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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 4:11:30 AM

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what do i really think about the word "princess"? i love being called "princess" ...i've been called that all my life because i'm the only girl out of 5. i was spoiled rotten by both of my parents ...and still am because Daddy enjoys showering this lil girl with gifts - little things like sharing His favorite music. mind you, it doesn't mean i toss tantrums or top from the bottom - it's a loving pet name He calls me.

when i hear it, i get goose pimples, shivers etc etc.

i could see how the word could have a negative ring to it however i grew up as a "princess" so i'm expected to be a lady at all times ...dolled up looking and feeling pretty (i.e. pedi-manicures, salon hairstyles, etc) as well dressing sexy but not slutty. think pampered kitty with diamond collar and jeweled encrusted bowl - that's how i see myself ...the crown jewel in Daddy's eyes. however i can't be the pampered kitty all of the time. being a "princess" also means having that strong leadership quality, determination, independence, strength to handle difficult tasks with grace and style - i'm not waiting for my "orince" to rescue me ...i'll probably be the one who rescues him.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 4:51:00 AM

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we had a big fancy discussion about this a couple of days ago =p
i tend to view the term as a negative. like paris hilton or summat =p
the book you mentioned does sound interesting, though.

i just think of it as like... ugh, those girls on my super sweet 16 on mtv or something. =p they're special for no other reason than the fact that their parents are rich and they're spoiled brats.
or they WANT to be special for no other reason.

i guess, "rehabilitating" the term would be pretty cool, because it isn't the word so much as it is our connotation of it.

if i was called a princess i'd probably be pretty ticked off about it. =p it's akin to calling someone a brat, to me.

the princessa sounds like an interesting read, though. can't read too many books ^_^

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 5:21:26 AM

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For me "Princess" is a derogatory name. We have someone in our office we call "The Princess" (since we can't call her stupid cunt).... she's self centered, demanding, always late and generally never a person you can count on.... so when i hear the term Princess, i think of those qualities and i cringe.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 5:25:04 AM

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oh jeez...i srrsly just choked on my coffee....stupidcunt....lol.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 6:10:37 AM

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This one is actually really funny to me.

I've had the term used in so many different contexts.

I am my daddy's princess. I don't feel that this is a derogatory name in the least. This shows that I am his precious girl.

On the other hand, my uncle also calls me his princess. I never really figured out why he does this but every time he talks to me that is what he calls me.
Before you start getting the incest thoughts into your head...my uncle is gay and is actually not my real uncle. He's my real uncle's partner.

I like being called princess. It could just be because I like being the little girl.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 7:38:57 AM

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The first thing i think of when i hear princess is our mutual friend

When called princess it is a positive thing for me. When being told i am being a princess it is a negative thing.

I don't think anything could change that.

mutual friend says you can kiss her royal ass (and she misses you and hopes to see you soon)

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 7:42:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: charlotteS

Whenever I hear the word I get an image of being in one of those really cheap and obnoxious teenage clothing stores with tight tees and pillows and slippers all saying "Princess" or "Angel" on them. This is a very negative image for me, conjuring pictures of children who are being taught to base their worth on cutesy material objects. I can't quite describe it but ever since the first time I saw these items I have hated them (and I don't hate many things.)

However I was very influenced while growing up by a book called Little Princess where the term was used negatively sometimes but mostly in a positive manner. I always wanted to be the Little Princess, but not because I wanted to be spoiled. I wanted to have the compassionate, optimistic and humble nature which Sara Crewe had in the story and earned the title of Princess. :) So I am sure I could get over my bias of the term if someone began using it to describe me in a positive way. I can even see calling my daughter princess... when I have a daughter. :)

Also I will certainly be checking out that book!

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Sara Carew (The Little Princess) is a girl who walks that knife edge - utterly indulged but totally honest. It was one of my favourite books growing up, see .. we were totally separated at birth!

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 7:43:04 AM

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Sir calls me princess when we wake some mornings, because if the bed isn't just right, I have a horrible nights sleep. So he says it's just like the story of the princess and the pea, lol.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 8:22:11 AM

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I had to laugh, I too have people in my life that are called THE PRINCESS. I Laugh at them also!. It's so funny that when I get called Princess, it is with such sweet reverence, caring and respect, it is a lovely term of endearment. And I believe if I ever acted like A PRINCESS, I'd be long gone out of his life. It's just not me. The funny thing is at home I am more like Cinderella before the ball. lol scrubbing, caring for people, making them happy, etc. You get the picture... lol

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 8:29:56 AM

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When I see the term Princess, I think of the Princess I have here living with us, drama queen, brat, and filled with attitude. Knows what buttons to push too especially when she, as she is right now, wrapped about my feet and sleeping. She is beautiful and a complete darling, all fluffy hair and four paws of Siberian Husky/Alaskan Malamute cross.. She is my princess and I wouldn't change a thing about her either.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 8:34:00 AM

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The person lending me the book calls me princess ... and watches me flinch at the name. I was challenged to see a new way of looking at myself, and asked to imagine a very different type of princess to the ones I had previously encountered. I have seen that other way, but only as an idea not a reality... I still shudder at the word because the thought of becoming a pampered, indulged foot stamping thing was ingrained as something abhorent, I would now adore to see a woman I respected behave as, and be called a princess - in the most positive of ways.

