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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:27:42 AM   
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:31:43 AM   
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I'm trying to remember the last time I used the word "ungrateful" for the forums.  However, I might know when to use it next.


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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:36:40 AM   
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Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.


Why?   Because it's more convenient for you?
 
John


I think it depends on if she/he is looking for someone just for her/him and if she mentions that she is part of a dynamic in the written parts of her/his profile.

If either of those is true, I don't think making a couple's profile is necessary.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:41:50 AM   
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:46:35 AM   
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Recent studies indicate that four out of seven subbies are sexually attracted to ungrateful, petulant rants.  Astute Doms know this, and that's why they create this kind of thread.

(And, yeah, I said "subbies."  Wanna make something of it?  I haven't had a good spanking in weeks.)


That, I would think, is your own fault.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:50:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover

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Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.


Why?   Because it's more convenient for you?

John


Yes, for those like you that are seeking. 


Seriously, dude... do not go through life trying to decide what is more convenient for me or anyone else.  If you want to portray this as anything more than your own self-interest, then you're being intellectually dishonest. 

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I know you are aware we all belong to an alt lifestyle dating site which is why you listed yourself as a “dominant” and took time to write up that spiffy profile.  For you to pose such a question when you work so hard to make yourself convenient is rather . . . hypocritical.  Selecting ‘couple’ is just another one of those convenient choice options here at CollarMe.


I have no idea what my being dominant or my spiffy profile have to do with this, but thanks for noticing.  Nor do I have any idea what making myself "convenient" means, or how it makes me a hypocrite. 

But I do know that people make their own choices in life, even if you don't like them or approve of them.  Even if there was such a thing as "one true way", I rather doubt that your way would prevail. 

Unless you own them, or employ them, no one is obligated to abide by your wishes.  And whining about it in a public forum is just pathetic.

John

I agree that know one has to abide by anyone’s wishes.  That doesn’t negate the valid observation in the OP whether you liked the tone in which it was presented or not. 

Dude… you have a 1,200 word profile espousing who you are and what you want.  I don’t have to be psychic to see how your profile makes it more convenient for someone to know you, which is exactly what the OP is about.  He says, we should say who you are as allowed by the CollarMe category options.  It seems hypocritical to me to see you oppose that when you have bullets and numbered lists of what is or isn’t acceptable to you.  Think about it.  That there is convenient, I don’t care who you are!

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:52:26 AM   
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I like you more and more all of the time, RS.


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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:02:44 AM   
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Look again John - our profile does say couple!


And?  What's that to do with the price of eggs.  We have a joint profile and yet, there are still the occasional emails from males who see only a single female.
Your picture here, and your name does not single you out as a couple so I would assume until reading the profile you were a single male.  So I would waste my time clicking your profile would I not?  How inconvenient for me!
 
Possibly people do not wish to come across as new?  Rebuilding a new profile means new sign up dates and places you as easy troll fodder.  How inconvenient!
 
Some women have the job to procur fresh meat - you don't like that well no biggie - move past it.  You are making too many assumptions on what people want.  Or coming onto a forum to complain about dominants choice of getting some ass.  Either way - totally off putting.
 
Is it just whine and rant weekend or what?  I go off for a couple of days and goodness! On the positive side, I tried mushypeas and mint sauce and found it utterly delicious.  No negativity from me!
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:10:27 AM   
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I agree that know one has to abide by anyone’s wishes.  That doesn’t negate the valid observation in the OP whether you liked the tone in which it was presented or not. 

Dude… you have a 1,200 word profile espousing who you are and what you want.  I don’t have to be psychic to see how your profile makes it more convenient for someone to know you, which is exactly what the OP is about.  He says, we should say who you are as allowed by the CollarMe category options.  It seems hypocritical to me to see you oppose that when you have bullets and numbered lists of what is or isn’t acceptable to you.  Think about it.  That there is convenient, I don’t care who you are!


Yeah, but RS - John isn't moaning about shit, specifically on a message board for discussions - in his first posts.  OMG - why does everything have to be so whiney and moaning all the fricking time.  It's not actual life.  You block/delete/ignore - these options are viable and easy.  More whiney people who can't get their own way or run the site like they want just shouts 'boring' to me.
Instead of moaning, get fucking active and off your butts.  If its so bad, create your own site and filter out the shit you don't like and run it the way you want.  Start a munch.  Get out and meet people.
Mind you, if all people do is moan and whine, I can see why they have no ability to make friends.  Sheesh.
 
Yeah - that was me - ranting and whining.  I think that is now - 4 lost friends off the radar.  See how it works?
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:13:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.


Why?   Because it's more convenient for you?

John


I think it depends on if she/he is looking for someone just for her/him and if she mentions that she is part of a dynamic in the written parts of her/his profile.

If either of those is true, I don't think making a couple's profile is necessary.

I agree.  If they offer and are seeking solo encounters, it seems counter productive to list as a couple.   Most announce they are part of a couple in the first sentence anyway and it has never urked me personally.     

I feel that the OP is valid in that people don’t use the limited categories, options and resources that CollarMe does provide.  Many don’t list as bisexual or poly to avoid wanker mail…  I have rewritten and adjusted a few friends’ profiles to reflect exactly who they were and what they offered.  They are no longer among the ranks of complainers that say they get wank mail etc.  We took time to invest in making a good profile, the effort showed and attracted a higher class of suitors. 

So, I am with the OP and believe that if you have a lifestyle relationship role preference or status, your screen name, profile categories and what you say about yourself should all reflect who you really are.  I know people that only seek couples and have radar set to couples.  It is much more “convenient” if you are who you say you are.  

