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sirsholly -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 6:45:58 AM)
quote: As for RM, I quoted you here because you don't seem to be an arrogant know-it-all. You seem to think folks have a reason to be worried about pissing you off. i in all the time i have been on CM I have never had that impression about RM

NuevaVida -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 6:55:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Horne All the childish mud-slinging in this thread reminds me of just that. A bunch of children wherein direct attacks that have no basis in anything besides one person's opinion are used to discredit opposing opinons. It is a tactic of the weak, not the impressive. No wonder Moderators are needed. Wow. What a crazy thread. And this post just summed up the irony for me. A mudslinging thread about childish mudslinging. It's no wonder we get dizzy around here! [8D] Then again, the topic of tributes is always a hot one. On rare occasion someone is able to explain it in way that brings understanding to others, without the snarkiness, and others express their opposition to the practice in an unsnarky way, too. But...it's rare. I do like the term "instadomme" though, it's cute. I have often referred to insta-subs for those who want submission without putting in effort - just add water and voila, they submit! But that's another topic entirely...heh.

GreedyTop -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 7:47:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: As for RM, I quoted you here because you don't seem to be an arrogant know-it-all. You seem to think folks have a reason to be worried about pissing you off. i in all the time i have been on CM I have never had that impression about RM I agree, Holly... in fact, the very idea earns 2 snorts and a snicker

ftmyersartist -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 9:48:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Infallibility What kills me is all the erm... less than model types that say they are pros. Good god. If you look like sasquatch, you aren't going to get anything from ANYONE... You might want to open your mind instead of your pants. . .a domme's skill is not defined by her physical appearence or your opinion of her personal beauty. It is about the skill in bdsm. . .ya ever heard of that? It's like the pretty people fetish shit but real.

JustDarkness -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 9:49:43 AM)
quote: a domme's skill is not defined by her physical appearence true..but if you pay for it....it gets important also..I guess

Aileen1968 -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 9:54:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Some profiles depicting hot young women are operated... (gasp!!!!) by hot young women. I'm a hot old woman. Does that count?

kiyari -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 1:46:37 PM)
Two comments here, from one who is rather explicit in her Profile that "power exchange" is NOT me. When I get the "Dear Mistress" posts, my new, improved response is ... to quote my hourly rate ($200), with a 2 hour minimum, to be paid in advance. Now, considering that I have NO experience in this, and that it doesn't even interest me, am I selling my time too cheaply? :D Now, a more serious reply: For 'some', BDSM is more FANTASY than genuine desire to submission or other. Rather akin to your avarage Vanilla woman's 'Rape Fantasy'. Such folks are not suited to genuine BDSM, as - to achieve realisation of their fantastical desires, they would doubtless be forever attempting to "Top from the Bottom". Enter the "Service" Top (call 'em Master, Mistress, whatever). You pay for the "Service". jmo on this topic

colouredin -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 1:54:58 PM)
Ohh Kiyari, that post started really well. I agree that for some BDSM is a fantasy, but I dont think that means they are unsuited for BDSM. Many people have 3some fantasies that they indulge in. BDSM is a set of activities. Also 'topping from the bottom' is a perfectly valid way to indulge in BDSM.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 6:45:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavemick63 Seriously,is this site full of instadommes.Almost every 'Domme' I have contacted as asked for a tribute,amazon vouchers etc .Please,are their any true Dominant Goddesses out there.As a submissive male slave I am willing to give all to A True Goddess,that includes everything I own and earn as well as my body and soul.But please,why should I give money to a total stranger after just one email.It gives Dommes a bad name. Patience is a virtue. There are a number of wonderful women here, dominant in nature, and with extensive leadership backgrounds. Some of them are lifestyle, some professional, many are both. Some ask for tribute. In the end, finding the relationship that works for -you- isn't going to be an 'instant' thing... it may take a lot of time. I've been looking, off and on, for almost 4 years, for the person who will be a good fit for me and for my situation -- but I'm in no hurry, because like anything worth doing, it takes work, determination, and patience to avoid settling for the 'Mx Right-Nows' and holding on for "Mx Rights". Sure, there are a lot of things that make the people who will be a good fit for us a challenge to find -- and that's ok. I remember the days of newspaper personals ads and week-long or 2 week long turnarounds for letters to get to know one another. There is such a tendency for pushiness and haste in this internet generation, because the media is conducive to that 'instant turnaround'. It is a booby-trap. Just because you can send messages quickly and talk within moments doesn't mean that the person who is a good fit for your life is going to be in the first, fifth, or hundred and fifth contact you make in this instant-medium world. Nobody is forcing you to send tribute to these women that you aren't interested in. CM is free -- so if you aren't looking to offer tribute to an online-only domina, then don't... keep looking for the woman who is a good fit for you.

T1981 -> RE: Instadommes (1/7/2009 6:52:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiyari For 'some', BDSM is more FANTASY than genuine desire to submission or other. Rather akin to your avarage Vanilla woman's 'Rape Fantasy'. Such folks are not suited to genuine BDSM, as - to achieve realisation of their fantastical desires, they would doubtless be forever attempting to "Top from the Bottom". That is how I became interested in BDSM, only to find, as time and play went on, that it was satisfiying these deep and previously unknown needs I had within myself. Needs that seem to be deepening the more I learn about them,that sort of thing. As to the rest of your post, it seems, then, quite a symbiotic and wonderful thing that for those whose entire lifetime interest in BDSM is merely service orientated - they can safely get their kicks and go home, happy and all the better for it. Good for everybody involved.

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