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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 1:19:40 AM

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With me, it was several movies. Any one with Marquis De Sade in them (especially Quills and Waxwork) and Exit to Eden, where I did go out and purchase the book. Before then I was interested anything by the Marquis, but I did not know where to find them.

I brought myself a flogger from a friend on ebay and LOVED the feel of it against my skin and got hooked, so to speak. Now the flogger is gone (the perils of moving, alas) and I am looking to replenish my toy bag.

Shahar

I asked my friend to search high and low for the banned film "120 days of Sodom" to download, boy what a disturbing, wonderful film

I am reading MDS auto biography at the moment, love his work.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 1:21:52 AM

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Ex-partners started my BDSM journey me as the Dominant always to add.

Mentally, the art of manipulation on my siblings

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 2:11:53 AM

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As far as i can remember, all my fantasies were pushing me to BDSM.

i have met a Men on a vanilla site and W/we discussed about the way W/we were enjoying different things in life. He was a Dominant ( wich i didn't knew when W/we first met online ) and one night He told me that He could see a Sub in me by the way i was talking about my behaviors and preferences. He didn't push me at all. He was only talking about BDSM when i was asking questions to Him.

i am curious by nature so, i have search infos on the net and almost all the questions about myself found answers... i have put a name on my '' oh so strange '' desires

Then i bought myself a collar so i could see if the feeling of wearing it was a good feeling or a bad feeling. The first time i had it around my neck, i turned my webcam on for my Friend ( without telling Him i had a collar on ). When my cam went online is reaction was quick and very spontanious

No need to tell Y/you that it lead U/us into some kinky stuff T/together

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my relationship with Him was the shortest of all the relationship i ever had before but was also the more intense i ever had. This Men unleashed the submissive in me and i am still today thankfull for this.

Now that i have ''stepped out of the closet'' i can relate multiple of my past behaviors to submissiveness.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 7:58:33 AM

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'The Three Stooges'. As a young budding Dominant in my formative years, their face slapping, hair pulling, and most of all, the messy, humiliating, pie fights stirred something more than my 'funny bone'.

'Slapstick' comedy was the first 'school' of BDSM that I learned from: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0RdG3vsLM-Q

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 9:59:18 AM

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Early thoughts of capturing women, yada, yada, yada. Reading porn as a teen when I could get my hands on it. THEN I met this woman who asked me to tie her up and spank her. From there I took over.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 2:54:17 PM

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chatrooms on mIRC and the old msn chatrooms.
There I found friends that were subs/slaves....and I found it interesting.....slowly I just came part of it all.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 3:31:20 PM

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After leaving my husband I met a man that introduced me to so much, let's call him JC. Prior to JC I was completely vanilla, well..you can say beyond vanilla .. I didn't even know what it was to have a man perform oral on me. And as much as I only wanted a casual relationship with JC .. the fact that he was teaching me so much made my heart get involved.
JC by no means was nor is involved in the BDSM world, at least not completely, although he is very eager to learn. But prior to either one of us contemplating, or even knowing that we may even have a seed of D/s in us, we had an interesting sexual encounter.

He and I were at his kitchen table talking and having a couple of drinks. One thing led to another and I ended up on my knees pleasuring him as he sat on the kitchen chair, nothing unusual, something that we had done many times before. But this time it was different ... I was deep into what I was doing .. very passionately pleasing him, savorying every bit of his pretty cock .. and out of no where I feel him grab me my the root of my hair as he quickly yanks my head back and he places his face so close to mine that I can feel his breath. "Get me a Beer!" ... my very first reaction was to say "what the fuucc...." but before the words could even slip out of my mouth I had this overwhelming feeling .. I could not explain it or understand it .. but I was so turned on that I was soaken wet from desire. .. Without a single word I stood up from where I was kneeling, walked over to the fridge, opened up the bottle and handed it to him. As I was kneeling back down he stopped me with the next demand. "Get me a cigarette!" without a work, I stood back up, reached over and got a cigarette, placed it in his mouth, lit it with a lighter that was near by, then got back on my knees and finished what I had started. The entire night he dominated me and I never fought it ... I reveled in it.

