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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 10:26:19 AM

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I don't want their money. I want them. All of them, time, real effort, honesty, sacrifice, their submission. Money is a walk in the park by comparison.

...and on a side note, this is just one more example of why the easy path is not necessarily the best path to follow...

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 10:27:11 AM

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My two-pennyworth and where they've initiated the contact rather than you: I've found that quite a few are scammers but that they're not difficult to recognise after a while. I'll be suspicious if someone writes without looking at my profile first (you can tell), if they ask to move straight to messaging or email outside of CM, or if they write nothing about their lives or interests but only give a long list of BDSM pursuits that they enjoy. I've discovered that if you ask, "What was it in my profile that prompted you to write to me?" they usually don't reply.

Sometimes, it's taken a few cmail exchanges. Each time, though, they've written barely nothing and/or come on very strong with Dommie-talk right from the outset.

But, really, it's quite easy. As others have said and I imagine you've realised anyway, if you just ask, politely, "are you a tribute or pro Domme?" - they'll have to reply with a "yes" or a "no". If you get no reply at all, then that can of course be taken as a "no" too. However, no warning in your own profile is going to stop the spammers who are also scammers. These simply don't care who they write to - it's a numbers game and they'll be flooding CM.

Finally, let no-one tell you that you "should know better" and imply that you're a simpleton for even asking. This is a crock.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 10:39:24 AM

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How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?

I think that in fact they are all real people on this site.

Some of them are here for pleasure, some to learn, some because they have a business agenda and some just here to scam you.

They are all quite real though....

Stop and think. I don't know where you live but I'm going to assume that you are here because whatever you seek has proven to be elusive in terms of your town/city. That's fine, but keep in mind that there are people from all over the globe out here on the WWW. You might be the only person in your town interested in whatever you came here seeking and on the web in general there may be hundreds, thousands, millions, all interested in that very same thing.

Just as the amount of possible situations has increased for you, so too have the number of unsuitable situations. You are going to have to take the good with the bad. Just as someone may date a number of people before meeting the one they wish to marry you are going to find yourself responding to a number of people who may not pan out for you. It goes with the turf.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 11:47:39 AM

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I'm real.
I'm looking and have been for a long time.
I wouldn't dream of asking for a tribute.
I want to find my sub as much as you, perhaps more than you want to find your Domina.
If you want a tip I believe in people first and BDSM second.
Take care and good luck.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 12:31:05 PM

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Lockit wrote: Do you know what it is like to kiss a frog???

I believe the PC term is `frenchman'. For the record, I don't.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 12:37:18 PM

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bisubboy1 wrote:
I have been on this site for a few weeks and have written back and forth with a few Dommes. To be blunt it seems like all the Dommes on this site are only interested in milking desperate subs for their money.

There are plenty of genuine Dommes out there and eventually, you'll get better at spotting the ones who want tribute from their profiles rather than a couple of E-mails into the exchange.

But, in a city the size of Chicago, there must be plenty of places you can go to meet Dommes in real life. Join a local group and see who's there. Get to know them as people and see what happens.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 1:38:51 PM

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I confess it freely, I have asked next Saturday's playmate for tribute! A little bag of those Lay's Ketchup chips and some of the Canada Dry Green Tea Ginger Ale.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 1:42:34 PM

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... wish I had a dollar for every time this whine gets posted ... sorry, its tedious

if you're connecting with the wrong people, you might look at what the common denominator is there (uhmmm.. YOU), make better choices.. read carefully... and I think you'll find that most scammers tend not to post in the forums...

and do a search here, you'll find a ton of threads on this subject...

we can't solve this for you, its a common complaint though

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 1:44:00 PM

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There are as many lifestyle Dommes as Pro on this site..just weed them out.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 1:55:22 PM

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I do ask if a man has a job and an income, because I work a slave in my home, by and large. That means he's going to be driving to me, and that means he needs to be able to afford the gas and time off work to get here, and if he can't, then that is going to put a serious crimp into us really having any fun at all. I don't demand tribute per se.

Now, if he notices when he is cleaning my dresssing table that I am very nearly out of perfume, sees what sort I wear, and decides to go buy me some and present it as a gift, I will be delighted not because it is a gift or because it is worth X amount of dollars but because there was some thought and observation of my needs and potential wants.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 3:34:47 PM

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How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?

Your head - the bit with a face on the front of it which is situated on top of your neck - contains an organ which is known as a brain.