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:13:58 AM   
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I agree that know one has to abide by anyone’s wishes.  That doesn’t negate the valid observation in the OP whether you liked the tone in which it was presented or not. 


Actually, the initial observation by the OP is invalid.  The OP identified all of these people as "pimps for their master", which is an utterly invalid statement. 
 
And given that the whining was done in a public venue, it invites public reply. 

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Dude… you have a 1,200 word profile espousing who you are and what you want.  I don’t have to be psychic to see how your profile makes it more convenient for someone to know you, which is exactly what the OP is about. 


Whether I (or anyone else) chooses to make a profile more or less "convenient" for those reading is immaterial.  It's still a personal choice.  Many folks would say that a 1,200 word profile is inconvenient (they don't want to read that much).  Too bad... it's my personal choice. 
 
The OP seems to have no problem making and validating his own personal choices.  But he does not seem willing to extend that courtesy to others.  You seem willing to do the same.  That is the hypocrisy.

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He says, we should say who you are as allowed by the CollarMe category options. 


And I say that CollarMe allows us to categorize ourselves in any way we like.  CollarMe also allows us to write 1,200 word profiles, yet neither you nor the OP seem to have taken advantage of that.  So the mere fact that CollarMe "allows" something (rather than "dictates" it) increases personal choice, rather than restricts it. 
 
 
What you're advocating is a "one true way" for writing profiles.... and I advocate personal choice.  I'm comfortable with my position.

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It seems hypocritical to me to see you oppose that when you have bullets and numbered lists of what is or isn’t acceptable to you.  Think about it.  That there is convenient, I don’t care who you are!


Then you do not understand the definition of "hypocrisy" and it's relationship to personal choice.  At no time have I advocated that everyone should do what I choose to do.  I choose to do what appeals to me, and advocate that others do the same... no hypocrisy there. 

"Convenient" is in the eye of the beholder.  Think about it.  There is no grand pooh-bah of convenience, who is the final arbiter of what is and isn't convenient.  And no matter how vociferously you and the OP may claim to be that grand pooh-bah, you're not (though I have to admit that the thought of you in one of those funny hats is rather appealing).
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:16:32 AM   
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:48:19 AM   
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It might just be me - but read the profile and move on if it's not something that interests you. Big friggin deal. As long as it states somewhere that they're looking for a third, what's the problem? Again, maybe it's just me but it seems like a lot of (useless) bitching and moaning to me.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:49:29 AM   
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I get so sick and tired of reading profiles of females to find that they are actually couples.  The female is simply a pimp for her master!  I don't blame the female, but the spineless owner that can't find his own strange stuff!!!!!!!!!!!


Better to have some kind of profile than be like you and have nothing at all.  What name do you give those who have nothing at all??  Ghost??

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:52:59 AM   
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I get so sick and tired of reading profiles of females to find that they are actually couples.  The female is simply a pimp for her master!  I don't blame the female, but the spineless owner that can't find his own strange stuff!!!!!!!!!!!


Better to have some kind of profile than be like you and have nothing at all.  What name do you give those who have nothing at all??  Ghost??


Well, I probably posted my last post, less than half an hour before you peppermint, and they had a profile then.  They have either shut it down completely, or hidden it.
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:55:11 AM   
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Several thoughts come to mind:
 
1.  What makes what you're looking for more important than what they're looking for?  Other than you being selfish and all.
 
2.  You presume that all of those profiles are actually genuine... I do not.  I accept that a meaningful number of them are the men themselves, using a fictitious account to make themselves appear more appealing (ie: if I own one attractive woman, then others will want me more). 
 
3.  What is the difference between what you're doing, and what you're complaining about?  You're looking for a third (or more), and so are they.  The term "hypocrite" comes to mind.
 
John


ditto...... nice to see you posting again John.. 

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:56:27 AM   
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Well, I probably posted my last post, less than half an hour before you peppermint, and they had a profile then.  They have either shut it down completely, or hidden it.
 
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Perhaps he didn't like the responses... or maybe he's revamping...

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 7:59:49 AM   
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Well, I probably posted my last post, less than half an hour before you peppermint, and they had a profile then.  They have either shut it down completely, or hidden it.
 
the.dark.
 
 
.. or maybe he's revamping...


Absolutely kitty.  Maybe re adjusting the fact that his 'couple' profile now looks as it claimed to be - which wasn't entirely obvious from his posting profile here at the time.
 
Being from the UK, I call that irony.
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 8:02:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		HiddenHome, yet isn't it also part of the dynamic for the slave to doing the things which makes their dom's life easier?  What if the Dom hasn't the time nor the patience to seek a third so they have the slave/subbie do that task? What if the subbie requested to do the searching and thus the initial screening before approaching her Dom with potential second, third or fourth?. The possibilities are numerous to why a female sub is seeking a third for her owner. If you don't like it, move on. Consider this, you pimp your profile and qualities to attract a dom or subbie, depending upon what you're looking for, so sounds like kettle calling the pot black in my eyes.

RedMagic1 - I used the term subbies too  so guess we're both in for a spanking!  *grins*


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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 8:02:46 AM   
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Absolutely kitty.  Maybe re adjusting the fact that his 'couple' profile now looks as it claimed to be - which wasn't entirely obvious from his posting profile here at the time.
 
Being from the UK, I call that irony.
 
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Yeah... kinda ironic having a profile that reflects pretty much what ya come on the boards to bitch and moan about...

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