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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 1/24/2009 6:38:49 PM

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Let him only able to do it online. That way, there is no way, he will get any satisfaction.

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 1/24/2009 7:09:23 PM

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ha ha Great idea! Well, as it turns out, he was having sexual relationships with the women he claimed were only "play buddies." Yup, spoke with one of them today. So, while there may be those who top without sexual energy, this guy is NOT one. He's just a garden variety liar. I am sure he will unhide his CM profile shortly to hunt for new prey, so if anyone is interested in a reference I'm happy to give it on pm.

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 1/26/2009 1:45:41 PM

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I think and I am a sub but if he is a chastised sub, then it's your say on when he can take it off or have anything to do with "your" pecker

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 2/16/2009 6:54:08 AM

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Thank you both for your thoughts. I respect his desire to top and don't want him to be unhappy. We are both negotiating. My question has more to do with whether the switches here believe that topping can truly occur without sexual undertones. Topping, at least for me, as inextricably intertwined with eroticism and emotional attachment.

Topping is different for everyone, and it depends on the sort of person you are. There are those that can distance themselves from their genitals.

Topping sex does not make m'dear. Just my thoughts...

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 2/18/2009 6:42:01 PM

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The man I speak of is using a new name here. Contact me for details if you are interested.

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 2/19/2009 9:09:34 AM

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Personally I think that if there is sexual overtones and he is in chastity, You are actually asserting more ownership over him then if there was no sexuality involved. He may be aroused but is unable to break his chastity. You win.
I'd rather have them struggle... and I like the idea of Topping someone who is Topping someone else.
That's just Me though.

Good luck!

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 2/19/2009 9:29:45 AM

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That's a really good point. I agree wholeheartedly.

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 6/28/2009 9:51:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: redheadedvixen

My sub in chastity wants to top others. I say his chastity means very little if he is engaging in the exchange of sexual energy with others, regardless of penetration. He says he is a switch, topping is a part of his personality, he bottoms only for me, and that the play is not sexual for him. Thoughts? Thanks.

I've always been jealous of those who can both top and submit and not have any conflict within themselves.

Women often tell me I'm a Dom in subs clothing...nothing could be further from the truth. I told a Domme some years back, if she ever expected me to dominate her, we'd both better have all our insurance paid up because one of us was going to crack a rib from laughing our asses off if I did.

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 6/28/2009 10:14:01 AM

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Domination/topping and sex are totally different things for me. I have dominated all sort of partners who did nothing for me sexually, but they were fabulous masochists, and we had a wonderful time together. If you are concerned about who he is playing with, why not approve his play partners first?

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 6/28/2009 10:17:03 AM

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That should of been discussed and negotiated before you accepted him as your sub.

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My sub in chastity wants to top others. I say his chastity means very little if he is engaging in the exchange of sexual energy with others, regardless of penetration. He says he is a switch, topping is a part of his personality, he bottoms only for me, and that the play is not sexual for him. Thoughts? Thanks.

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RE: Chastised Sub/Switch Wants to Top Others - 7/4/2009 11:01:24 AM

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The solution here is for him to top only sub males, assuming he's straight. Then it would be sheer top space and sadism to indulge, and not sexual energy.

As far as throwing him out because he has been having sex with others before you two agreed to have a long term relationship? Wrong. Unless you had already committed to being exclusive, you didn't have the right to demand he act as your submissive before you negotiated that he was to be yours.

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