Please don't believe the rumours, using this organ by engaging in an activity known as thinking isn't dangerous.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/12/2009 3:53:40 PM

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And I will add yet another spin . I am most definitely not a scammer . I seek a realtime , longterm conection with someone who happens to be a sub . Thus I have spelled out my parameters carefully in my profile .

    Yet - as most Dommes on here have experienced - all kinds of folks outside those parameters contact me anyway . Other people's husbands , way too young for my comfort , and on and on .

    If there are some of those who happen to be local , and also appeal to me on several levels , and are persistant in wanting to be with me with no expectation of a relationship - then yeah , they will pay for my time and efforts .   And my experience thus far has been that no one has left unhappy , or feeling ripped off !

      If you seek an LTR , and don't fill the bill of the Domme you're trying to appeal to - then you need to have something to exchange - be it tribute , or services that she values. No one rides for free !

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/13/2009 11:21:07 PM

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I have been on this site for a few weeks and have written back and forth with a few Dommes. To be blunt it seems like all the Dommes on this site are only interested in milking desperate subs for their money. I am a sincere sub looking for a long term relationship with a real Domme, but I am very skeptical when after one or maybe two emails a woman that knows nothing about me or me about her is asking for a tribute.

How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?

Thanks!
b.

I suspect you don't read their profile carefully. The pros will always use code words to let you know.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/13/2009 11:32:26 PM

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Fast Reply - Block, delete and ignore any messages asking for money if you don't want to pay to play. Go out and meet people in real time face to face if you want to have a real life experience.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/13/2009 11:38:44 PM

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i feel sorry for the OP . i do think men are being exploited by Dommes on this site and its disgusting. Why dont the Dommes get a real job and work for a living. it might be smaller chippings but at least its honest and non exploitative
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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/13/2009 11:43:14 PM

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Many of the Dominas on CM are Lifestyle, some are Pro and some are both. It is your responsibility to communicate well enough to make your wants, needs and limits known. Blaming all for the behavior of some is foolish and immature.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 3:56:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: bisubboy1

I have been on this site for a few weeks and have written back and forth with a few Dommes. To be blunt it seems like all the Dommes on this site are only interested in milking desperate subs for their money. I am a sincere sub looking for a long term relationship with a real Domme, but I am very skeptical when after one or maybe two emails a woman that knows nothing about me or me about her is asking for a tribute.

How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?

Thanks!
b.

I suspect you don't read their profile carefully. The pros will always use code words to let you know.

I can't say I agree, Azjojoba. I've come across a fair few that have disguised themselves pretty well in their profiles.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 4:37:39 AM

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Do sub males who complain about Pro-Dommes realize that for every FemDom there must be dozens of 'sub males' who want to treat us like free internet whores? The dreaded "Do Me" subs are everywhere. These are the men who hound us to death wanting a woman to make all their dreams come true without putting forth any effort whatsoever. They can't even be bothered to write in complete sentences and never, ever speak about anything other than kink. There are days when even *I* feel like answering "Pay me for my time and I'll talk to you about this. Otherwise, piss off." And I think I'm one of the nicer, chatty-er people on here. The problem comes from SO MANY men who can't figure out how to treat a Domme like a WOMAN first and (as someone else said so well before) NOT like a life support system for a toy bag. (I do so love that discription!)

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 5:31:18 AM

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Women have been exploiting men for their money since forever and men have been exploiting women for their bodies since forever. and the world keeps going around and around. grab a tissue and dry your eyes boy, and grow a spine it aint changing for a while.

Disclaimer: naw u should know I aint' talking about every1.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 5:51:47 AM

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... wish I had a dollar for every time this whine gets posted ... sorry, its tedious

if you're connecting with the wrong people, you might look at what the common denominator is there (uhmmm.. YOU), make better choices.. read carefully... and I think you'll find that most scammers tend not to post in the forums...

Yep. Any time I've cared enough to really check, I've always found that guys like this are chasing women who post "model" or "pornstar" photos on their profiles. If the photo is of the woman herself, she's inevitably a pro domme or a tribute domme. If it's not a real photo, she's a scammer.

Most of the time these guys don't read the profile either, they just write to these "women" with their dicks in their hands and expect something good to come of it.

Entrapment is a common strategy for predators and deceivers in nature as well as in human affairs. If it looks too good to be true, it almost ALWAYS is. And if you want a real person, LOOK for a real person. Not a fantasy.

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