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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
guess those Red Cross people don't know what theyre talking about....

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ORIGINAL: friendsonlyFL

Well, I hate to be very blunt but it isn't like I can call my mother with this health question. Anyway, I had VERY rough anal sex with a Dom last night that has left me severly bleeding today. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to make it stop? At what point should I be concerned? Any help would be GREATLY appreciated.

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ORIGINAL: friendsonlyFL

I don't even know what to say. I am not a stupid person here and I an far from new to the lifestyle. I am intelligent  enough to know when I am very sick. ALL I was asking is if anyone else had the same problems. I am NOT in pain. I do NOT have a fever. I do NOT have hemmroids or any other issue. I just had the day lights fuck out of me last night and I thought the blood today was excessive. Can we PLEASE stay on topic rather than go off on judgemental tanjents on what I should or shouldn't do? Please RE READ my original posts and if you have something to comment on those great. Otherwise, I am sad to see here that everyone out here thinks they are an instant expert on everything. I am just looking for friendly advice is all. I notice that USUALLY the same people post on here constantly. It is amazing to me how these certain people seem to know everything about everything.

So, if anyone would like to share on topics discussed rather than rehash wheather or not I should go to the doctor or not that would be great. In my research and conversation with MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL, if I thought I was in serious jeopardy then trust me I would be at the ER not her posting.

Thank you to all who gave friendly advice.

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

me!!! i saved a bundle with geiko!!

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ORIGINAL: friendsonlyFL
. I am sure the other subs here will agree that just because I need to "prep" doesn't mean Doms care

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ORIGINAL: friendsonlyFL

Now this goes to another topic. I went through butt plug traning for 3 years almost. I use lube. I do everything I am supposed to do but anal sex is agony everytime STILL. This time was particulary bad just due to extreme cock size. I have spent years listening to peoples advice. Relax, go slow, use lube, soak in the tube, eat, don't eat, use anal eze, do foreplay. Blah blah blah. I am sure the other subs here will agree that just because I need to "prep" doesn't mean Doms care. (some of the time). Sometimes they just want to cause you severe pain.
After all this time and I am STILL having such complications. Does anyone one have an idea or osmething that I have not already mentioned.

sincerly,

miserable butt

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  Fuck 90% of the advice you read about anal sex and how to get into it.  I LOVE anal and have introduced any number of women to it who now love it, some even  crave it and orgasm far quicker with a bit of anal play.

Forget penetration for now.  Whenever you are making love and you are getting near orgasm, have your lover sensually play with the area around your anus, licking, touching, caressing it as you cum.  I love going down on a woman, sucking and eating her cunt, teasing her clit and when she is about to cum, playing with that super sensitive area is hot.  The goal is to break the negative association between your ass and pain and replace it with a positive association of pleasure.

It might take a week, it might take months, but at some point your lover is going to be doing that to you and feel your "inner slut" pressing your ass against that finger, hungry for MORE.  Now, I am a sadist and will of course give LESS, but at some point, that is when SOME penetration should happen.  You want to go slower than your greedy horny slut side wants to go.

Also, as you begin to play with penetration, when he does so, slide it in and stop or at least let the muscles adjust before going on.  That is why all the crap about "slowly use larger buttplugs" isn't going to work for someone like you. 

At some point, if you follow the above advice, your lover can wake up while you are still sleeping and rape your ass and you will come up screaming in orgasm rather than in pain, or at least pain AND orgasm...

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Yup, that post still makes the temperature in the room go up several degrees, Michael. 

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I wrote that post a touch over the top to titillate someone so it is a bit one sided on the "HARSH" side but the advice holds true.

The anal sphincter is a muscle that can be controlled on a conscious level and that is what one needs to learn to do AND as a lover doing the penetrating, pay attention to both the physical place your partner is in as well as the emotional.  Just because she wants it doesn't mean she can and if she doesn't want it, it is going to make penetration difficult.  The trick is to know which is going on.    Nothing like love and understanding to make things go better.