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For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 3:44:38 PM

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...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.
Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention? Or is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 3:49:45 PM

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for me, when i am practicing orgasm control with my sub, and giving her the command to keep still. and she keeps begging for release. and when i finally do allow her to orgasm, how it is off to the races until she finally begs me to stop

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 6:12:07 PM

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I like…

feedback

affection

willingness

kneeling

commitment

oral desires

I dislike…

tension

mouthiness

lying

cheating

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 6:26:32 PM

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I will answer your second question first.

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Or is there something that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

If she says goodbye, that would leave me cold!

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.
Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention?

Overall it is just knowing that she has committed herself fully to me and will be honest and open with who she is, how she feels and won't be playing any games (and by games I don't mean "games" cuz those "games" are most enjoyable!

Physically, having her sit or be by my side, her head down but tilted enough so her eyes are looking up at me gets me everytime. I don't know why this gets to me. It may have to do with certain paintings or early photography that had an influence on me when I was young but it just does and certainly gets me going. (gee, I said me five times in this paragraph!)

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 6:47:07 PM

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I like…
feedback
affection
willingness
kneeling
commitment
oral desires

I dislike…
tension
mouthiness
lying
cheating

I know this is directed at the Masters/Dom's but I had to ask....what kind of tension are you talking about?

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 7:27:55 PM

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I want her to be happy and in love/lust with her roll, I don’t want one that is feeling afraid or trapped and has to submit out of fear. I guess that goes hand in hand with attitude, if the sub/slave is on top of her game she would get almost orgasmic pleasure out of seeing me pleased and would NEVER want to disappoint me (big turn on).

But the big one would be her femininity and seeing her enjoy being a woman. Nothing turns me on more than when a woman acts like a woman e.g. looks good, feels good, dresses and takes care of her self with a little womanly pampering and goes the extra mile by putting on the alluring touches, you know, hair, make-up, clothes, nails, heels, etc. (HUGE turn on) Sure there still would be discipline, punishments, on the spot orders of submission and of course kink. But like my profile says, “The Kink ? that is the easy part, what do you do with the other 23 hours of the day? Ya better like and enjoy one another.”

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 7:46:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going? This is in response to Fastlanes Q in another forum regarding what WE like in a Dom.
Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention? Or is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

Their Devotion! I see their Devotion is immediate feedback of who I am.... My efforts my character is rewarded by their Devotion... In effect... I am in control of their Devotion... I screw up... Devotion is at risk... I grow and excel at being the best that I can be... then their Devotion will grow with it. The trick is understanding that I be who I am not to gain their devotion... but to be proud of who I am in the first place! To beable to look myself in the mirror and be equally devoted to that person... to respect that person.... My girls devotion is second to my own devotion to my self being the best Me I can be.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 7:55:05 PM

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To have her utmost devotion, to have her do her best to take care of My needs without saying a word. The look of approval either from my eyes or verbally telling her and to watch her face gleam with pride.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 8:19:40 PM

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quote:

what kind of tension are you talking about?

Good question, mist, I wasn't precise.

I really meant 'contention'. That's not to suggest I don't appreciate input or debate, but rather acidic arguments over nothing.

Unfortunately the EDIT button is absent on my post, or I would update the orginal.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 8:48:23 PM

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...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going?

Maybe it's just great finding someone who will put up with my shit. After all, how many out there like having a pain in the ass? Such a person can be hard to find.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 9:00:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: Petruchio

quote:

what kind of tension are you talking about?

Good question, mist, I wasn't precise.

I really meant 'contention'. That's not to suggest I don't appreciate input or debate, but rather acidic arguments over nothing.

Unfortunately the EDIT button is absent on my post, or I would update the orginal.

/nods

ahh, ok thankyou

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/3/2006 9:55:13 PM

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quote:

...what is it about a submissive or a slave that really gets YOU going?

The willingness and desire to do. Do what? What I want.

D (owner of j).

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/4/2006 12:43:55 AM

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In order

What I look for first in a slave is the willingness to serve.

Then again, there is a reason most of my posts are in Gorean

Then there is the proper amount of submissiveness.

Loyalty is always a must (even in Poly...but that's another discussion)

Truthfulness.

Communication skills.

Mind/Personality, as they are equal.

Then my physical attraction to the person.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/4/2006 2:32:54 AM

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blushes,

To me I am attracted to or (what gets my motor going) is the attitude/personality of a submissive/slave.

