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cloudboy -> RE: service (1/12/2009 8:32:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lateralist1 Why do men see performing simple tasks for a woman as humiliating? It might be the element of being controlled or feeling like a "slave" when doing such tasks.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: service (1/13/2009 6:30:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy quote: ORIGINAL: lateralist1 Why do men see performing simple tasks for a woman as humiliating? It might be the element of being controlled or feeling like a "slave" when doing such tasks. Now, if they felt that way in their minds, and just did the task, that would be fine. Fantasies are great, they don't necessarily need to be shared, or used to interfere in real life.

Celene -> RE: service (1/13/2009 6:34:46 AM)
[sm=agree.gif] Worthy of being embroidered on a pillow. Any of you fellas able to stitch?

PeonForHer -> RE: service (1/13/2009 11:17:11 AM)
Actually, yes. I have a sewing machine. Got it when I was student and kept having to buy jeans from second-hand shops that were too big for me. Sigh Aren't I just perfect in every possible way?

Venatrix -> RE: service (1/13/2009 11:22:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Sigh Aren't I just perfect in every possible way? It's your overwhelming modesty that attracts us to you.

OttersSwim -> RE: service (1/13/2009 11:46:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer ... Sigh Aren't I just perfect in every possible way? I'd do ya... [;)]

PeonForHer -> RE: service (1/13/2009 11:52:44 AM)
Cheers mate, you're a diamond. [;)]

lateralist1 -> RE: service (1/13/2009 2:06:25 PM)
I prefer the idea of my sub doing things for me because a He enjoys doing them and b He knows I enjoy having them done. Then we both enjoy ourselves.

LadyPact -> RE: service (1/13/2009 2:18:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OttersSwim quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer ... Sigh Aren't I just perfect in every possible way? I'd do ya... [;)] Pictures! I want pictures!

PeonForHer -> RE: service (1/13/2009 2:35:37 PM)
Er, there's the small matter of Otters's fine lady to consider before he and I get busy making those lusty pictures . . .

LadyPact -> RE: service (1/13/2009 4:15:24 PM)
Oh, I can still dream.

PeonForHer -> RE: service (1/13/2009 4:30:13 PM)
Ok - shall I send you a pic of my sewing machine, just to whet your appetite?

LadyPact -> RE: service (1/13/2009 4:41:47 PM)
Depends. Does it have an attachment that looks like a phallic symbol you could kindly wrap your lips around for Me?

PeonForHer -> RE: service (1/13/2009 4:53:06 PM)
Probably. It was made in Germany.

OneMoreWaste -> RE: service (1/13/2009 5:04:05 PM)
So what I'm mostly getting out of the responses is that, for a number of Dominant Women, spending three hours doing housework is preferable to spending a couple of minutes interacting with a submissive. This place is sooooo depressing [&o] And the balls have to be divided between the nostrils, otherwise they'll look like a giant booger.

feydeplume -> RE: service (1/13/2009 5:14:11 PM)
Paying a maid is preferable followed by doing it yourself. The idea of having it done badly and take more energy than cleaning it would have taken and still be a huge chore. ick.

Lockit -> RE: service (1/13/2009 5:25:01 PM)
I want to spend lot's of time with my submissive! That is why he needs to take part... Get'er done so lil domme can play. Don't like to do it... pay to have it done and then there's lots of time to play... Either way... get'er done! You are still going to serve, one way or another... mulitple choice... pay for it or do it... but you are still brushing my hair out. hehe

LadyPact -> RE: service (1/13/2009 5:25:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OneMoreWaste So what I'm mostly getting out of the responses is that, for a number of Dominant Women, spending three hours doing housework is preferable to spending a couple of minutes interacting with a submissive. This place is sooooo depressing [&o] And the balls have to be divided between the nostrils, otherwise they'll look like a giant booger. It's not the couple of minutes interacting with the sub that I think would be the issue. It's more the fact that I like play to be fun, after all of the other things are in order.

undergroundsea -> RE: service (1/13/2009 5:41:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy quote: ORIGINAL: lateralist1 Why do men see performing simple tasks for a woman as humiliating? It might be the element of being controlled or feeling like a "slave" when doing such tasks. I agree with this interpretation. But I expect it is humiliating as bowing to kiss feet might be--it is humiliating if ordered outside of a BDSM context but within a BDSM context it becomes an expression of dominance and submission and pushes one into submissive mindspace. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Now, if they felt that way in their minds, and just did the task, that would be fine. Fantasies are great, they don't necessarily need to be shared, or used to interfere in real life. I think the matter then becomes a compatibility issue. Some people enjoy service for its D/s aspects whereas some people enjoy service for its expression of regard. For some people, the D/s aspect is key and each the dominant and the submissive would want to recognize the D/s aspect of service. Cheers, Sea

undergroundsea -> RE: service (1/13/2009 5:47:24 PM)
quote: Get'er done so lil domme can play. Don't like to do it... pay to have it done and then there's lots of time to play... Either way... get'er done! You are still going to serve, one way or another... mulitple choice... pay for it or do it... I have heard this point mentioned multiple times over the course of time but do not grasp it. This point suggests as if the submissive does not have demands on time. When the two play, is the submissive also not committing an equal amount of time to play? If the play is only for the sake of the submissive, fair enough that the submissive should reciprocate the gesture in one way or another. However, if the play is for sake of both then why does this point apply? Cheers, Sea

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