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RE: First Meeting Safety Protocols for Females - 9/24/2008 3:52:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: HotMistress22
There are many fakes on this site as well as others, unfortunately. Here is one recent example: a sub male, claiming to be a lawyer, newish profile, pic and all, begging to meet for drinks. He lives very close to me. In fact, I hear his firm's ad on the radio station and asked him if that was his ad. He paused and said, yes. I then said, if I call the office, I will be able to speak with YOU, correct? He paused and said nothing. Then I said, better yet, if I made an appt. with your secretary and I come to your office, I will see YOU, they guy in the pic, right? Never heard from him again. Now, we can say that he was afraid, married, maybe I'd come to the office and embarrass him or something.

To me this would throw up red flags that you are a stalker material. No wonder you never heard from him again.
You are suggesting people lighten up, when the fact is you are the most uptight.

I completely agree with this. If the man I'm building a nice rapport with had had that conversation with me, he probably wouldn't have heard from me again, too. If for some reason he did, I would have been proceeding so cautiously we wouldn't have stood a chance, anyway. Same if he wanted all that up front info mentioned in the OP.

I'm confused though, if the point behind all this info is to weed out flakes or to be safe...as both were stated in different posts. For me, in either case, this would be overkill. I wouldn't share that much info up front, nor would I ask for it. With the man I recently met, we learned basic things about each other through hours of phone conversations, until we were comfortable enough with each other to meet as we did. To each their own, though. The OP's approach would not have worked with me.

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RE: First Meeting Safety Protocols for Females - 9/24/2008 2:40:09 PM

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Come come now, we all know having coffee or dinner with someone is a deadly serious business. I mean, think of how many women every day get maimed, raped or killed while meeting an unknown (of course, man) person for the first time at a coffee shop or restaurant on a blind date or for business reasons. Women are constantly being raped inside Starbucks, being stabbed to death at the Olive Garden, having limbs sawed off at pre-munch meetings!

Of course she and others need to ask detailed, verified information about a person's given name, home address, phone number, household bills, and all sorts of other things where they can make sure they're not dangerous -or at least have the ability to blackmail or engage in identity theft- if the male doesn't show up or act right on a coffee date at Seattle's Best or similar!

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RE: First Meeting Safety Protocols for Females - 9/24/2008 3:15:15 PM

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Most amusing, RP. Perhaps it's time for this thread to be moved to the humour section, where it rightfully belongs.

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RE: First Meeting Safety Protocols for Females - 9/24/2008 5:35:18 PM

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I presume you also are giving out your personal info on cam at the first cyber date?

Actually, you don't need any of that info until you decide to meet for a second date. Because if you meet at the Starbucks at the corner of Fourth and Elm at 2:30 with a red carnation, you then decide if you want to continue or not. If not, you don;t need any info because you aren't seeing each other again.

Only if you do decide to go to the next step and date privately do you need to exchange names, addresses, phone numbers.

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RE: First Meeting Safety Protocols for Females - 9/25/2008 2:44:44 PM

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let's not forget that bad things can happen to men too.

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