me. But, looks and appearance are secondary to ingelligence and confidence. Height is a bonus, it's the others that are the real drawcards.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 9:02:20 PM

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I too would rather be taller and physically bigger than my sub however at my size its never really been an issue. I'm 6'2 and 240 lbs of built. So never really been an issue for me, but i do prefer to look at it like if a fight were to break out I could protect my pet and not the other way around.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/2/2004 9:24:02 PM

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The height of a woman has never been a topic for me, for if you control the mind the body will follow.... lol

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/3/2004 1:08:11 PM

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Hmmm, maybe it's just a small problem in my eyes? I'm not that uncomfortable dating a guy who is just a bit shorter, it's when they're way shorter, that's when I get a bit uncomfortable. As for submitting to a Dom who is a lot shorter than myself, I guess that would depend on how he carried himself and how confident he is in his abilities.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/3/2004 5:24:06 PM

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quote:

There is a very pretty slave girl out here who, like you, is a six footer.

I like tall partners. Below 6'1 I tend to call them shorty, and over that I do a nice nikkyu so they are in prone position.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/3/2004 11:18:13 PM

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I think it would only be a problem if the 'Dom' had some insecurities about himself/his abilities - otherwise it should be a case of he knows he is the dom, you know he is the dom, and the rest of the world can go hang

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/4/2004 1:58:33 PM

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Is it a problem in the vanilla world? If so, then I'd say it would carry on into the lifestyle.
The lifestyle is no different than day to day life. It is just looking at things a bit differently.

Myself I am like you. I want a man who is taller than myself. Think of those family photographs in 15 years. Do you want only the top of his head in the photo?
That is personal preference though. Everyones preference is different.
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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/4/2004 10:07:17 PM

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I'm 6' even and my wife is about 5'8". We sometimes have a problem in that I really like puting her in really high heels (the tallest are vinyl boots at 7.5", there are a few 6"ers too). This means that if she stands, next to me, she is taller. I don't care at all but she has confided that it makes her very uncomfortable. Not like she can't submit to me (she'll never get the idea that she could kick my butt) it's more like being above me is disrespectful. So now I don't put her in the heels during a serious scene if she will be standing. On the other hand, puting her in the heels to go to a club is a whole different scene ;-)

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/5/2004 7:39:23 AM

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I suppose if she were still taller than me while she was kneeling...we might have a problem....but thats only due to physics.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/5/2004 6:51:19 PM

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quote:

I suppose if she were still taller than me while she was kneeling...we might have a problem....but thats only due to physics.

It is more engineering, MrThorns.

1) Have submissive dig a hole to your exacting specifications.

2) Have submissive kneel in hole.

3) ...

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/6/2004 7:15:34 AM

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At 5-3, a good percentage of subs are taller than I am. My newest one is almost 6-ft. For Me, it's not an issue.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/9/2004 8:57:06 PM

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I'm a very short guy, but have never had a problem with taller women (partly out of necessity LOL) From a practical point of view, I *like* a tall woman because I find it easier to do some forms of play (floging, singletail). As to whether a particular person could "feel submissive" to me because of my height, I figure that's up to her and is not an issue I can get concerned over.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/11/2004 11:03:10 AM

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Master is 1 inch shorter and around 60lbs lighter than me. The only time we have problems with height is when He wants to do it doggy style because most of my height is in my legs. We just don't match up, and i have to practically lay on the bed for Him to take me.

Most of the men i've dated (vanilla and BDSM) have been shorter than me; the shortest being 5'1 (i'm 5'7). Every one of them adored a woman towering over them and didn't mind me wearing heels at all. At first it did bother me some, but because the men didn't care, i got comfortable with it. After all, it's the person you are attracted to, not the package.

Height, like weight is only a problem if you or your partner makes it a problem.

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RE: Are taller subs an issue? - 8/11/2004 11:03:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

I like tall partners. Below 6'1 I tend to call them shorty,

It's all in your perspective. Most women like men to be taller than they are. I'm 5'4, almost everyone is taller than I am so it's not a problem. Admit to yourself (at least) that you do have preferences in the physical aspects of a Dom/ man. It's allowed.

Sinergy, you would not call me shorty. I'd just make sure I was a few steps/ stairs ahead of you. lol

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