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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 5:59:19 AM

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Why aren't you smart enough to figure this out for yourself? Your 35 years old and can't separate between scammers and the real deal.

This has nothing to do with intelligence, or age. It's a matter of common sense, which is something people are not born with. They gain it (if they choose) from experience, and from others guiding them away from pitfalls.

I don't think many 35-year-olds on this site have much real-time experience with WIITWD. It's up to the rest of us to give them more than pornography (and, um, bitter posters) are willing to provide.

I agree with everything up to the last sentence. It is not up to me to give them anything.

If someone you have never met demands you send them money online and you can't see that it is most likely a scam, then you should not be on the internet.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 6:26:38 AM

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MsStarlett said: The problem comes from SO MANY men who can't figure out how to treat a Domme like a WOMAN first.

MistressKuma said: Women have been exploiting men for their money since forever and men have been exploiting women for their bodies since forever.

It's thought provoking to see those two lines in close proximity. I do often wonder if the root problem is that the base assumption of such men is that in D/s there's a straightforward, role-reversal, going on. Dominant women, they may believe, are what standardly dominant men were like, say, a century ago (minus the dicks).

(Caveat: I'm not targetting any particular submale here.)

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 6:31:24 AM

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I have been on this site for a few weeks and have written back and forth with a few Dommes.

How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?
Thanks!
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Welcome to the Forum and to Cm, bisubboy,
And well you learned it yourself,
Live & Learn.

In the jungle called Bdsm,
there are all sorts of Dominants,
so I wish you a happy hunt .

just don't generalise, look further down the road.

I wish you enough.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 6:52:04 AM

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I agree with everything up to the last sentence. It is not up to me to give them anything.

And yet... as a practical matter, you are almost always helpful, kind and considerate of the OP when you do post. I don't mean someone's standing with a gun to your head saying how much you owe. I mean, who's going to tell people if we don't? The porn industry will. I know you get this, because, despite your avatar, you're one of the most unbratty posters on the site.

(Yes, I realize I'm giving you one hell of an opportunity for potential replies here.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/14/2009 10:59:10 AM

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Yea, I get it

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/15/2009 7:22:54 PM

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How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?

Thanks!
b.

Does being a pro make someone a scammer? I'm not a pro but I don't have problems with those that are. They provide a service.

I'm one of those real people you're talking about and this is my first day here on collarme. After getting swamped with mail I can offer you some advice with how to separate non pros from pros, at least in my case. The non pros will contact you before you contact them. That's what I've decided to do. Instead of weeding through hundreds of messages that say almost nothing, from guys with nothing in their profiles, I am going to do my own searching for men by using the search function and by reading the forums.

Those guys with nice profiles and/or forum post will get my attention. (I understand the no picture thing so I won't hold that against guys)

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/15/2009 9:15:14 PM

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In the end Lifestyle Dommes and Pro Dommes all get cared for financially and/or otherwise by their slaves. The difference is just semantics. One may initially sound better than the other but in the end its the same ball of wax.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/15/2009 9:19:10 PM

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In the end Lifestyle Dommes and Pro Dommes all get cared for finacially by their slaves. The difference is just semantics. One may initially sound better than the other but in the end its the same ball of wax.

Really? So I can quit my job and quit college? Wow, this is easier than I thought. :-O

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/15/2009 9:20:45 PM

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Not necessarily all of that. But I don't know any slave that does not do something for their Domme...especially if they really love her.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 3:03:56 AM

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bisubboy1 wrote: How do you separate the real people on this site from the scammers?
Loliita wrote: Does being a pro make someone a scammer?

No. But not everyone who asks for money here is a pro.

beeble.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 3:05:43 AM

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LunaVenus wrote: Not necessarily all of that. But I don't know any slave that does not do something for their Domme...especially if they really love her.

Well, buh. I don't know anybody (kinky or otherwise) who does not do something for their partner. Especially if they really love them.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 3:26:16 AM

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All I know is that I must be doing something terribly wrong. No one has offered to keep me in a lifestyle in which I would like to become accustomed!!

