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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/22/2008 4:05:02 PM

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hi its rishitva would really like if you could teach me the steps

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/22/2008 4:06:06 PM

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Ever use fire ants up your submissives retum? That's one way to really make him scream for mercy.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/23/2008 2:44:24 AM

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This probably isn't nearly as creative as you are looking for but there is nothing like grabbing a handful of hair and pushing her forehead down into the mattress, ass up on knees; then delivering a nice hand to ass spanking while she counts each one. Upon completion, she should offer an honest and genuine "Thank you sir for punishing me." She should then show her appreciation with you by orally worshiping me for an extended period of time culminating in swallowing my seed and again thanking me for the gift I just gave to her.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/23/2008 7:40:08 AM

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Sheesh, this thread is just wanker fodder now...

OP, I respectfully suggest that your focus is misdirected upon the ACTS of punishment. Instead, I suggest focusing on the stages of the punishment.

First, make sure that my woman understands specifically why she is being punished. What act she did, and why it displeased me.

Then the punishment itself. Spanking is obvious, sometimes interspersed with corner time and scolding. Mouth soaping is used for swearing. The punishment should match the infraction as closely as possible - for example, I once had a submissive decide abruptly that anal just became a hard limit for her (no, not during a session). For changing a limit without respecting my control over them, I gave her several hours with an anal plug.

Finally, I tell her that the punishment is over and she is forgiven. But I state that I expect that she will not repeat the same mistake again.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/23/2008 8:28:31 AM

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Title says it all. Also why is it you're favorite?

Any info for the noob is appreciated !

The one that best fits the particular issue at hand.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/23/2008 8:38:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: CapnCut

Title says it all. Also why is it you're favorite?

Any info for the noob is appreciated !

My former owner's favorite was the one he didn't have to give. He preferred obedience over punishing. :)

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/23/2008 8:40:15 AM

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But I see punishment as reward. Imagine the fire ant racing through your colon and only your mistress can relieve that by giving you a hot water enema to flush them out.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/23/2008 8:41:45 AM

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Yeah it's likely the OP means "funishment"

Why does it have to be one or the other? Taking pleasure from punishing and using punishment to reinforce the rules of the relationship are not necessarily mutually exclusive. In the spirit of CM mantra, to each their own: including the OP.

To the OP:

I don't go in much for tasks and the like. In my experience, taking away something that she values is much more effective, and if you can throw in something that hammers home the message that her actions have led to you losing out on something that you value, then you may have something rather effective. Yet I understand Orion's position that where you're going to set tasks, you may as well go the whole hog and make sure it's effective; were I one for tasks it would be something equally as stringent.

To illustrate, I place a great deal of value on conversation, food and wine at a restaurant, and it's one of my must haves that a woman is equally taken by such a night out. Take her to a restaurant and don't allow her to eat or speak while you eat and drink wine: a) she loses out on a good night and is put in her place b) she's aware that you're losing out on her conversation, which I presume you value. I would rather not have to go through this because a good night in a restaurant is more appealing, but when needs must I'm going to to derive some pleasure from exercising my authority in this manner.

P.S. These boards make for interesting reading and there are some useful tips to be had, but the common opinion doesn't mean that they're right and you're wrong.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/26/2008 10:00:01 AM

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my punishments vary. some have already been mentioned. kneeling on rice or a naughty corner are basic but effective. Humiliation too. The teachers favourite of writting out the same thing over and over again, I always hated doing lines at school. Boring but effective. Spanking is also a great favourite of mine and lots of others here.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/26/2008 10:33:43 AM

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It also depends on the type of BDSM relationship you have with your sub. If you are a 24/7, then what you are looking at are actual behavior modifications, in which things like taking away privilages or kneeling on rice can be very effective in correcting a behavior. I'm not in a 24/7, so those punishments would be ridiculous for my husband to inflict on me. (I'd probably just wind up throwing the rice at him). Since our D/s relationship is still more or less in the bedroom, there's a distinct line between "punishment" and "funishment" (great word, btw, thanks for that!). Funishments are playful and usually have to do with extended periods of beatings for me (I'm a bit of a painslut) or lots of cock-choking (I also really like that), whereas the very few times there were actual "punishments" involved in a scene (caning and clit lashing, which for me are NOT pleasant types of pain) it was only because I failed to do a certain task in scene. It is brief, since the point is not actual and total behavior modification, only the flip side to not following through.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/28/2008 7:49:19 AM

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Funishment, what a great term I like it. Says it how it should be

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/28/2008 10:05:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Sheesh, this thread is just wanker fodder now...

