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Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 8:29:16 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		So over my weekend in Dark Odyssey, I was able to attend a class on the discussion of “Sacred Whoredom.” Within this class they delineated “sacred slut” from “sacred whore.”

First let me clearly state that I don’t enjoy these terms and am not bringing them up to try and make being a slut some sort of elitist “special” thing for anyone. Enjoying fucking and sex and being a slut is awesome. You are not a better slut because you consider it a sacred act any more than you are a better Catholic because you become a bishop.

Secondly, for me “slut” is all about the attitude. When I first started asking how I would bring this topic up I started by thinking that it would obviously only apply to non-monogamous sluts. But when I reminded myself of my own definition of slut, I realized that wasn’t true at all.

For me, slut has nothing at all to with the ACT of sex, how MANY people you have sex with, what TYPE of sex you have with it, what CRITERIA you use with your partners. Being a slut for me is a personal attitude towards sex and sexuality. It is an attitude that hungers for sexual interactions, is unashamed of those hungers and actively seeks to satiate those hungers.

A woman who only has one partner she only ever kisses her whole life can be just as much a slut as I am.

This also helped me in that I realize so many people (women especially) find it hard to be “a slut.” They can embrace being “someone’s slut” or being a loved slut, but find it difficult to be bald-facedly an open slut. So by keeping things to a personal attitude level, it doesn’t matter HOW the person acts as a slut…simply that they embrace their slut attitude.

Enough of the caveats and pre-explanations.

Cultures in history have always held beliefs in a diety. Whether it was multiple deities with different aspects amongst them, or singular deities with everything encapsulated within them. Whatever system you use, the basis is that the Gods give life, energy, and everything therein. The breath you take, the love you feel, the pain you have…it is all sprung from the energy of the “divine spirit.”

By being a sacred slut, you embody and share that divine spirit in a sexual way. You use your energy through sexual channels and embrace the other person(s) with it. You allow yourself to be a conduit, to give and receive, of this energy. Sex as a sacred slut adds a dimension of it with a divine flow.

I can already feel the “OK you’re just trying to make being a slut cooler and niftier.” But I sincerely don’t think so. Divine sex doesn’t have to be soft, with rituals, or silks. It can be hard, rough, anonymous. Again, it’s not the ACT which embodies things, simply the attitude and the awareness. You are using your body as a sexual vessel to carry divine energy to the world. You do it on a fairly egalitarian way, even if you are a submissive. Energy simply flows and returns.

For ME at least, I realize this is why I so often have felt empty after a hot slut session. For awhile now, I’ve been enjoying hot sex, enjoying giving that of myself, and yet afterwards feeling like I’d lost something, like I wasn’t as fulfilled as I should have been. I began thinking I needed to find partners who were more into ME and would be more than just a fuck.

But I still wanted just a fuck. I still wanted that energy I received from it, and had in the past received from other people.

I realized the problem was that I was giving myself in that way and it was not being returned. The other person was not opening themselves and being a conduit and allowing the circuit to be completed. The sex was good, the act was good. But the fulfillment of the sacred energy was blocked. For me I think this means that I can have anonymous sex again more fulfilled, knowing not to EXPECT that sort of energy, and it means I can have sacred sex more often knowing I can find partners who can also become aware of what’s going on and complete the circuit.


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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 8:53:23 AM   
miticantenslaved


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Status: offline 		miti reads your words, sees your deep introspection, stands and yells "Bravo!!!!"

skips away, singing.... *i'm a slut, you're a slut, he's a slut, she's a slut....woundn't you like to be slutty too*

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 8:54:08 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Got to admit that for the most part I'm in total agreement.
There is something that's over the top, fulfilling when the divine
is touched on. I think that's what most of us search for then
complain when something is lacking. Maybe this is just a good
definition for chemistry, at least it fits for me.

Q

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 9:44:21 AM   
JohnWarren


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Status: offline 		I liked Janet Hardy's definition. Sluts are the philatropists of sex. They give it away because it makes them happy and makes other people happy.



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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 10:09:58 AM   
Phoenxx


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Status: offline 		When you can have that divine joining it can take something that is incredible and raise it to a magical level.
If you haven’t felt it you really will have trouble understanding. If you have, you will smile and enjoy the flash back.
With the proper partner(s) after sex I get a super charge and have more energy and feel revived.
I think you hit the slut on the sweet spot with this on LA ;-)
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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 11:03:24 AM   
talltxsub


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Status: offline 		i love the quote.....i always knew i was a philanthropist of some kind.

