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aFreak -> New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 4:50:13 PM)
First off i would like to say hello to everyone for i am new to this site and the lfe style. Bakc to business, I am new to the life style and would like to become a master/dom. I need the low down of what is expected from a master and from a dom and how do i go about it. I know there is no specific way to do any of this, besides what the people make of it. If anyone would like to help me out i would really be greatful for the advice. Thank you, aFreak

Dracironsgirl -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 4:55:31 PM)
hello Sir .... have You tried the various informational websites to learn from ? like castlerealm? just a thought. and welcome. =)

aFreak -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 5:03:56 PM)
No i have not been on that site before. this is really the first site i have been on any site like this. I will look into the site that you have given to me. Thank you, aFreak

SirBurd -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 5:11:50 PM)
First thing is I would change the name. Would a true submissive want to please someone who thinks being a Dom is being a Freak? What does that make her for submitting to you? Then, if you are serious, go to http://groups.msn.com/TheGoldenShackles/lifestyleslinks.msnw It is a list of quite a few sites on a site called Golden Shackles. I used the site 3 years ago when I first entered the realm. or http://myweb.tiscali.co.uk/englishroissy/info.htm which has several links to choose from. Just a place to start, but personally I would be reticent to trust someone A Freak enough to train you. Sirr Burd

perverseangelic -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 5:28:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirBurd First thing is I would change the name. Would a true submissive want to please someone who thinks being a Dom is being a Freak? What does that make her for submitting to you? I dunno, I find the name appealing. It's the kind of name that would draw me in. I rather like quirky names, as I've had good luck with them in the past. Personally, I'd advise the OP to get invovled in his local community. While that wasn't the route I chose, it seems, overall to be the best bet for newbies. Welcome and good luck!

aFreak -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 5:33:32 PM)
Sirburd, I understand were you are coming from on the name but that is what i have named myself in many differant parts of my life. I am a Freak by many peoples standards, but maybe not by the poeple in my new life style that i have. Just to let you know that its just something that i have pick out of the blue, i have FREAK on my truck in two places. One 3' x 1' and the other 1' x 6". Its not just a name its me. She would be a slave or a sub not a freak. My name shouldn't be taken out of context and converted into someones elses profile. Thank you for the sites that you have listed i will give them a look through to see which ones meet my best interest. Thank you, aFreak

aFreak -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 5:38:28 PM)
Perverseangelic, thank you for you suport on the name. I did not classify anyone in the comunity as what my name implies but myself. Thank you for your show of interest and i will be looking into my local people a little more. Thanks, aFreak

Webmaster60 -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 6:00:08 PM)
quote: have You tried the various informational websites to learn from ? like castlerealm? ok back up a few.. WHAT do you want to be.. Rather what ARE you? You can't learn HOW to be a Master or a dom. you CAN learn to educate and tune whats there. But this is in your blood or not.. Before anyone can guide you.. There needs be more information about that What do you want from the lifestyle? what do you want in a slave/sub what do you want/expect from a Ds relationship? I'd suggest before going to fantasyrealm.. Do some reading HERE.. It may give you an idea as to who you ARE and who you want to become.

aFreak -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 6:14:14 PM)
Just for a quick glimps of what i want and am/like. I want the control of a slave, to have and to be obayed by my every will and at the same time have the slave be able to be in bondage, be whipped, spanked ect. Maybe that is all the same with a slave. I will and am looking into the site "castlerealm". When i truly find out the differance i will let you know what it is that i looking for, but for know it's a slave that i want that likes the dom factor added into slavery.

JohnWarren -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 6:34:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aFreak Perverseangelic, thank you for you suport on the name. I did not classify anyone in the comunity as what my name implies but myself. Thank you for your show of interest and i will be looking into my local people a little more. Thanks, aFreak A good source for finding local groups is www.darkheart.com/usalist.html

aFreak -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 6:39:38 PM)
JohnWarren, Thank you, i can use all the info that i can get. Please keep me posted on any info that you might think that is/would be helpful to me.

PriapicBratt -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 10:06:37 PM)
I also suggest Castlerealm which covers most areas of the lifestyle. I would also suggest just reading the forums in collarme. Theres always a varied amount of information and its a good way to see the different angles people take for the same issues. and Welcome to collarme Sir. Bratt

Focus50 -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/3/2005 11:34:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aFreak Just for a quick glimps of what i want and am/like. I want the control of a slave, to have and to be obayed by my every will and at the same time have the slave be able to be in bondage, be whipped, spanked ect. Maybe that is all the same with a slave. I will and am looking into the site "castlerealm". When i truly find out the differance i will let you know what it is that i looking for, but for know it's a slave that i want that likes the dom factor added into slavery. Don't forget to research what it is a sub/slave wants and needs in return. They're really not looking to be treated as some drunken, abusive arsehole might treat his battered wife! D/s or M/s is a dynamic where our unique gifts compliment the other's needs and desires. ie We each have what the other wants. I'm saying this because so far I've yet to be convinced you're not just some young nilla fella looking for a never-say-no fuck toy to use and abuse at your leisure. And that's NOT what a sub/slave is, anyway! Owning a slave also gets you obligations and responsibilities in return - nuthin' is free or easy! For now, I'm happy to give you the benefit of my doubts and suggest you follow the advice and links posted etc. And I wish you luck. Focus.