OP, I respectfully suggest that your focus is misdirected upon the ACTS of punishment. Instead, I suggest focusing on the stages of the punishment.

First, make sure that my woman understands specifically why she is being punished. What act she did, and why it displeased me.

Then the punishment itself. Spanking is obvious, sometimes interspersed with corner time and scolding. Mouth soaping is used for swearing. The punishment should match the infraction as closely as possible - for example, I once had a submissive decide abruptly that anal just became a hard limit for her (no, not during a session). For changing a limit without respecting my control over them, I gave her several hours with an anal plug.

Finally, I tell her that the punishment is over and she is forgiven. But I state that I expect that she will not repeat the same mistake again.

DarkSteven, what the fuck?!

My mouth would be full of Irish Spring 24/7.....for fuck sake.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/28/2008 10:28:57 AM

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i completely agree with everyone here on the whole 'punishment isnt for fun', that its a failing on both parts etc., but a few years ago now i was in a loosely definied D/s dynamic. he didnt get hugely dissappointed in me when i fouled up, most often than not id get a lecture and nothing more. there were a few occasions when i was punished. each time was OTK, the only time he ever OTK'd me, he reserved OTK for those times and so the psychology more than the pain hit pretty hard. he didnt call it punishment, he never really entered into the vocabulary of a D/s relationship. there was no Master sub titles. we had kinky sex with a degree of S&M thrown in because he was a sadist and enjoyed hurting me. i was defferential to him and considered him my master but he never asked me to call him Master of Sir.

i asked him if he got off on spanking me OTK and he said yes. he was a sadist and hurting me for pissing him off was deeply satisfying. it never led to sex however, that was part of the punishment, made worse by the fact that i knew i had denied him sex through the actions i had taken that had led to the OTK situation in the first place.

the point im trying to make is that for me that system worked better than anything else ive ever encountered. to be made to feel that i have failed, dissappointed deeply is profoundly damaging to me. i am not wired to dissappoint, i hate to fail and it eats up in me worse than any spanking. but a spanking delivered by a man i know is enjoying himself whilst im not, being put in my place and for the whole thing to be dealt with right there, right then and finished with deals directly with whats happened.

i respected him for doling out a hiding, he could enjoy at my expense - there was a symmetry to it that made sense.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/29/2008 6:38:31 PM

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lally, the problem with such an approach is that a dominant who enjoys inflicting pain on a sub who is emotionally upset may well start causing her to fail in order to have an excuse to punish them while telling them how they've failed. And nobody enjoys being set up to fail.

It takes a lot of self awareness for the dominant to be rigorous about deciding if the misdeed really warrants such a punishment or if he's just in the mood for such a game. And if he makes the wrong decision more than a couple of times, he will cause a great deal of resentment in the sub which is not conducive to a healthy, strong and long lasting relationship.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/29/2008 9:10:35 PM

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I like to to tie her up and whip her standing up. It seems to do the trick.

I did have her wear a gag all day because she talked too much. The gag had a candy holder attached so she also had to keep her head straight. It was interesting.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/30/2008 2:49:57 AM

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I agree with you NorthernGent

Well I enjoy administering punishment, and funishment on equal par, and for me it is my faithful cane everytime.

Whether I am emotionally attached to the reason that I punish my slaves, is not of the utmost importance to me, being a sadist I enjoy inflicting pain, whether the basis for chastisement or not.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Yeah it's likely the OP means "funishment"

Why does it have to be one or the other? Taking pleasure from punishing and using punishment to reinforce the rules of the relationship are not necessarily mutually exclusive. In the spirit of CM mantra, to each their own: including the OP.

