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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/4/2009 7:51:47 PM

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That really doesn't have anything to do with chastity though. In a D/s based femdom relationship of course the focus is on her desire, but if she won't indulge in his primary kinks they wouldn't be in the relationship would they? At least, not if they were being smart about things. Submission isn't supposed to be a negative thing where you don't get the things that you need to feel happy.

That's neither here nor there though really, since the question was about why people enjoy chastity. I'm not sure how topping from the bottom came into this. I get off on chastity to some extent because my kink is control. Wearing something that restricts your genitals can make a person feel very much owned. The Domme I spent the last couple of years playing with...her kink is control. Having a guy in a chastity device and carrying the key around on her belt gets her off. So in her case...is it not about her pleasure?

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/4/2009 8:21:58 PM

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Exactly what I was saying.

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/4/2009 11:29:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: steffie
None of which works if the man WANTS to be kept locked up. Ew. Then it's about his fantasies. Then who is really in control?

I dunno...I'd rather deal with a man whose fantasies matched with mine. If BOTH parties desire it then what's the harm? There is a difference between a submissive and his/her dominant having a common kink and a wanker just wanting to be locked up. If a dominant does said kink JUST to appease the submissive's want than yeah, perhaps the dominant isn't in control. But I don't think that's what anyone said here.

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/5/2009 10:06:58 AM

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My post was judgmental in one regard only: against "submissive" males who top from the bottom.

But you equated wanting a particular activity or form of play with topping from the bottom and that's just nonsense. I want to be kept in chastity. I want to be given orgasms. I want to be spanked. I want all kinds of other things. My Mistress knows that I want all of these things and she gives them to me *on her terms*. I don't tell her what to do to me: I don't top from the bottom.

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My point was quite simply that if a man is truly submissive he follows what his Woman wants. He focuses on her, not his kinks. He should be devoting himself to her kinks.

OK, yes. But why does that mean that he can't look for a woman who shares his own kinks so that everyone's happy? Of course, if my Mistress became interested in something that didn't do much for me, I'd try my best to accommodate that. But what's wrong with a couple who have basically the same kinks?

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Placing a male into chastity should be her idea, not his. It should be for her pleasure, not his. Otherwise, he is leading the relationship, not her. She's merely playing at being a Dominant, while he is actually pulling the strings.

I disagree strongly. My being in chastity was my idea. I suggested it and explained why I was interested in it in a way that was appealing to her and she decided to experiment with it. If she hadn't found it appealing, she'd have said so and that would be the end of the matter.

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Guess I'm just a strong believer in Female-led relationships being led by the Female.

But that doesn't mean that the submissive has no input at all.

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/5/2009 10:19:44 AM

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Anytime someone refere's to a man/penis as a pathetic, worthless... whatever... I tend to get a little bothered by it. If that is someone's kink or part of their dynamic's I am all good... I have used some terms in play. Yet when everything they say is around this thought that a pathetic submissive male is topping because he wants something in a relationship and adds those words.. I get rather protective, defensive and offended for the men. If someone doesn't like men... doesn't like a penis or a topper... fine... but this is a board and a world filled with them and we need to learn not to disrespect people so blantantly.

I didn't see female submissive's being called names because they might like chastity or even top. I may call someone a topper... or talk about trolls or wankers... but I am not going to come on a thread where someone is asking a question and refere to their gender as a pathetic, worthless anything.

So beyond the whole chastity and d/s aspects, this is what made me ask questions and respond as I did and I still do not believe it has been addressed and I won't expect it. But I sure as hell won't pass up the opportunity to call someone out when they call men names for something they like, especially when the name caller enjoyed some aspect of it herself.

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/5/2009 10:46:30 AM

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http://www.tickleberry.co.uk/p/male-chastity/birdlock-silicone-chastity-device/chs053.html

This new silicone Birdlock chastity device looks very interesting. i'd be interested in hearing its pros and cons from anyone who has tried it out.

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/6/2009 2:46:35 AM

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whitman wrote:

http://www.tickleberry.co.uk/p/male-chastity/birdlock-silicone-chastity-device/chs053.html

This new silicone Birdlock chastity device looks very interesting. i'd be interested in hearing its pros and cons from anyone who has tried it out.

This is what I wrote on Fetlife about the Birdlock, though I emphasize that I've never seen one in the flesh, so to speak.

beeble.

From looking at the pictures of the device, I have two concerns. One is that, while 'no pins or spacers' is presented as a positive feature, to me it says 'one size fits all' which, of course, really means 'one size fits nobody'. I wear a CB3000 and one thing I found when I started wearing it was that, if I used a short pin to make the thing more restrictive, I'd come (inside the cage) as soon as I got horny. With a CBx000, that's easy to solve; with the Birdlock, you'd be sunk.

Second, (and I can't think of a more delicate phrase) the pee hole looks rather small. The larger hole in the CBx000 means that it's both easier to pee out of and easier to mop the inside with paper when you're done. With the Birdlock, it looks to me like more pee would collect inside the device and it would be harder to get it out.

The softer construction also doesn't look so good. It may well be more comfortable but, depending on how soft it is, it might be possible to get a fair amount of stimulation by squeezing and rubbing the cage.

But I should emphasize that all my comments about the Birdlock are just from looking at the photos and description on the Tickleberry site.

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RE: Chastity Devices - 2/7/2009 3:33:23 PM

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If the hole is too small, perhaps it can be enlarged through drilling. Your sizing concerns seem legit, though. I look forward to reporting on this device soon. I am decent sized, so I do hope it's not too small. Not worried about orgasming with it on. I need a pretty good amount of stimulation to get me to that point. Some guys though, come rather easily. They might be able to climax while wearing a soft device.

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