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 11:19:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sacred Slut......hmmmm, how so many things come to mind, mostly hot and sexy things. I would have to say they do exist in many cultures, perhaps even our own?
At one time I did not believe in Sacred Cows, or reincarnation.
That all changed when I was stationed in Asia and noticed "A sacred cow", with a diamond ring on its hoof.

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 11:27:20 AM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		Well being a sacred whore meant that a woman prostituted herself for some religious purpose, if i would want to fuck all i did see would not make me holy, it would simply make me a slut, the sacred whored was temple pristesses their lovemaking a tribute to Heaven itself. The Chldren of such pristesses was called Mainden births and was considerd the children of the Gods. An interesting parales to Jesus and Maid Mary realy.

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 12:09:12 PM   
ExistentialSteel


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Status: offline 		If I don’t believe in a deity, then I don’t believe in a divine spirit that gives a religious description to an act. However, I also don’t think sexual behavior should be labeled in a derogatory way because of current social mores. (I'm not saying you did either because you clearly explained that was not your intent in your opening.)

Thus, to me, someone having casual sex is not working in a divine manner or a slut either, for that matter. The person is being very natural and unaffected by false, societal rules that have sprung from religious and other origins.


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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 12:20:21 PM   
NakedOnMyChain


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For me, slut has nothing at all to with the ACT of sex, how MANY people you have sex with, what TYPE of sex you have with it, what CRITERIA you use with your partners. Being a slut for me is a personal attitude towards sex and sexuality. It is an attitude that hungers for sexual interactions, is unashamed of those hungers and actively seeks to satiate those hungers.


I couldn't have put it better myself!

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Divine sex doesn’t have to be soft, with rituals, or silks. It can be hard, rough, anonymous. Again, it’s not the ACT which embodies things, simply the attitude and the awareness. You are using your body as a sexual vessel to carry divine energy to the world. You do it on a fairly egalitarian way, even if you are a submissive. Energy simply flows and returns.


Exactly. I agree with you wholeheartedly. For me, being a sacred slut (what a wonderfully convenient term) is simply a part of my life. Every act of joining with my dom and husband is a spiritual one. In "The Charge of the Goddess" by Doreen Valiente it is stated that "Every act of love and pleasure are my rituals." This is what I've tried to base my life around. Sacred sexuality indeed does not need to conform to a set preconception. It is slow, fast, hard, gentle, giving and taking in alternate turns. It is whatever makes you feel more deeply connected to root of your spiritual power.

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I realized the problem was that I was giving myself in that way and it was not being returned. The other person was not opening themselves and being a conduit and allowing the circuit to be completed. The sex was good, the act was good. But the fulfillment of the sacred energy was blocked. For me I think this means that I can have anonymous sex again more fulfilled, knowing not to EXPECT that sort of energy, and it means I can have sacred sex more often knowing I can find partners who can also become aware of what’s going on and complete the circuit.


I'm glad for you. I went through a very similar phase in my life. I'd lost contact with the source of my power as a woman, which for me is deeply and inseperably entwined with my personal spirituality. It took a good man (yes, it's you Ty), a lot of introspection, and some time before I could regain my deep sense of the sacred in my sexuality, and later in my daily life. I wish you luck and blessings on your journey. (And thanks for a great post!)

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 12:24:57 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		i just have to coment that your costume and make up in your picture is most adorable and nice, completly unrelacant ofcourse, but werry cute.

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 12:25:34 PM   
NakedOnMyChain


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Status: offline 		Why, thank you!

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 12:35:49 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: miticantenslaved

miti reads your words, sees your deep introspection, stands and yells "Bravo!!!!"

skips away, singing.... *i'm a slut, you're a slut, he's a slut, she's a slut....woundn't you like to be slutty too*

~miti


LOL Miti you constantly make me laugh

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 3:51:03 PM   
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For me, slut has nothing at all to with the ACT of sex, how MANY people you have sex with, what TYPE of sex you have with it, what CRITERIA you use with your partners. Being a slut for me is a personal attitude towards sex and sexuality. It is an attitude that hungers for sexual interactions, is unashamed of those hungers and actively seeks to satiate those hungers.


I like this definition, particularly the unashamed part. I can remember being 12 or 13 or so and realizing that is was "okay" for boys to be crude and vulgar and horny, but for girls it was slutty and bad. It pissed me off. In fact, My best friend and I were so irritated by this perceived injustice we decided we would embrace the label of slut and damn anyone that tried to make it shameful or wrong.

