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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:04:19 AM

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My favorite part was the edit due to the forgotten "s".

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:06:53 AM

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ROFL I liked that S part too.. damn it... now I am laughing/crying again.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:10:32 AM

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Well since you are going to take everything that is typed by me so literal, girl changed her profile, since its obvious any use of metaphors or play on words or what have is totally wasted on you and girl is quite sure someone will have a problem with this statement or my edit of my existing profile. go right ahead.

Stella perhaps you want to go first?

Anyone else wish to do so also?

Why not, maybe if we all do it enough, she will break and crawl to her corner. Well maybe girl might.

Why are you getting so defensive? Relax, breathe.

Girls bets if she searched all your posts, sure she could find fault somewhere about each of you, to poke holes into.
Wow, hey we upset her. Yay. You did. You can be proud.
Not going anywhere though, just know now who to avoid, since girl does not feel helped at all.

Stella you want hard and fast, this is the wrong girl for that. Girl likes being soft and malleable.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:17:27 AM

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I don't think anyone wishes to break you. But there are people on this board who are facing actual literal homelessness. Having taken care of myself and made my own decisions pretty much since I was 18, I would imagine you are very afraid about possibly having to do that even for a short time.

But actually having been homeless (by US definition, living in a battered women's shelter) the thought of being so again scares me a lot worse than not having someone to serve.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:17:38 AM

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We didn't claim to be nearly homeless and almost in the streets. When I posted being nice... and talking about your homeless issue and all that, you didn't try to correct me. Tell me... you defend yourself by attacking? Why not without attitude or defense address what we see as your trying to play everyone? As I said... those pointing fingers. Almost every thread you have posted on, you have gone on about your anger, pain, issues with someone and when people start getting a lil teeny bit tired of it and check it out, you get all mad because we did. ROFl... okay...

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:21:56 AM

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Well since you are going to take everything that is typed by me so literal, girl changed her profile, since its obvious any use of metaphors or play on words or what have is totally wasted on you and girl is quite sure someone will have a problem with this statement or my edit of my existing profile. go right ahead.

Stella perhaps you want to go first?

Anyone else wish to do so also?

Why not, maybe if we all do it enough, she will break and crawl to her corner. Well maybe girl might.

Why are you getting so defensive? Relax, breathe.

Girls bets if she searched all your posts, sure she could find fault somewhere about each of you, to poke holes into.
Wow, hey we upset her. Yay. You did. You can be proud.
Not going anywhere though, just know now who to avoid, since girl does not feel helped at all.

Stella you want hard and fast, this is the wrong girl for that. Girl likes being soft and malleable.

Aszhrae, I didn't start a thread on verification here. You did. Please remember that.

The point wasn't to upset you, but to ask you for a bit of clarification. You've got to admit there are a few inconsistencies.

Please feel free to go right through all my postings on this thread and point out every single inconsistency you can find.

Oh while you're at it, you might care to take a look at just how much constructive advice I have posted for you on this thread, all in good faith.

And you might like to think on a bit more and count how many days that advice came after you offended me on another thread.

I wasn't here to pick holes, but I'm not here to be made a fool of either.

But you know enough of this. I'm out of thread now.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:23:26 AM

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:32:28 AM

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Hrm, if you're taking my post/s as an attack of any sort you're being quite silly (which is still not an attack, more of an observation)

As someone who has taken *multiple classes* on poetry, creative writing, and such, and someone who has been the equivalent of a tutor/mentor for poetry writing... in my experience metaphors need to be *set up* (and a play on words likewise)

I wasn't faulting your use of a metaphor, but the fact that it wasn't coming across as a metaphor. I (and multiple others) thought you were *quite* serious and using the *actual* definition, or at least the more well understood one. There's nothing wrong with using a metaphor, but if you're going to do it don't pull it from nowhere!

"Flowers are always blue"

For instance, what does that metaphor (beyond being a poor example because I've been up for nearly 20 hours) say to you?

