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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/19/2008 2:53:00 PM

KatyLied

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Seriously, people, the only she will know what is going on is to ask him and hope for an open/honest response.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/19/2008 3:51:12 PM

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I dunno. I have 2 profiles here. This one and one I use when I go to the chat rooms (sunarama) using java cause my name is registered on mirc. It's not deceitful. It's practical.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/19/2008 3:54:30 PM

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Move on, fast, he's way too complicated to be fun and this should all be about fun.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/19/2008 5:10:52 PM

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Move on, fast, he's way too complicated to be fun and this should all be about fun.

It's amazing how over slimpified and judgemental all of your responses are.

Fun is important for some/maybe a lot, it's more than that. Some want to form a way of life and a future and in order to do that, open communication if needed. Not just running away when things aren't "fun." She needs to talk to him and figure this shit out then choose if it's what she wants to deal with for the long/semi-long haul. At least in my opinion, seeing that she enjoys the man and all.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/19/2008 6:47:00 PM

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quote:

It's amazing how over slimpified and judgemental all of your responses are.

Fun is important for some/maybe a lot, it's more than that. Some want to form a way of life and a future and in order to do that, open communication if needed. Not just running away when things aren't "fun." She needs to talk to him and figure this shit out then choose if it's what she wants to deal with for the long/semi-long haul. At least in my opinion, seeing that she enjoys the man and all.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I dunno. I have 2 profiles here. This one and one I use when I go to the chat rooms (sunarama) using java cause my name is registered on mirc. It's not deceitful. It's practical.

Ask the man!

I don't think I was the least bit judgmental. AND I believe my advice (in 3 words) was the same as yours.

geesh.

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 10/19/2008 6:48:03 PM >

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/19/2008 7:00:14 PM

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Sunshinemiss, you're creating drama where none exists. She was talking to tweedydaddy. I've already created enough unnecessary drama on this thread.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/20/2008 8:21:30 PM

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I would recommend addressing the issue with directness. Honesty connotes to safety. If you can't trust him, that is an issue,imo.
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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/20/2008 10:01:56 PM

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Having a sub and a dom profile when you protray yourself as a dom without revealing it to you partner to my mind is a lie only if you get caught, lol and he got busted. I'm assumeing this a online thing. It's not fun anymore time to move on and find someone who is what they represent themselves to be. I suspect the OP knows this already.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/21/2008 7:07:25 AM

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When I was fairly new to the scene I met a Dominant who I just clicked with when we were around each other; we'd be at the same play parties and gravitate towards each other, end up playing, end up back at His place etc, (one of the few times I was involved with someone with being "involved")

We went to a private play party one night and after a bit He left me alone in a room where I was in a discussion with some other submissives, after a bit I went to look for Him and found Him in a room with a woman, "He" was on the St. Andrews Cross, "He" was the one being flogged and I was totally shocked and a bit upset.

We talked about it and He explained that yes He was a Dominant but every once in a blue moon He needed what He gave to me, I was too new to the scene, too insecure to deal with it and before I could He moved out of state for a new job.

I don't generally deal with Switches but I can now understand and embrace and accept Them for who they are and know that as with other things in this lifestyle it's a personal choice and you just have to deal with what you can deal with.

The two profiles is a bit upsetting as He could put it all in one profile and I know this is ask the Master forum but could not pass this one by and by the way, great answers everyone.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/21/2008 9:46:55 AM

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got it!

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/21/2008 12:31:50 PM

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quote:

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I'll play!...perhaps he is just a guy who likes to get laid and figures casting from both ends of the leash is the most likely way to get him a lil somethin' somethin'.

I'm not impressed with this guy. I recall a guy who had 3 profiles. Yes, one as dominant; one as submissive, and one as switch. I guess he was really desperate to get laid.

See, now, if I were switching, this is -exactly- what I would do... keep a 'switch' profile and one on each side... mostly because there might be people who would be looking for either the dominant or submissive side who wouldn't think to check the 'switch' profiles. I don't see where the harm is in having multiple profiles, as long as, if you're getting involved with someone, you are honest about which profiles are active for more than just friendships, and as long as they're not used for sneaky crap like posting 'retaliation posts' to back up ones own opinions on the boards or some such stuff.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/21/2008 2:43:35 PM

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These sorts discussions, to me, always seem to be more indicative of who has issues with being overly sensitive about duplicity rather than of who may actually be duplicitous.

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/21/2008 2:45:43 PM

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Hey buddy!!! Missed ya!!

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RE: Master has two profiles - 10/21/2008 4:48:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW

Hey buddy!!! Missed ya!!

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