Pestilence -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 3:22:01 AM)
I think you've hit the nail on the head here. He seems to not have read these forums at all, or he'd already know half of the things he's asked after. The info on here only is invaluable to any new Dom. I think I lucked out and had the perfect sub fall right in my lap after about 3 months of researching, she's now under consideration. [:D]

fyreredsub -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 5:54:08 AM)
i just get the warm fuzzies when Masters remember we are actually human.... can he deal w/ the obligation and responsibility.....many can't.????? its a shame. they think that all they have to do is enslave them and that is good enough, but bonding w/ them is a good thing. makes it much easier to obey and continue to want to please. surprised to see Masters speaking of castle realm....time for more java on that one good luck in your journey quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: aFreak Just for a quick glimps of what i want and am/like. I want the control of a slave, to have and to be obayed by my every will and at the same time have the slave be able to be in bondage, be whipped, spanked ect. Maybe that is all the same with a slave. I will and am looking into the site "castlerealm". When i truly find out the differance i will let you know what it is that i looking for, but for know it's a slave that i want that likes the dom factor added into slavery. Don't forget to research what it is a sub/slave wants and needs in return. They're really not looking to be treated as some drunken, abusive arsehole might treat his battered wife! D/s or M/s is a dynamic where our unique gifts compliment the other's needs and desires. ie We each have what the other wants. I'm saying this because so far I've yet to be convinced you're not just some young nilla fella looking for a never-say-no fuck toy to use and abuse at your leisure. And that's NOT what a sub/slave is, anyway! Owning a slave also gets you obligations and responsibilities in return - nuthin' is free or easy! For now, I'm happy to give you the benefit of my doubts and suggest you follow the advice and links posted etc. And I wish you luck. Focus.

FTopinMichigan -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 6:47:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirBurd First thing is I would change the name. Hey...I'm with you on the name, Burd. [:)] The connotation isn't that great, IMO, and in spite of it being a part of how you might identify yourself, aFreak, it came imply so many things. I was recently contacted by a man that has something along the lines of "Big Dick" in his SN. (Don't want to give the full handle here.) So I have to decide, by his choice of identifying names....is he a huge asshole, or well hung. Either way, it's not my primary interest. [;)] Others seem to be offering the more helpful advice, so I'll refrain from repeating it again. Enjoy your journey. K

fldrkhorse -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 7:16:40 AM)
I have my thoughts on a submissive/slave on paper if you'd like to read. Master Ken

LilWhiteWolf -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 7:45:13 AM)
quote: Don't forget to research what it is a sub/slave wants and needs in return. They're really not looking to be treated as some drunken, abusive arsehole might treat his battered wife! Thank You Focus....i get so many emails asking how i will serve a Dom/Master yet they fail to mention what they may offer to the sub. And truthfully, i can't answer in which way i would serve a Dom until i meet the right one. oh i can give generalized ideas but sometimes i feel like i am being interviewed for a job instead of trying to get to know someone so that some type of rapport can be established. maybe i am different (well i know i am) but to serve someone, i must also love them. i don't want to serve "just to serve".

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 10:07:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirBurd First thing is I would change the name. Would a true submissive want to please someone who thinks being a Dom is being a Freak? What does that make her for submitting to you? Then, if you are serious, go to http://groups.msn.com/TheGoldenShackles/lifestyleslinks.msnw It is a list of quite a few sites on a site called Golden Shackles. I used the site 3 years ago when I first entered the realm. or http://myweb.tiscali.co.uk/englishroissy/info.htm which has several links to choose from. Just a place to start, but personally I would be reticent to trust someone A Freak enough to train you. Sirr Burd quote: ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan Hey...I'm with you on the name, Burd. [:)] The connotation isn't that great, IMO, and in spite of it being a part of how you might identify yourself, aFreak, it came imply so many things. I was recently contacted by a man that has something along the lines of "Big Dick" in his SN. (Don't want to give the full handle here.) So I have to decide, by his choice of identifying names....is he a huge asshole, or well hung. Either way, it's not my primary interest. [;)] Others seem to be offering the more helpful advice, so I'll refrain from repeating it again. Enjoy your journey. K I say he is already showing his dominance by not listening to either of you and standing by his name. He should not pick a name because it'll attract a "true" submissive but because it reflects his innerself. If you judge a person by their screen name and not the content of what they write to you then you yourself are showing a shallow, condensending side of your person. As for the op itself, here is my advice: Watch EVERYONE. Go out into your r/t community and watch the Dominants there. Ask them questions and listen to their answers. Also talk/listen to the submissives about what submission means to them. Go to the informational websites and read, read, read and then find the books on BDSM and read some more. From all this information, gleen what you identify as part of your core values and add them to your daily life. Always remember that the information you get is by no means a ridged context to live your life. Only you can determine how your life is lived. You must always be willing to learn more and to grow.

theRose4U -> RE: New master needs to learn (12/4/2005 11:09:08 AM)
quote: JohnWarren, Thank you, i can use all the info that i can get. Please keep me posted on any info that you might think that is/would be helpful to me. Would suggest amazon and looking at any of the very informative books under John's name.

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