Without context preparing it, or revealing it afterward, as a metaphor... it seems to be a silly statement with absolute sincerity.

The issue was not with yourself (though I will be honest, I have taken some issues to heart) but more with making sure that YOU know how you're understood. No matter how I feel about someone I feel that one of the most grave injustices that I can commit is to let them continue misrepresenting themselves (when they're not intending to).

And if you think that anyone is responding purely in an effort to break you down... well, there are other problems there.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:35:37 AM

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How long you been here for, in CM? How long have you been a part of the whole community?

Then look at me and compare.

Mistress in high school, was 18 and in grade 11 at the time, lasted 5 years, girl loved her mistress and loved wearing a collar.
a year in between, trying to make it on my own, what happens, girl gets beaten and left for dead, geez, would you be scared to be on your own, since the only life you have known since was waking up in a hospital bed, then put on a plane to a new location, to serve the present couple.
Following the direction of others is all girl knows.
Is that playing on people's sympathies, NO!
Girl has been isolated and sheltered for the last 18 years and you expect the world of her. Well my world is what the present couple allows me to do. Do you understand. It's the only life girl knows. Understand.
There is no request for sympathy, just sharing with you what is happening now.

Not going to explain my self any more. Wasn't trying to play anyone. But if you any of you think that you have been played with, well maybe it's because you were looking for it, since girl wasn't really being literal with every post.
You think you are being sympathetic, well, girl sees only the barbs within your replies.
Girl's world is here, out with master when laboring, seeking guidance from the lawyer, aid with my health from the doctor. or doing chores around the house. That's my life, remove the doc and legal, and you have my life for the last 18 years.
Girl knows no other life.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:40:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aszhrae

Well since you are going to take everything that is typed by me so literal, girl changed her profile, since its obvious any use of metaphors or play on words or what have is totally wasted on you and girl is quite sure someone will have a problem with this statement or my edit of my existing profile. go right ahead.

Stella perhaps you want to go first?

Anyone else wish to do so also?

Why not, maybe if we all do it enough, she will break and crawl to her corner. Well maybe girl might.

Why are you getting so defensive? Relax, breathe.

Girls bets if she searched all your posts, sure she could find fault somewhere about each of you, to poke holes into.
Wow, hey we upset her. Yay. You did. You can be proud.
Not going anywhere though, just know now who to avoid, since girl does not feel helped at all.

Stella you want hard and fast, this is the wrong girl for that. Girl likes being soft and malleable.

I am not without my faults, but it seems you have dug yourself deeper than you imagined/wanted. Instead of using attitude where it's not needed and accusing US of not helping YOU, maybe apologize or at least explain/provide clarification. I do think you owe Stella an apology. A BIG ONE.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:42:14 AM

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Every time I want to come in understanding and helpful... you say something like that... girl... I am very sorry you have been hurt and I do understand your loss, but I think you need more than a mistress here. I will leave it at that. Good luck in life.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 1:47:16 AM

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Girl's world is here, out with master when laboring, seeking guidance from the lawyer, aid with my health from the doctor. or doing chores around the house. That's my life, remove the doc and legal, and you have my life for the last 18 years.
Girl knows no other life.

Aszhrae... you need to go out and find yourself. Just because you are submissive does not mean that you cannot be independent. You have a few months left to practice being YOU before you're thrust into that situation. So do it, learn and grow with the safety net that you already have in place. Find friends, a community, people that you can talk to in real time, who you can call if you get yourself into a dangerous situation. There are options, but you are not taking them.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 3:17:33 AM

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Girl would like to thank everyone that has replied to this thread, but after speaking it over with a friend, it was suggested that perhaps girl should just thank you all, which is what is being done now.
Since this thread is beginning to go in the direction of personal information that no should have access to but me, my doctor and my lawyer, I will again thank you for all your posts.

*bows graciously, eyes downcast, and wanders off to her corner once more*

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 4:24:50 AM

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I have read the first page.

