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Submissives/Slaves,
What keeps You as Submissives/Slaves?
Or what Drives You?
For me it was that I always new from day one
that I was Submissive.
Didn't think I would ever be anything else.
The very first erotic connection i ever had was related to images of what my 4 or 5 year old mind perceived as an attractive, powerful Woman who had beguiled a group of ostensibly fearsome men into an inescapable condition of humiliating control. The Woman? Why, Circe of course, and the men, Ulysses' companions, turned into pigs and being herded into a pen by Her ... ah, if only the illustrator of that Golden Book had known (or did She? ;) the world that illustration would open to a young boy's mind.
But what exactly was the attraction? What so made me desire to be controlled by a Woman or Women, to submit to and to please in every conceivable way, with clear direction and Her deepest desires freely revealed, explicitly depicted and demanded of me, with sure discipline to follow should i fail to please, for otherwise how would i ever feel sure of how deep Her desire is? To feel free to enjoy control for it's own sake and to revel in my responses, savoring my torment? And why would i desire to know Her to be pleased if even by my suffering and very real humility?
Now (take a deep breath boys and girls) perhaps the question is almost rhetorical for those of your who feel your breath grow shallow and your attention drift to your own personal construct of that reality. Listen ... what do you really hear? Is it simply the truth of your most intimate need to connect? Do you need to know ... really know this is truth that She (or He) lets you see of Their desires, Their vulnerability (yes, that's what i said ... vulnerability) is indeed the very deepest truth, the most elemental desire and need She or He may have?
Do you want to touch that, to give in the most passionate, unselfish and fulfilling way you can, and see joy, feel gratefulness, be completed by that giving? Do you want to feel the trust implicit in accepting your offer, your willingness and yes, your pleas to be directed, taught, disciplined and ... used? To feel the depth of that bond grow in all ways as it can only grow with two who can reveal these truths to each other?
In other words, is this simply the most direct, believable and meaningful way in which you feel connected to another Human; the hardwired expressway (no matter how long it may take to actually find a worthy fellow traveler) to the core of bonding the way you need to feel it, breathe it, live it and believe it to be real?
It is for me.
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Have You ever thought about what it would
be like to be Dominate?
So, having said all that, how can i also say ... Yes, absolutely. As a matter of fact, having discovered at a very early age that it was far easier for a male to attract submissives then find Dommes, i spent a lot of time doing just that; and it was the insight i had into submissive needs that allowed me to be particularly good at it (OK; so being a 6'3" guy with a killer voice didn't hurt) but really, it was empathy (and along the way, observation) that gave me the ability to give submissive Women what they needed. But there's the key element again: i was very, very eager to know that i was giving them exactly what they needed, because that's what i needed!
Until i was introduced to the concept of the service top, i thought of myself as a sort of "opportunistic/service switch" -- if finding the sort of Domme i needed was next to impossible, at least i could make some Women writhe with pleasure while (OK; i know this may stretch the boundaries of some people's ability to stay with me here) experiencing a kind of empath's voyeurism. i could literally feel myself identifying with what those submissives i was with were experiencing.
Needless to say, that wasn't enough. Eventually, one of two things (and sometimes both) would happen. My veiled submission would come rising to the surface at a moment when i suspected it might be taken advantage of (sometimes resulting in confusion and disappointment, sometimes ... lo and behold ... a Domme is born!) or, i'd simply loose momentum, which with those who were primarily sexual submissives, might be OK (they just needed it in bed) but with the more deeply rooted submissives, those for whom service in many more ways is important, there would be a distinct feeling of ... "what's wrong here"? And what was wrong was that i was taking a detour to the truth against oncoming traffic.
Needless to say, there comes a point in everyone's self identity process where one either learns what their basic nature is and goes with it, or continues to either resist that which is uncomfortable, or seek out that which is most expedient, neither of which will prove to be lasting. My truth, which is that i love to please, to know i'm truly being of service (and yes, truly know i'm appreciated for it) is what makes me not just submissive, but in some degree, desirous of a bond so strong that to say i am enslaved is to say i know love.
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