Of course, we went about it in different ways. She started sleeping with boys shortly thereafter, has lots of sexual partners (sometimes more than one at a time), public sex, and had moved on to lesbian partners by the time she was 15. I tagged along, watched, had a thing for seducing older boys/men in "power" positions, masturbated a lot late at night, and remained a virgin until I was 17 and in college. But she was no sluttier than I.

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, it’s not the ACT which embodies things, simply the attitude and the awareness. You are using your body as a sexual vessel to carry divine energy to the world.


I am still struggling with this concept. Part of it may related to the fact I am not very in touch with a spiritial side, so the whole divine energy idea causes a knee-jerk rejection in the back of my mind.

I get sexual energy, chemistry, and the power of attitudes. I just can't make that leap to divine or sacred. I think it is the words I am hung up on.

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For awhile now, I’ve been enjoying hot sex, enjoying giving that of myself, and yet afterwards feeling like I’d lost something, like I wasn’t as fulfilled as I should have been. I began thinking I needed to find partners who were more into ME and would be more than just a fuck.


This resonates with me.

About two months ago I was driving home from a swinger lifestyle event. I had blindfolded and tied up a curly haired cutie and dripped hot wax on her body until she thrashed about pleaded with me. Alternating between a Pearl Dolphin and my tongue, I’d brought her to a series of showy and shuddering orgasms that left me watching her sweaty, twitching body with the satisfaction of a job well done.

A few hours later I took my turn, practicing breathing in through my nose and out through my mouth as I tried to determine if the sensation of a fist sliding into me was more pain or pleasure. As the night wore on a quick jump on the Sybian was followed by the voyeuristic pleasures of watching an in-room primal orgy and deliciously erotic bi-men photo shoot.

All in all, a pretty good evening. So why did I feel so discontented?

It occurred to me perhaps my I-‘m-not-judging-you-honest non-slutty vanilla friend was correct in her amateur analysis. Maybe there was validity in her feeling “concerned” because of my “sexual acting out.” Maybe this WAS similar to an addiction and the current apathy and hollowness I felt was part of that coming down phase leaving me vulnerable and eager for another quick-fix erotic high. Maybe this impenetrable sense of restlessness and boredom really was just an aching loneliness my subconscious had yet to identify? And maybe her theory that using sex in this way would ultimately lead to self-doubt anxiety and had some merit?

Eh, or not.

Maybe my slutty married-four-times vanilla friend was right. Maybe I just needed to have some sweaty yummy sex, with less bells and whistles. Maybe I needed that one on one connection headspace. Or as she put it, "There is no substitute for a good lay."

So now I am thinking LA's explanation is just as plausible though.

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The sex was good, the act was good. But the fulfillment of the sacred energy was blocked. For me I think this means that I can have anonymous sex again more fulfilled, knowing not to EXPECT that sort of energy, and it means I can have sacred sex more often knowing I can find partners who can also become aware of what’s going on and complete the circuit.


Interesting. Good topic - stuff to think about.



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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 4:46:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		a girl loves it when Master calls her 'slut'. it is a term of endearment.not to mention i get all hot n bothered when he yanks my hair and aks, "what are you?" and i reply, "your slut Master".

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 5:11:17 PM   
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not to mention i get all hot n bothered when he yanks my hair and aks, "what are you?" and i reply, "your slut Master".


i'd be getting all hot and bothered too!

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 5:14:48 PM   
miticantenslaved


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LOL Miti you constantly make me laugh


thank you, IrishMist. i do try, at times. being too serious is a hard limit *winks*

i truly did applaud LA's introspection and deep revelations about self. her post was a joy to read! i can only wait for the next video in the series, "Sluts Gone Wild"

~miti

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 5:18:15 PM   
Petruchio


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i'd be getting all hot and bothered too!


I am too, RiotGirl, but it's warm and humid here in Florida.

Okay, I confess: It's hot.

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 5:26:03 PM   
Gomez


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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

a girl loves it when Master calls her 'slut'. it is a term of endearment.not to mention i get all hot n bothered when he yanks my hair and aks, "what are you?" and i reply, "your slut Master".


What can I say...I also use it as a term of endearment; brings the relationship between the two closer when you express yourselves in such a manner.

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RE: Sacred Slut - 1/3/2006 6:42:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

a girl loves it when Master calls her 'slut'. it is a term of endearment.not to mention i get all hot n bothered when he yanks my hair and aks, "what are you?" and i reply, "your slut Master".



BINGO

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