To the OP:

I don't go in much for tasks and the like. In my experience, taking away something that she values is much more effective, and if you can throw in something that hammers home the message that her actions have led to you losing out on something that you value, then you may have something rather effective. Yet I understand Orion's position that where you're going to set tasks, you may as well go the whole hog and make sure it's effective; were I one for tasks it would be something equally as stringent.

To illustrate, I place a great deal of value on conversation, food and wine at a restaurant, and it's one of my must haves that a woman is equally taken by such a night out. Take her to a restaurant and don't allow her to eat or speak while you eat and drink wine: a) she loses out on a good night and is put in her place b) she's aware that you're losing out on her conversation, which I presume you value. I would rather not have to go through this because a good night in a restaurant is more appealing, but when needs must I'm going to to derive some pleasure from exercising my authority in this manner.

P.S. These boards make for interesting reading and there are some useful tips to be had, but the common opinion doesn't mean that they're right and you're wrong.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/30/2008 8:37:01 AM

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lally, the problem with such an approach is that a dominant who enjoys inflicting pain on a sub who is emotionally upset may well start causing her to fail in order to have an excuse to punish them while telling them how they've failed. And nobody enjoys being set up to fail.

It takes a lot of self awareness for the dominant to be rigorous about deciding if the misdeed really warrants such a punishment or if he's just in the mood for such a game. And if he makes the wrong decision more than a couple of times, he will cause a great deal of resentment in the sub which is not conducive to a healthy, strong and long lasting relationship.

yes i know what youre saying.

if a sadist was constantly looking for an excuse to punish then it would become corrosive - but then any punishment would become corrossive.

in a way, what we're saying here is that a sadistic D shouldnt enjoy the physical catharsis of spanking his sub in punishment because ... why....?

because its partly his failure too -
borederline abusive -
too kinky -
might lead to a top heavy punishment dynamic -

surely that would only become a real threat if theyre regular S&M activities failed to satisfy the sadist.

believe me, im totally with you on this - CP should never ever be used as an excuse to chastise - it would break the relationship down eventually and i personally think that its often the people who havent entirely embraced the psychology of why they are who they are that use punishment as their route to S&M.

in the relationship i described above OTK was reserved for when i massively pushed my luck - and i was a bit of brat back then. i accepted it in the same way that i had accepted it from my dad.

i just threw this in because i do think there is a case to be heard for a sadist enjoying enflicting CP. i dont actually think its realistic to suggest that all sadists dont enjoy some level of catharsis during enflicting CP. - so long as its only ever used sparingly, never used as an excuse - and therefore used effectively not selfishly.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/30/2008 8:40:29 AM

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the thing about this is.,

that if a sub were to say - 'i need to be spanked to be effectively chastised' everyone would roll their eyes and go 'yeah right - funishment fan here!'

sometimes the kink just starts to get in the way of stuff.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/30/2008 8:49:11 AM

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This probably isn't nearly as creative as you are looking for but there is nothing like grabbing a handful of hair and pushing her forehead down into the mattress, ass up on knees; then delivering a nice hand to ass spanking while she counts each one. Upon completion, she should offer an honest and genuine "Thank you sir for punishing me." She should then show her appreciation with you by orally worshiping me for an extended period of time culminating in swallowing my seed and again thanking me for the gift I just gave to her.

aaaaaaamen, lol. i also lack imagination and would often go this route for funishment

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/30/2008 9:12:30 AM

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in a way, what we're saying here is that a sadistic D shouldnt enjoy the physical catharsis of spanking his sub in punishment because ... why....?

because its partly his failure too -
borederline abusive -
too kinky -
might lead to a top heavy punishment dynamic -

surely that would only become a real threat if theyre regular S&M activities failed to satisfy the sadist.

You're forgetting about one thing; emotional sadism. If he enjoys not just the physical activity but also the fact that she is hurting emotionally, beating herself up because she thinks she's a failure yet again, then regular s & m wouldn't satisfy. Since regular s & m isn't designed to mess with someone's emotions. But if he enjoys spanking her as punishment because she's feeling bad emotionally, then that's where the risk lies. The risk of setting her up for failure, punishing for smaller and smaller errors just to get her to be emotionally upset while he enjoys both the spanking and her emotional upheaval.

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