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ORIGINAL: Subductrssss

To give you some perspective I'll give you one example of my "adventures".

I met a man on aol, we talked for weeks on line, then months on the phone.  He was local to where I lived at the time so we set a date to meet.  Public, coffee house and then a movie, the chemistry was there and attraction and all through the coffee and movie we both felt these things and I don't normally do anything on a first meet.  I drove home and he followed me.

Now he told me he was divorced and His son lived with him (18 year old son).  He did not have a home phone but did have a cell phone (plausible, lots of people do that now days, I even do it now).  BUT I could contact Him at work at anytime and call His cell phone any time of day or night.  He spent nights at my house, I mean like 3-4 nights in a row.  Months went by and He collared me.  We went out together in public all the time, movies, walks on the beach, clubs, dancing, restaurants.  All in the same area of town where He and I both lived.

He had to go to a convention in Georgia and took me along, His company paid for His ticket and the hotel room, He said He paid for my ticket.  At the airport one of His co-workers was in line behind us.  My Dom acted a bit uncomfortable and said He really didn't want the guy to know I was with Him as He wasn't sure what His company would say about it.  I said okay and hung back while He and the guy talked and boarded the plan, we had seats together, my Dom and I and before we landed He told me to go to the baggage area, get my bags and wait till He called me from the hotel to get a cab which He gave me money for to come to the hotel.

I did so and He did so, I got to the hotel and went up the room.  For five days I watched T.V, read, and went out on long walks by myself while He attended meetings.  At night it was wonderful with being with Him and our play and love making.

On the flight back no co-worker so no shady stuff.  He spent the night at my house and went home the next morning.  That coming weekend I was moving to a new place and He was coming to help me move.  He never showed.  I hired on the spur of the moment a few neighborhood guys to help me and moved on my own, he never once answered His phone that whole day.

The next day I called His phone and a woman answered, she asked me was I Marsha and I said Yes, she said "May my husband and I come talk to you?" I was blown away and said yes.  They came over and he sat in one chair, her on another and me on the couch by myself.

She MADE him tell me he did not love me and loved her, she MADE him tell me that it had all been a game on His side and it was over.  She told me they had been married for 20 years and she did not intend to give him up over some perverted woman.

I took the humiliation and when they left I collapsed.  For two weeks I could not eat or drink or sleep.  My friend at the time came to my house and literally slapped me to my senses. 

There were no clues other than I was never brought to his house but I should have heeded that clue.

If you feel something is not right, listen to that feeling.

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ORIGINAL: wichchilde

If this was your Dom/Master what would you do?

~Comes home, talks to you online and then barely talks to you the rest of the night.
~Hasn''t called in a month.
~Claims that calls to your cell aren't going through when he tries to call.
~Claims he is not getting your texts and when you panic he goes off on you.
~Gets upset when he asks you to do something and you can't at that point in time.
~Tells you first that he plans on collaring you, but when and where is up to him, and then tells you that if someone else shows interest, not to say no because of him.
~Tells you that you can only call him Master when you used to call him things like Sir and other pet names and he said it was okay because they all ment the same thing no matter what was said.
~Tells you you can text him at work and then down the line asks you not too because you make him feel guilty that he is working and you are not.

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ORIGINAL: Subductrssss
... I have always made it a practice to never become involve with married or otherwise in a relationship men ...

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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An on-line relationship can be thought of as a "relationship lite".

I consider it a pen-pal type of relationship.

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ORIGINAL: wichchilde

It started out as having the intent first and then going to real time. We had talked a couple of times about meeting, but there were no promises as when and where would depend on his job. We had talked about making a serious desicion on the relationship after the meeting, but there has been no talk of that since.