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i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 8:54:28 PM

zazman23

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i am a new person to this lifestyle and i have a few female subs and i want good ideas for...
1)punishments
2)humiliations
3)teases

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 8:58:08 PM

SirMIkeSD

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If you are new are you sure you are ready for a few subs. You don't sound like you know what do to with them. I would suggest you take the time to learn before you take on several subs and then want us to help you out.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 8:59:30 PM

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I assume that this is all online?

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 9:01:31 PM

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New and a few subs..
ok and what lottery ticket did you win

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 9:15:45 PM

CountrySong

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I suggest you use the search function and look up topics that interest you. Oh and you might want to go take some classes at your local club or at least read up on things. Finally you could always get yourself a dom or dommie i'm sure they would be happy to advise you on what to do with your subs.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 9:30:07 PM

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Go into the forum's and read..some very good ideals and when/where to do them in..

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 9:42:36 PM

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This post here will take care of #2 just fine....

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 10:13:57 PM

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LOL!

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 11:08:51 PM

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LA, I have to admit, that one was funny.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/11/2009 11:13:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zazman23

i am a new person to this lifestyle and i have a few female subs and i want good ideas for...
1)punishments
2)humiliations
3)teases

1. He takes my books away.
2. Not part of our dynamic
3. Not part of our dynamic

Shouldn't you add rewards to your list? That should have been high on your list.

< Message edited by peppermint -- 1/11/2009 11:15:03 PM >

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 3:38:58 AM

wandersalone

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hmmmm interesting profile..... so you are looking for a domme and you will be keeping all of those slaves? Ah the energy of youth :)

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 4:58:26 AM

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Nothing like someone gettin offered action with their wand and not quite knowing what to do with it.

No advice from here.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 5:45:53 AM

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Well, you could try getting to know each of your subs/slaves very well as people and have lots of open honest communication with them, tell them what you need and want in the relationships, find out what they need and want in the relationships and work out dynamics that are fulfilling to all involved.........strange ideas I know.........and the ideas you want would very likely come from that, since different people want and need different things. There's no one size fits all you know.

Oh or you could wait until you get a dominant of your own and just ask her too.....would be another shortcut to try, or you could search threads here on the topics you want help with too. I do not like giving ideas on punishment, humiliation and teasing and etc., because what I think, what I prefer or don't, isn't going to be the same as another. It's about getting to know the one(s) you're involved in the relationship(s) with and everyone getting their needs met and wants as well as much as possible.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 6:24:45 AM

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Perhaps he is the Mighty Master whilst he sits on the dunny

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 6:32:23 AM

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There goes the theory that young male dom's can't get no respect... this one has many... can't find a dominant woman who isn't submissive and needs training in how to dominante his numerous submissive's. Here's your sign.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 6:44:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

Perhaps he is the Mighty Master whilst he sits on the dunny

Thank you ever so much for that visual!

I spit my drink out when I read it. *makes note to once again not be eating or drinking when reading the forums*

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 6:46:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

There goes the theory that young male dom's can't get no respect... this one has many... can't find a dominant woman who isn't submissive and needs training in how to dominante his numerous submissive's. Here's your sign.

You have such a way with words, Lockit lol.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 7:27:00 AM

Dnomyar

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Come on people and answer the op. Im old and have several subs. I would like to know what to do with them. Give the op some good answers that I can also use. I have several Dommes also . How can I get them to quit

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 10:44:24 AM

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Boy, don't you feel like you frigged up with that question? First of all, if you are new, you should learn first. Safe, sane, and consensual...always. No compromises in that area. You only listed punishments, humiliation, and teases. Nothing about rewards or how to handle a sub suffering from sub drop, (aftercare is very important). If you think you may want several subs, perhaps you should start with one. You may well overwhelm yourself. Good luck to you on your journey, I am not a Master and probably shouldn't even post here, but I just wanted to give my two cents. Take it as you wish.

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RE: i'm new and need help - 1/12/2009 11:36:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bamagirl4u

Boy, don't you feel like you frigged up with that question? First of all, if you are new, you should learn first. Safe, sane, and consensual...always. No compromises in that area. You only listed punishments, humiliation, and teases. Nothing about rewards or how to handle a sub suffering from sub drop, (aftercare is very important). If you think you may want several subs, perhaps you should start with one. You may well overwhelm yourself. Good luck to you on your journey, I am not a Master and probably shouldn't even post here, but I just wanted to give my two cents. Take it as you wish.

Just one note.....

bama, not all of us follow SSC. Some find it does not meet our needs in the slightest. Alot of people that are into SM are more into RACK which is Risk Aware Consensual Kink. Means I know I'm going to get hurt but I trust that I will not be harmed.

Trust me, alot of what we do is not sane lol and well whether it is safe or not is debateable.

OP, maybe figure out what you want before you try and play with a bunch of subs. You're just asking to get yourself into trouble. If it's just online then hell do what ever ya want but realize it's not just a game to some people and you can cause serious injury by playing fantasy online if someone is dumb enough to take you seriously and not utilize their own common sense first.

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