Not too long after that night I did stop seeing him for a short while to find myself. I had to take a break to really analyze my feelinga .. was it the mental dominance .. or the hopes of punishment if I rebeled? I even played with a Dom that I really was not into, but need to feel it out. It has taken me a couple of years to figure it out .. but I would never change it for anything in the world. This lifestyle has so many levels and so many ways of interpretation .. I'm just glad that I found myself without feeling that it was pushed on me.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 3:58:53 PM

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I was 7 when Disney came out with Aladdin (with Robin Williams), so naturally my parents took me. Near the end of the film the princess was chained to the wall with her hands above her head and that image stayed with me for days afterwards. I didn't recognize those feelings until a few years later when I got on the internet. Then I met an older woman who wanted me to tie her up and spank her. Thanks to her I learned two things A) I wasn't a serial killer and B) tying women up and making them come while they were helpless was going to be a major part of my sex life. The older woman and I were meant for different paths and had to separate, though we still keep in touch. A few vanilla girlfriends and subsequent broken hearts later and I've decided to stick with kinky women. I don't consider myself a Master (who can be a Master of anything at 23?) but with enough time and practice I will be someday, and for now I can live with that.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 4:03:58 PM

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Nothing in particular, though there many memorable ' interests' film, movie and art, going back as far as age five, but I have come to the conclusion, it was not any one thing that made me this way, it is just me, no one, no blame to be laid anywhere, no fingers pointed, I am just kinky and that is that.

I wonder if there is a difference in people that prefer just blind fucking and those that prefer to prolong the finale for the greatest length of time possible, the extended and creative foreplay people, the wind up merchants.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 4:30:30 PM

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Two words: rough sex.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 7:15:11 PM

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I recall quite enjoying being tied up to a pole in the garden as a kid ... other than the earwigs (in England). However, I found out about bdsm when an American guy I was cybering with suggested I would be a good Dominant Mistress. I was intrigued, and hit the research, and realised that yes, this was who I had been all along! However, right from the start I knew I also had a submissive side that longed to experience it as much as to dish it out. I really believed in My Dominance when the same guy acted up one night and I threatened to phone him from Aust to USA. he dared Me to and gave Me his number ... I took up the challenge, put on My best teacher voice and Dommed him over the phone. I could hear and also see on the webcam that he was obeying My every word and that was an amazing surge of power. During the debriefing he said these words that have stayed with Me ... "You can control me from halfway around the world!" That was awesome!

From there ... the rest is history ... well, actually, HERstory

Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 7:28:08 PM

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Sir introduced me to BDSM

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 7:40:09 PM

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The interest in kink was always there probably since childhood. It took a good friend and a master in his own right to see that latent desire and encouraged me to explore it. Now I can not imagine my life without having a strong element of kink!

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/27/2008 10:51:55 PM

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I've always had a prefence for assertive females for as long as I can remember.

That said, it was the Internet that introduced me to the world of BDSM. Or at least allow me to explore it and become familiar with it.

I logged onto a search engine and typed in what I thought were related search terms like Miss Whiplash , believe or not it. Then I stumbled across this word femdom. Typing this into search engines produced more relevant links. Later still I discovered it was short for female domination.

Other discovered terms include BDSM, Gorean and so on.

I came across irc.bondage.com. Once I understood chat room protocols I stopped making a complete arse of myself and had many an interesting chat. Hell, I even had a few really great cyber sessions!

All this was ten years ago.

To date I can honestly say that the message boards on collarme.com are the best research resource on BDSM I've yet seen.

Thanks to all for sharing your hard-earned wisdom.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/28/2008 12:04:17 AM

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My husband who I met at a very young age was a Dominant and he trained me as a submissive,I have been one since.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/28/2008 3:11:41 AM

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My sojourn into Gorean Role Play whilst separately living the Gorean Lifestyle, brought me into close contact with BDSM on line. The owner of one of the MSN Gorean Chat/RP rooms (The City of Vonda) was both a Landscape Gardener and a Pro Domme in Canada. She and I had long discussions on messenger about BDSM and it was her who helped me over come my aversion to the "Apparent brutality" and my "Perceived ideas of the abuse” involved with BDSM. I never had problems with consensual slavery nor bondage (I used to use bondage in sex games anywhere as I did spanking). Things just progressed from there with me realizing that I better learn as much as I could in case I came on a slave who enjoyed BDSM.. I became addicted like so many of my friends are.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/28/2008 7:27:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: GravityPro

I was 7 when Disney came out with Aladdin (with Robin Williams), so naturally my parents took me. Near the end of the film the princess was chained to the wall with her hands above her head and that image stayed with me for days afterwards.

And the bit where she has to serve Jaffa...

I love Disney.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/28/2008 1:04:36 PM

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Not to go off on Reincarnational Theory, but... I brought it with me. I was only a kid in church, having Domination fantasies on the hot female members of the congregation..I don't think I had even reached puberty yet.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/28/2008 4:06:38 PM

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I think it was a digest magazine penthouse variations I think is what it was called.

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RE: What introduce you to BDSM? - 12/29/2008 1:53:38 AM

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For me there was no specific event or occurrance. I can never remember a time when the notion of power play, bondage or dominance in relation to sex was strange to me; it has always seemed completely normal.

I'm always surprised when a friend asks me about BDSM because not knowing it seems utterly foreign to me.

For the longest time, I thought, if I were anything, I'd be a Domme because I have a strong, at times overly-confident exterior but gradually came to realisation about my true nature when I was 19.

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