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Rover -> RE: "Old Ways" (10/26/2008 5:45:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Barelily
Rover, I'm a tad disappointed with you. But I have learned that the term selective hearing also applies to reading [;)]
If you'd care to point out what I selectively read, I'm willing to be enlightened.
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I did not give specifics because it was not called for. My answer was made in the same manner the question was given. Keep in mind not everyone feels the need to post the details of their history.
Actually, I asked a pretty straightforward question and gave you the benefit of the doubt by not jumping to any conclusions until you had an opportunity to provide context. When someone asks me about Leather history, or my own history, I'm able to provide simple answers. You're under no obligation to do the same, of course. But folks are likely to draw conclusions about that. It's human nature.
In the future, if you don't like those questions being asked, you might want to reconsider alluding to Leather history, or your history, in a public venue like these forums. Public postings invite public discussion.
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I also made a clear distinction between BDSM and the D/s lifestyle, so for you to ask if I was active in organized BDSM is contrary to what I said.
Considering the term BDSM includes D/S, drawing a distinction between the two is rather unlikely. Perhaps you meant to draw a distinction between D/S and B/D and S/M (ie: each of the three constituent parts of BDSM).
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I've also seen a fair bit of geography so lets not pick on Maine shall we, it's a bit trite.
You can consider it whatever you like. Personally, when I see someone making professions for all of BDSM (or Leather, if you prefer) I tend to want to put that into context. I find it helpful to understand whether that conclusion is drawn from the internet or personal experience, from a single community or a region or even nationally, from the confines of a personal relationship or from within organized BDSM. Each of those factors (and more) help me to understand what you're basing your opinion on, and how I might choose to respond.
The alternative is to make conclusions based on facts that are not in evidence. Not that I have never done that, but I do my best to avoid it.
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By what measure did I make that assessment? Thats fairly obvious to everyone except you I guess, the assessment was based on my life and what I've experienced. Pretty simple.
And that is what I am trying to ascertain. Pretty simple... I thought. As you have clearly stated yourself, your experiences are relevant context. One might question your motivation for asking me (us) to accept them without actually sharing them.
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Anything else I can answer for you,dear, please do speak up.
I'll save any further questions until you answer the earlier questions. I like to think that I've been exceedingly gracious and patient thus far. Though it is tempting, I have come to no conclusions about your statements and given you every opportunity to provide the needed context. But your continued evasiveness will provide plenty of context from which conclusions can be drawn.
John
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