chocolatte2004
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha Is it just impatience that holds you back? Would some light roleplay, playful bondage, seduction games just not satisfy any part of you at all? There's a lot that can be done that would be tame enough that an open minded partner could be coaxed to go along. There seems to be this "all or nothing" criteria that people have - they want 24/7, they want "Master" and "Mistress" relationships out of the gate, they want to dive right in with the full arsenal of toys. Of course, for submissives of both genders, this is not as easy because you'd have to be the partner initiating the play. But for dominants of both genders, what is the harm in enjoying some lighter play while dating/romancing vanilla partners? You still get the benefit of practicing the communication, feeling the feelings, reading your partner and finding out what drives you. Akasha i have no expereince with male subs and female Doms...and i realize the dynamic tends to be different (in my observation) however as a female slave i'll say this... When i was lacking expereince i didnt seek a "vanilla" relationship, because it would have been unfulling. Why would i get involed with someone who can not provide what i need? Yes, they may be able to provide some of the basics of play...but could he Dominate me? Would he understand my need to BE Dominated? Would i have to constantly "top" him to get him to do it? Why frustrate him AND myself? i had come out of a 13y marriage in which i expereinced that frustration with daily frequency. i wasn't looking for "something to do" or a way to "get my feet wet" i wanted a RELATIONSHIP. Of course what i wanted and was seeking is not indicitive of what everyone is looking for. Some are more casual. Some just want the "expereince" ...some only want "play". me, i had done a great deal of introspection, reading, soul searching, etc; to find out where i fit in this whole thing, and....i guess i'm greedy, because i wanted it all, Dominance, Pleasure, Plain, Guidance, Attraction, 24/7 and most importantly.... love.
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