Honalori
Posts: 9
Joined: 11/13/2007 Status: offline
|
Thank you for the wonderful question. I struggle with this dichotomy of personality when talking with many within the BDSM community. I am not submissive in any day to day interaction, and in fact am very dominant. However, I am a submissive sexual partner (my choice for titles). I have had many folks never understand and even argue that I was not a "sub" but a "dom(me)", no matter what I thought of myself. For a while this lack of others understanding, led to my abandonment of the entire BDSM community. However, its lonely out there. :) Also, I cannot let the smallness of a few lead me away from others who are not. I think many folks in alternative sexualities at sometime felt as if they did not belong anywhere ("here", "there", "anywhere"). I came to realize that I would try to explain once to any one person. After that once, the only further discussion I would have was if it was a true knowledge/intellectual discussion, as in "help me to understand further". Otherwise, I simply will pony up to the Rudeness barrel and open up a can of whoop ass. I am not "their" sub and so they can have my full dominant, type A personality, in their face. I may prove them right in their mind, that I am not a sub, but either way they go away. My 4 cents worth... Honi
|