Instead of "rehabilitating the term princess"; you're time would be spent more productively rehabilitating yourself. Why the worry about someone else's stereotype or caricature of a label? There's no difference between this and the concern about whether you agree or qualify under someone's definition of 'slave' or 'submissive'.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 8:50:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: softness

When you think of the term princess ... what do you *really* think?

I don't have an automatic association with the word. It all depends on the context. It can refer to someone spoiled and bratty or it can also be a term of endearment regarding a little girl, or even a grown woman. I guess in the latter example it's a bit too fluffy for my taste, but I don't have any knee-jerk aversion to it.

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If you were/are called princess is it serious? sarcastic? ironic? loving? How do you react to being called it?

I don't think anyone has ever refered to me as a princess. If they did, it would most likely be said in jest or sarcasm.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 9:36:44 AM

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I see a princess could be either
a> The unobtainable archetype of femininity to be worshiped from afar and served with unquestioning loyalty. (ok, courly love concept there... what a pedestal to fall from.)
b> The manipulative apogee of the diva attitude. "Me, me, and all me, nothing else but ME!"

Yep, if I call someone a "princess" it is a complement with a very left handed bitch slap included.
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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 9:56:42 AM

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In the UK, especially south, "princess" is used quite alot as an endearing term, even with strangers, as a greeting sometimes.

Me being the the heart of the country, the midlands, "love" is used more here, lol, "hello love", etc etc.

Yourself and the south are lucky. Here in manky Mancs the term of endearment is COCK.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 9:59:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: softness

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

The first thing i think of when i hear princess is our mutual friend

When called princess it is a positive thing for me. When being told i am being a princess it is a negative thing.

I don't think anything could change that.

mutual friend says you can kiss her royal ass (and she misses you and hopes to see you soon)

Well at least it wasn't wipe her royal ass lol.

Tell her to get her royal princessy behind to Kinkdom.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 11:17:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

quote:

In the UK, especially south, "princess" is used quite alot as an endearing term, even with strangers, as a greeting sometimes.

Me being the the heart of the country, the midlands, "love" is used more here, lol, "hello love", etc etc.

Yourself and the south are lucky. Here in manky Mancs the term of endearment is COCK.

Lol they use "cock" in Dudley too, thankgod I am Brum *giggles*

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 12:19:05 PM

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I tend to think of the term "princess' in a negative connotation.

Everytime I've heard it used by my ums' friends to refer to themselves, they thought it was ever so cute and most of them were spoilt, bratty, and have proven themselves...now that they are out in the real world...to have depended too much on being Daddy's/Mommy's "little princess" while they were in the cocoon of family.

I know that when my oldest um acts up...as she can on occasion...Dad telling her that she's acting just like her friends---as a princess---it usually snaps her right around to being more like the self I am coming to respect more all the time.

Were I to use it with a submissive, it might be in jest or it might be to deride/correct behavior but I doubt that I would use it positively.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 12:29:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge
In the UK, especially south, "princess" is used quite alot as an endearing term, even with strangers, as a greeting sometimes.

Me being the the heart of the country, the midlands, "love" is used more here, lol, "hello love", etc etc.

Coming from the east end, all older males call younger women and girls'princess' as a term of endearment - particularly those they were protective over, like uncles, grandpops, dads or your dads best mate. It was pretty much the norm for me growing up. Personally I don;t believe any word needs rehabilitation, it's about taking whatever word you want and owning it.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 2:23:14 PM

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When I hear the term "princess" I think it's a shame some spoiled women have embraced the term to get everything they want.

My associations with the word are a combination of historical (in which the princesses may had luxeries but couldn't always make decisions say... regarding who they married till Daddy died off) and the qualities I associate with being a classy woman. Grace, tact, kindness, etc.

I wouldn't agree with the women who consider themselves princess but must have every single whim indulged or they pitch a fit. I just consider that childish.

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RE: rehabilitating the term "princess" .. - 12/27/2008 2:40:58 PM

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When you think of the term princess ... what do you *really* think?

4 year old girls in pink dresses...to big glitter shoes with heels...running through disneyland..thinking they are a princess

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