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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 11/24/2008 11:39:51 PM

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I agree here. If I entered into a 1950's household type arrangement, I would expect to keep the house up. I would also expect not to be working outside the home.

What wouldn't fly for me is working 40-60 hours outside the home, running a cat rescue, and then going to someone else's house to wash their dirty underwear.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 11/25/2008 6:56:29 AM

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I view service tasks as a way to be proactive in my submission, and a way to subliminally (if not overtly) tell her I love her. She comes home and these things which were not done when she left are done now...maybe she notices directly, or maybe she doesn't. No matter. Her life is just a bit easier and nicer as beds are made and her place is just a bit cleaner, and she can proceed into her evening without having to address those things.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 11/27/2008 8:42:13 PM

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A sub who likes chores? Don't worry, we're out there. I personally adore doing anything that makes my Love and Master's life easier. Anything to make Him happy. I cannot wait for Him to ask me to do things like that. Just to get all the little things done for Him and then look up from my knees at Him and see that He's pleased... ^_^ I love it.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/4/2008 4:14:03 PM

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Because i live on my own, chores are a must for me. Don't like a dirty place of living

. Actually i was talking with another Dom who we have become great friends and i was telling him that i enjoy doing the dishes and laundry, and will vaccum. And because i clean my car quite a few times per year, i would enjoy it. So i guess for me, yes i do enjoy cleaning to a degree. The satisfaction for me is getting it done and being able to have more play time.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/5/2008 6:48:53 PM

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I do all the chores but clean the litter box. My reward is having a home cleaned the way I like it and I get to chose what cleaning supplies I use (when Papa cleans, he uses cheap stuff that smells funny. I get the good stuff.).

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/5/2008 10:54:40 PM

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My main focus and role in Masters life is one of service. I find fulfillment and contentment in my service to him. My service includes: running his home, cooking his meals, overseeing the ease of his life and comfort.

I would be lost without this main aspect of my slavery to him.
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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/5/2008 11:28:04 PM

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hmmmm....I think I need to find a dominant who gets a kick out of doing housework...or is earning enough to pay for a cleaner.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/6/2008 4:10:25 AM

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~fast reply~
My typical mon-fri day:
Get up and start the coffee, feed the cat and clean the litter, make sure what He is going to wear is clean and ironed, pour the coffee into a hot carafe and set up another pot of coffee so all He has to do is push the button when He gets home. I pack our lunches. I take my shower, readjust the shower head so it's where He prefers. Dry and curl my hair, pour His coffee and wake Him up, finish getting myself ready for work, make the bed. Roll the sleeves of His shirt the way He likes, turn on the dishwasher if needed, start a load of laundry if needed, pour coffee in His travel cup and off we both go to our respective jobs. When I get home from work, I cook and serve supper, clean the dishes and settle in with Him. He never gets up to get another cup of coffee, it's my job to pay attention. On Fridays I get off work early because I worked 9 or 9.5 hours a day mon-thu. So on Fridays I go to the smoke shop and buy our cigarettes, gas up the car, go to the grocery store and do our shopping and pay this with the money I earned, and on pay days I hand money over to Him to use for whatever He sees fit for our shared bills. He also uses me sexually whenever He wants to, however He wants to and luckily for me it involves bondage and suffering of one sort or another. On weekends I do all the cleaning and whatever laundry needs to be done.

His home is His sanctuary, His safe haven, a place of comfort, ease, and pleasure. I should be struck by lightning if His home is ever less than that.

He rewards me every day by His love, affection, humor. He shares all that He is with me, so that I know His heart, His mind, His very soul. I am fulfilled in ways I never thought possible, not by the chores that I do, but by the Relationship that we have.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/6/2008 10:15:54 AM

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I am an odd-ball, I throughly enjoy cleaning and chores about the house for the most part, and I have to beg and plead with Daddy to pwweeezzzzee let me wash that nasty little car in my driveway, it's GROSS don't you see how how dirty it is? (I never get the opportunity, therefore my truck is what gets cleaned and shiny) However, I detest laundry with the fire of a thousand suns. But I have no problem washing/drying/folding his laundry. I won't ever fill the ice cube trays, and I don't take out the trash. That's what the rugmonkeys are for.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/6/2008 8:53:31 PM

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Let me first validate and praise those that know their own personal limits and what they desire from a relationship. If chores and being taken care of are what you want as a part of your relationship, then i would say you are now beginning to form an idea of what kind of submissive you wish to have. This will make finding them easier.
As for are they out here and am i one of them? Yes we are out here, yes there are those of us whom wish only to know that we met your needs, others wish to have their service acknowledged. (Be it with a nod or thank you or dinner or scene?) Others need to be told to do it. It all depends on who you are and what you want.
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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/7/2008 10:11:00 PM

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As a wife and in other relationships, including those involving D/s dynamics, yes, I do enjoy the mundane details of pleasing my partner.
I think your flexibility makes your likelihood of having a relationship rather than only a bedroom D/s dynamicmore likely; I believe it takes more pragmatism to make relationships work.
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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/8/2008 11:52:46 AM

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I really cannot vacuum, it freaks me out.

I never said I was sane.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/22/2008 11:57:29 AM

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personally i like doing chores as long as i know which ones need done that day...a written list helps me best, but most dont need that...i love cooking, laundry ect. because that means when my Dom gets home He dont have to worry about doing anything and we can spend more time together....nothing sucked worse then days when i slacked on my chores during the day then when He got home i had to do them instead of sitting with Him

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/22/2008 11:59:51 AM

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Chores aren't a test for me, or something he makes me do to show dominance, it's a general "Hey I'm here all the time so I might as well do my part"

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/22/2008 12:34:01 PM

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I expect to do domestic chores and service the man if I'm married to him. If I'm just his GF, I have my own house and see no point in going to his house to do these things. But my main usefulness is running the household, supervising the maid, the yard service, calling repairmen, etc., if there are other things needed to be done. I have to make lists, order food and household supplies, mend garments and sometimes sew them, remember to send cards/gifts at appropriate times to his friends and relatives, evaluate utility bills, and a lot of other things. If there's something wrong with the way things are being carried out, I'll see that they are corrected.

Some reading this might say, "what if he doesn't have money for a maid"? Well, he should have a good enough salary to at least pay for a 2x weekly cleaning woman. If he's unemployed or something, or in grad school, I can understand, but otherwise most men have the money or energy to take care of themselves and a woman, especially if the woman is a good and thrifty household manager.

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/22/2008 1:23:10 PM

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I don't necessarily enjoy the chores themselves, but I enjoy serving him. Seeing him happy when he comes home to find the laundry done and dinner on the table makes me feel good and fulfilled in my role. Plus, I get to keep the money I find in his pockets when I do the laundry. Today it was about three bucks!

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RE: chores as a test; your view on those deeds.. - 12/22/2008 3:13:54 PM

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To the OP: I've been doing all those chores for 40 years. At first it was what a "good wife" does and they seemed more like chores back then, but once i learned about this lifestyle and understood my submissiveness better, the "chores" became much more enjoyable as ways to please Hubby. Hope that makes sense, and i hope you find a sub that matches your desires.

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