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Don't call me _____ - 10/18/2008 9:06:25 AM

hopelesslyInvo

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i've seen those threads a good few times, as well as pet name threads and terms of endearment.

how about flat out compliments by means of being called cute? pretty? beautiful? hot? gorgeous? sexy? attractive? adorable?

you know they're all compliments when they’re stated, but which, if any, will regardless of the intent bother or seem out of place to you when being referred to?

example is one person i dated who i referred to as cute, and when asked to comment on her sister’s looks [why she asked god only knows] i described her as hot. voila, instant jealousy~

in her mind, hot was a greater compliment and meant i was more attracted to her sister, [fun argument that was...] and after a long discussion of comparing kittens to cats, michelle branch to britney spears, colin farrell to justin timberlake, and all sorts of other relations with one another i finally got my point across that to me, cute highly outranks my attraction to hot and is why i was dating her and not her sister; i even got her to admit she thinks of me as being cute rather than hot or sexy~

being that they're [you're] dominant and all, i can feel myself hesitate to call many of the women among you which i meet either cute or pretty, when that's exactly how i feel and and look upon many of them. like i said, i am always more attracted to women who strike me that way than the ones who are 'hot' or 'sexy', but i share a fairly an equal attraction to the women who are either adorably cute, or elegantly beautiful.

i’m worried that it's almost as if being referred to as cute comes back to calling them [the d-side] something like 'girls' rather than women, or that they will feel my saying they are pretty is ‘selling them short’.

so, my feelings lean towards beautiful and gorgeous when describing a lot of the domme's, while cute or pretty seems reserved towards a lot of the submissives which i also can't help but compliment, but while i adversely have no problem calling a submissive beautiful on the occasions it seems more of a match, on the other end i fear being mistaken of my intent/description and as such avoid calling the domme's cute when i see one that very much so makes me want to tell her she is; making myself replace it to what feels like the forced yet more well received term of 'beautiful'. i very often avoid using the terms sexy or hot at all because i feel like i'm insinuating the only way i look at someone is in a sexual way, and is not how i wish to present myself, my attraction, or my interests in someone.

so having my own mindset and connotations, i wonder which words or compliments of the sort strike you the wrong way, and are there any means of description you avoid telling others yourself but feel the most accurate to get your point across when you want to compliment them?

and lets try to leave it only to the compliments that bother you, not just comments in general.

< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 10/18/2008 9:13:07 AM >

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