Stop whining.

Please quote the relevant parts of the post that you are replying to. If you do not know how, then send me a cm-mail and I will tell you. I ask because I get confused by replies without context.

Stop confusing the issue and making it more complex by talking about girl to boy transformation, which has nothing to do with you. It is obviously about you and about male to female transformation. I have also read some of the last page and looked at your profile and I am not clear about your physical status.

I may be wrong, but I get the impression that you are not a submissive but a slave girl. If so you having been beaten to near death may have been a spiritual necessity.

Be upfront and honest to people. Anyone asking for verification is as likely to do so to verify your honesty as to verify anything else.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 5:40:18 AM

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Well Aszhrae, after reading this thread only one thing comes to mind. If you are looking for an honourable trustworthy mistress to serve, you had better hope she does not read this thread. Because honourable trustworthy mistresses want honourable trustworthy slaves.

Lies and passive aggressive snark certainly would not win any points in gaining entrance into my home. Your continued words have "verified" what I felt in the very first post I read.

Good luck to you, I think you will need it.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 5:47:20 AM

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Girl would like to thank everyone that has replied to this thread, but after speaking it over with a friend, it was suggested that perhaps girl should just thank you all, which is what is being done now.
Since this thread is beginning to go in the direction of personal information that no should have access to but me, my doctor and my lawyer, I will again thank you for all your posts.

*bows graciously, eyes downcast, and wanders off to her corner once more*

Its interesting that despite all the comments about honesty you leave out "potential partner/Mistress" from the list.

Please remember that you are not the only person that has suffered challenges in their lives. A strong person uses those challenges and moves forward stronger than before. A weak person sits back and whines about poor me.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 6:21:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rule

I have read the first page.

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ORIGINAL: Rule Stop whining.

Please quote the relevant parts of the post that you are replying to. If you do not know how, then send me a cm-mail and I will tell you. I ask because I get confused by replies without context.
Agreed.

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ORIGINAL: Rule Stop confusing the issue and making it more complex by talking about girl to boy transformation, which has nothing to do with you. It is obviously about you and about male to female transformation. I have also read some of the last page and looked at your profile and I am not clear about your physical status.
Agreed.

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ORIGINAL: Rule I may be wrong, but I get the impression that you are not a submissive but a slave girl. If so you having been beaten to near death may have been a spiritual necessity.
Wtf?!!

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ORIGINAL: Rule Be upfront and honest to people. Anyone asking for verification is as likely to do so to verify your honesty as to verify anything else.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 6:41:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: Rule
I may be wrong, but I get the impression that you are not a submissive but a slave girl. If so you having been beaten to near death may have been a spiritual necessity.
Wtf?!!

William Shakespeare: "There are more things in Heaven and Earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy, Horatio." (Hamlet, Act I, Scene V)

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 7:55:46 AM

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Asz, something in your style of response resonated with me. It's behavior that is referred to as "The Four Horsemen" which is one of the indicators of almost certain divorce in a married couple. Bear with me for a minute. It is a style of communicating that, in effect, STOPS communication. Nothing can be resolved, nothing can go forward as long as someone is utilizing the four horsemen. They are:

1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Defensiveness
4. Stonewalling

As long as you are being defensive (justifying what you are doing or the way you are), stonewalling (refusing to answer questions), showing contempt and criticism (in lashing out at others), your situation will not improve. You will be stuck in the mental place where you are now, feeling hopeless and looking for someone to rescue you.

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RE: Verification: more harm than good - 11/29/2008 8:11:47 AM

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If you tell someone, they might accept it or they might just leave you alone or they might just put you into IC or worst.
You could lie too and the result will be the same, though they might not be very accepting, but most likely someone gets hurt.
Catch22
Damned if you do, Damned if you don't.

Sounds like life as usual.

You are what you are.. accept it for it is a life lesson of some sort to be learned.

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