Let me explain what I mean. I have been to many events from the eastcoast to the midwest, as well as a member of many groups and involved in numerous lifestyle functions. When I see a submissive who carries them self well, is not looking to be the center of attention, appears to be secure in who they are - is what does it for me.

I observe people and seek out those with the qualities I just described. After talking with them, it is their intelect , desire to serve and be who they are, that keeps my interest.

Once in a relationship it is about the obedience,truthfulness, and communicaton.

So I guess it is a 3 fold answer from observance to relationship.

I wish you well in your journey

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/4/2006 9:33:49 PM

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I like the TPE. Whether it's orgasm control or seeing how far I can push her into her sensualist role, I enjoy the power of having a woman who is willing to make herself suffer to do what I want and like.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/4/2006 11:55:03 PM

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I also get off on the trust:

She has placed herself in my hands and trusts me to safely deliver her through the experience.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 2:18:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Is there a certain look or a specific attitude that really gets your attention? Or is there soemthing that, when everything is going great, the new subbie does or says this, and it just leaves you cold?

Did some thinking before answering this one and rewrote it several times (there are some things you folks don't need to know about me).

The first thing is usually visual... that first attraction when I see them. Long dark hair, green eyes, a certain kind of softness to their face, something in their expression that leaves me with an impression of tenderness, happiness, kindness. A soft curve here, the way they move or hold themselves... gracefulness is always a pleasure to watch.

Beyond that once I get to know someone it becomes more about their personality, their traits and characteristics. Someone with an active mind, especially a creative mind. I'm always intrigued by artistic ability or musical ability. Someone who reads and enjoys it, and not romance novels but literature... the broader the range the better. Passion is important, intense passion seething right under the surface waiting to explode. I'm drawn to that kind of passion, but its always risky. Passion is energy, a wild kind of energy that is hard to control and contain. Put two of us in a room together and you either get a nuclear melt down or the birth of a star. But then that's part of what draws me to M/s relationships... I want someone willing to give me control over that passion, let me control that it, direct it, channel it, shape it, give it new forms and new outlets. Someone who will let me take part of each of us and create something new from it... like the alchemist and his apprentice. Someone willing to entirely entrust herself to me.

Little things get my attention too. A warm smile, a light laugh, playfulness, a happy spirit, someone who isn't afraid to share her thoughts with me. Someone who makes an effort to please me, to take an interest in my interests, without being asked. Someone who can dream and imagine. Someone who can appreciate Nietzsche.

As for things that leave me cold. Someone who is frequently angry. Who is habitually resentful. Someone who's mind is closed off to new things and new ideas. Someone so ruled by her fears she would rather live in a dark corner than risk venturing outside. Someone who is selfish. Someone more interested in living out her fantasies, than living life with me. Someone who wouldn't pick up a hammer or a lump of clay or paint brush for fear of breaking a nail or getting her hands dirty. A material girl. Someone who seeks out conflict, someone contentious. Someone who starts telling me I can't do something because "that's not how its done in this lifestyle," or "that's not how I was trained," or "that's not how my last master did it." (Pardon, this is my LIFE style, I'll do it any damn way I please... tell me again why are you here?)

I love life... I love it so much I just might live forever. What I want is someone who wants to live that with me, in harmony.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 3:39:52 AM

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quote:

Did some thinking before answering this one and rewrote it several times (there are some things you folks don't need to know about me).

You mean the warden won't let you mention that 3 testicle thing?
Or about the one-legged submissive and her dog?

Don't worry, Patrick, I won't breathe a word.

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 5:03:23 AM

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Like wolfie eluded to. I like knowing the submissive will trust me enough to do whatever I ask, knowing I would not put her in harms way. Total submissiveness to her Dom.

Now honey, take off your clothes and put on this blindfold. Here is a cigarette and go stand against that wall. Trust me, all of those men pointing guns at you are terrible shots, there is absolutely nothing to be concerned about......Tee Hee Hee.

Peas : ( Kevin

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RE: For Doms and Masters.... - 1/5/2006 6:37:35 AM

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For me it is that she gets me, she knows what realy turns me on, knows how to get me there, knows how to keep me there. Its also her huge and suffering heart, she gives all of herself and its all for me. It is a gift that few would understand but she does and I surely do, and appreciate how much it takes on her behalf. To see a suffering sub is one thing, but to think she is only doing it for me, wow that blows me away.

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