I see alot of posts and a few threads, about how insulted some women are over things that either don't even register on my insultability scale or I just look at and go "meh, consider the source" and move on. But the one thing that does seem insulting as hell, as a woman of 2009, is that a large number of hetro women from both sides of the slash seem to feel it is either their male slave's, or male dominant's, duty to provide for them financially. All behind a thin veil of either playing the ubergoddessoftheuniverseyadayadayada card, or only serving one master card, OR, she will be working by staying home and taking care of all my needs. Well great, you wanna be a goddess show you've got a brain and get an education and a real job. If a guy WANTS you to stay home, good gig but I hope he is responsible enough to make sure you're taken care of if one of you ends it or he dies. Staying home and taking care of a house is not a full time job unless you've got half a dozen terrors running around. Part time at best.

Yeah, I know my opinion isn't the most popular and yeah, I know people on here that I like and have some measure of respect for that are doing it and apparently it works for them. I just get annoyed when I see the females either dominant or sub/slave treating the males, either dominant or slave, as somehow lesser men, for not wanting to take care of their priceless female ass so they can sit on it at home. It is the expectation of finanical support that I find insulting to both genders. If my opinion is upsetting to some women, I just assume I've hit a nerve in their own lazy world. Myself, I would rather work and KNOW I've got a retirement and a home regardless of others. Unless a slave comes to me wealthy, I will also demand she work for a living and have health insurance along with a savings and retirement plan, because I am not wealthy or irresponsible.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:00:53 AM

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I detest staying at home. It's BORING AS HELL!

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:28:33 AM

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Thank god for you La Tigresse, at last a woman who acknowledges partial responsibility belongs to women or the Pro Dommes for the mess that male subs are in . Mind you there are male subs who have messed with Women too. it goes both ways. i agree the expectation of financial support is just ludicrous , it may not be a popular view but if the Dommes actually did something respectable instead of behaving like leeches they might actually find more fulfillment. Why does fulfillment come down to making big bucks. Dommes like that are very shallow. But the guys play a role in it too. As long as we pay them we are feeding their ego. Well ive stopped , thankfully.
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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:33:10 AM

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lobodomslavery wrote: Well ive stopped , thankfully.

Good on you, kevin. I'm sure that was the right decision.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:33:25 AM

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i should emphasise the vast majority of Pro Dommes on this site are honourable professionals making a living. unfortunately there are a section of exploitative Pro Dommes and they drag down the name of all the good Pro Dommes
kevin

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:35:52 AM

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Whoa whoa whoaaaaaaa buckaroo!!! Do NOT turn my words into a bashing of pro dominant women. That is NOT what I was tryig to say at all. It may not be my thing, but yeah for the women that do it.

I realize that it may seem like that is the direction I was heading for anyone on either side of the equasion that is sensitive about the issue. But it isn't. A pro is a business woman. I was talking about the more subtle, relationship type issues I see floating around.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:38:08 AM

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In the end Lifestyle Dommes and Pro Dommes all get cared for finacially by their slaves. The difference is just semantics. One may initially sound better than the other but in the end its the same ball of wax.

Really? So I can quit my job and quit college? Wow, this is easier than I thought. :-O

No silly, twue pro dommes quit their job and work their way through college being horrible, horrible people.

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 4:42:32 AM

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im not bashing Pro Dominant women , im just laying out the reality. there are bad Pro Dommes everywhere, there are good ones, there are excellent ones. There are bad subs and good subs. Wherever there is money involved there will be those no matter what trade they practice that will exploit others. Thats the reality unfortunately. Pro Dominant Women are no different
kevin

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RE: Tributes and Genuine Dommes - 1/16/2009 5:17:16 AM

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I sometimes require a tribute - a greeting card of the submale's choosing sent to Me by snail mail. Now a card can be as inexpensive as 25 cents or as expensive as 5 dollars, and postage is only a few cents (depending on where it is mailed from). Its AMAZING how many men will promise Me "anything" one moment, and will not carry out that one requirement.

Who's fake now?????

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