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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/7/2008 4:59:43 PM

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Tears turn me on. No matter what the reason. Call me a pervert.

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In my last relationship (ppft, quite a while ago) He loved to make me cry. I go with my emotions anyway, and he was able to take that and fly with it.

The only time he didnt like to see me cry was when someone else made me cry- then there was hell to pay.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/7/2008 5:06:13 PM

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I don't like to cry, ever. Unfortunately, I have a major guilt complex, so it isn't difficult to bring tears to my eyes. I once dated a Dom who got a hard-on every time he made me cry, and even though I liked him pretty well, I realized we wouldn't suit because of this.

Also, just so you know, there are people who get turned on by making someone cry. It's called dacryphilia.

dacryphilia:
Sexuoerotic arousal from seeing tears in the eyes of a partner or from seeing a partner cry.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/7/2008 8:28:31 PM

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It's hot during a rape scene (or any other scene really). It's not hot during punishment or when it's caused by vanila things.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/7/2008 8:52:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: Cuffkinks

It depends on why she's crying.
If it's an emotional reaction to something in life that is genuinely troubling her, then no. I don't want to see My little girl in tears.
I will hold her and let her cry, dry her tears, talk to her and comfort her until she's finished.
If it's a release during a punishment for something she did that was wrong, I'll continue with the punishment firmly and comfort her as much as is needed when I'm done. My little girl rarely needs punishment, which suits Me fine. She's a good girl and that's the way I want her. But when it does happen I hold firm to the punishment I've decided to give out. Then once it's over the issue is forgotten, never to be mentioned again. It's now time to comfort her, console her and commend her for taking her punishment. (I will always end a punishment session on a positive.)
On the other hand...
If it's during a "play" session and she starts crying, (Provided it's not a genuine distress trigger I might have hit on) it only fuels the sadistic fire in Me to go further. When she cries during play, I want her to cry a thousand tears as I fuck her savagely. It is so hot to watch her go from a crying, sobbing mess to the lust-driven slut she is. To see her body betray her and watch her go from tears to arousal...Awesome!

So...That's My .

Sir,

My gut reaction to your post: "You are so f*cking hot!"

Woman, it isn't just your gut saying that, I found it pretty fucking hot too!

There is a woman who desires that I inflict terrible pain on her to force her to cry but I haven't been the sadist she needs, mainly because of a blend of my not trusting (despite clear evidence I can and should) and my fear of hurting that which I value most. I have no doubt that I will one day take her there.

I have taken women to a place of catharsis through a mixture of physical pain and emotional safety. There is something magical in holding a heavy bottom who is crying heap knowing that you took her to a place the most sadistic top couldn't.

Yeah, crying can be very very hot.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/7/2008 9:16:22 PM

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It is hard for me to cry...usually...:0)...I come from the school of "suck it up"..dont let them see you cry...Have I been made to cry? sure..but it took a lot...now if we are talking about screaming, yelling, or cursing...umm..that I can do rather easily...of course with the onset of menopause..it has made it a bit more easier to cry..but I generally still attempt to hide it when it hits..Tempting.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/8/2008 9:23:10 AM

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I like it when it is an expression of dealing with an emotion. I like comforting a crying slave after punishment or an other emotional situation. Especially if my sub has tried to fend off her tears for a while before starting to cry to show me she wants to endure before she lets go of her emotions.
I do not like it when sub tries to use tears to get her way. In other words to start crying before punishment starts.
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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/8/2008 10:11:17 AM

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There really isn't a blanket answer, Kelly. For me, at least, what makes the sub tick is enormously important, and then it depends on what the crying is for. Emotional release? Flashback? End of endurance? And what exactly do you call "easy"?

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/8/2008 10:13:36 AM

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Reading your profile, I'd have to draw the line if you cry when I play jazz....

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/8/2008 10:56:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: Masterdarkone29

I like it when its an expression of their feelings over their dispointment in their actions towards or in response to what I have said.

Yessssssss thats amazing isn't it.

Oops sometimes I forget Im submissive!

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/8/2008 12:09:51 PM

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Heck, my vanilla husband admitted to me the other day that he gets totally turned on when I cry. That's usually from an argument or fight. After which I generally don't want anything to do with him, and he wants to f*&% me! Of course, I hope my Master likes making me cry. I think there's something about the trust it shows to accept whatever it is that is causing the tears (be it cathartic, punishment, or just pain), and to open up and show that vulnerability. I hope tears can be accepted as a gift.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/8/2008 1:18:42 PM

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Personally, I think it's great. Especially if she has on mascara and it smears down her cheeks along with the tears.. I guess I'm just odd.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/10/2008 6:25:11 AM

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Only when I get to drink the tears.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/10/2008 6:51:29 AM

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Sir likes it when I cry, it flat dose it for him. Dosent really matter why, the other day i was letting go of some emotionall bullshit stuck in my head, and was just sobbing. I was screaming at him (not AT him just really more like i was so upset i needed to yell at something, he dident make me cry or cause any of the bullshit) HE held me while I cried and just cuddled me for a bit. And then I got __the__ smile. Lets just say I felt lots better and hour or so later.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 7:25:06 AM

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Teardrops running down your face
Teardrops running down your face
Diamonds of water, and salt from your body
Coming down to meet my kisses
Teardrops running down your face
Teardrops running down your face
Staining your skin and my skin and beginning
The stories that you can't begin
The way I feel could be despised but its a vision that I prize
Teardrops Teardrops
I'm not trying to make you feel pain
or joy to make the tears flow
But when they roll unashamed - they move me so
Teardrops running down you, face
Teardrops running down you, face
Let me, let me brush them with my fingers
Comfort you and say its alright
It's so strong this way I feel sometimes I want to beg or steal
Teardrops Teardrops.
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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 8:12:23 AM

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I'm neutral to beth's tears.

They are sometimes a part of her 'subspace' and not an indication of distress. They do not come at similar sensation levels. beth's submission is a part of who she is, sometimes tears are a part of personifying that submission. For her, tears are purging, cathartic, and serve to cleanse. That's not a mindset that is part of a thought process going into any interaction. Tears are not a goal. Tears don't happen every time.

There are many things I monitor when we play to insure that I'm not going beyond the physical limits of beth's body or the mental/emotional limits of beth's mind; tears are not one of them.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 11:15:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: IR

I do not like it when sub tries to use tears to get her way. In other words to start crying before punishment starts.
IR

To me, that's a red flag. It says that you don't believe people can be in emotional pain, only physical.

Plus I have a real problem with men who assume the only reason women cry is to be manipulative. We're women, at the wrong time of the month we can burst into tears at a commercial of someone taking their favorite detergent away. Deal with it.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 11:19:08 AM

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Lets just say I felt lots better and hour or so later.

Feeling better already?

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 11:20:10 AM

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Oh...and the short answer for me is: Yes.

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 11:22:57 AM

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Plus I have a real problem with men who assume the only reason women cry is to be manipulative. We're women, at the wrong time of the month we can burst into tears at a commercial of someone taking their favorite detergent away. Deal with it.

No one has to "deal with" anything they don't desire. And painting women as hapless victims to biological functions without the wherewithal to aptly communicate their bio-emotional status or even to exert control over how they express themselves while in it is something I find more derogatory than the implication that crying is always done with manipulation in mind (which wasn't even what IR said in the first place).

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RE: Do you like it when your sub cries? - 10/11/2008 11:33:36 AM

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Crying is such an incredibly rare thing for me (especially in front of someone else) that I could see how someone that understood what a trusting thing it is for me to do could enjoy it.

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